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The Active Ones Take It All

Hey, you! Yes.. you! Are you still delaying that wonderful idea you may have been nursing for a while now? Have you been hesitating on starting that business, journey, career, course, or work you have  to do?

Have you identified a favorable opportunity, but you've not been able to utilize it because you're thinking too much about it? Then this article is for you. I want you to bear this at the back of your mind: "The active ones take it all."

Life offers everything to the ones who are active. Life doesn't care about your intention or what you're thinking of doing. It cares about what you're doing!

Let's say there are two people who intend to start a similar business, let's say it's a small restaurant. One of them has been nursing the idea for a long time and is very passionate about it. He keeps thinking and thinking of how to start up the business and get everything ready but has done nothing yet.

The other one also nurses the idea though he…

The Fear Of What Others May Think

always afraid of what people think?

A girl played a prank on me recently. When I gave her my phone, she downloaded her profile picture on Facebook, logged into my Whatsapp account and changed my own profile picture with hers without my knowledge.

I didn't often log into my Whatsapp and the few times I did, I didn't bother to check my profile picture, so I was oblivious of what had
transpired for some days. It was when I started getting messages like "Is that your wife? " "You're now married? " "Who's that girl?" etc that I came to realise that.

Initially, It appeared to be something embarrassing and surprising at the same time. I started thinking about questions like "What will people think?" "How am I going to explain myself?" "How would people see this?" "What would they say about this?" And other questions like that.

But then, I carefully watched my thoughts and looked at them critically. Why was I concerned about what others would think? If they thought she was my girlfriend, then so what? If they thought I was dating her, so what? If they thought anything, what's my concern with it?

Why was I too concerned about what others would think? Why was I concerned about explaining myself and proving anything to anybody? What was this need to get a certain approval from others?

It was totally baseless. There was no reason to try to explain anything to anyone and I saw clearly that there was absolutely nothing wrong with that. People can always think what they want to think, but who cares?

This fear of what other people may think about us really keeps us from being ourselves. The funny thing is that no matter how hard you try to gain people's approval, there will still be some people who will say something different about you.

The main thing is that you know yourself and what you're doing. Allow people to think anything they want to think, it's actually none of your business and there is nothing you can do that will force them to think of you in just one direction.

So, do your thing and don't care too much about what others may think. The time wasted in thinking of what others may think can be used to do something more productive. Let other people to do their thinking and focus on doing your thing and doing something that will benefit the society.

The only person you should be trying to prove anything to is YOURSELF! Prove to yourself that you are limitless. Prove to yourself that you can accomplish some set goals. Prove to yourself that you're smart. Prove to yourself that you're righteous, devout and holy. Prove to yourself that you're unstoppable.

At the end of the day, your conscience is there to tell you who you are. It's not dependent on what other people say, it's dependent on you and you alone.

In conclusion, I enjoyed the prank. It helped me learn about some of my thought processes that seemed outdated. I understood that there were bigger things to do with my time than try to explain myself or to prove anything to anyone.

Free yourself from what people may think about you and free yourself to be truly who you are.

It was an enlightening shift in perspective.

-Nigel

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