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They Owe You Nothing

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The moment you begin to get the point that other people owe you nothing and therefore develop the mindset of working towards whatever you want to have in this life, the better for you. It's so common these days to hear things like: "My uncle has a lot of cash and yet he's not willing to help me," "My sister is a manager at a big company and she hasn't even given a job role," or even something like "I'm related to him, but yet he hasn't done anything for me even though he's doing very well." Even in relationships, people behave as if their partners owe them happiness always by saying things like: "I'm his lover and since he won 2 million naira, I hope to get a million," "He or She doesn't do everything to make me happy," or "He doesn't do as much as this other person or that person." And that's how relationships begin to collapse because someone starts comparing the partner with s

A Better Way To Study

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When we talk about study, what usually comes to mind is reading books. What did you think this article was about? You probably thought I was going to write about ways to read more effectively. Well, this article aims to point out a better way of studying other than just reading. To begin with, the word study, according to the Oxford English Dictionary means: "The devotion of time and attention to gaining knowledge of an academic subject, especially by means of books." Take note of the last line: "…especially" by means of books. In other words, it means that there are other means you can study asides books. The second definition from the same dictionary says "A detailed investigation and analysis of a subject or situation." This definition seems to be much closer to what I'm writing about. Deep emphasis on "detailed investigation and analysis." Knowledge is everywhere around us. And if only we can pay some attention to many things ha

They Won't Stop Talking About You

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Just take some time to read through this article and you’ll figure out why you cannot please everyone. Think about the following scenarios and pause to reflect on every sentence: You stay at home in your room and decide not to trouble anyone; they say you're too quiet, that you lock yourself up all the time and barely visit anyone. You always visit them all the time or you visit your neighbors often, they say "What's wrong with him, why can't he stay in his house?" I wonder what he's looking for in everyone's house. They see you with girls; they say "He is a playboy! We said it! Look at him." You decide to hang out with guys, they say "Are you sure he's a man?" "He's always with the guys, maybe he is even gay." You decide to dress simply without too much blinks, they say "Look at him, he has money, but he won't spend it on himself." You decide to buy expensive stuffs and wear; they say

Herd Mentality

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Herd mentality is everywhere around us. It's so easy to observe that it often goes unnoticed, but it's a silent killer that we all must be wary of as bold winners. This post was written to remind you that you're not everyone else and you can always stand out from the herd when you are in disagreement. When you log onto your Facebook and you see a post with  about 400 likes and then one post with just 2 likes posted around same time as the previous post, which post are you more likely to also like? When you walk into a bar and all the people there seem to support a particular football team in a football game, which team are you most likely to support? When you're walking on the street and then you see people gathering around a celebrity (an actor, a sport star or a musician), what are you most likely to do? When you hear lots of people complaining about a particular government with good arguments, what are you likely to think about that government? When eve

Be Good For No Reason

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I think this world would be a lot better if we could all be good for  no reason. If we make it a point of duty to simply be good to other people and to our immediate environment. If we could form the habit of doing good without any expectation and being good  to our community for no reason, there  would be dramatic change. But the big question lies in the definition of being good. On what basis can we say for sure that the actions we intend to take is a good one? Is it culture? Is it morality? Is it the scriptures? For the  purpose of this blog post, being good here means showing love to others and helping them out when you can. It means being able to connect with the feelings of other people and help them solve any of their problems in any little way you can. Actions that can be classified as being good could be: buying food for someone without them asking, visiting the motherless babies and providing them with the gifts you can, giving to a beggar or a homeless person, vo

5 Things Every Twenty Something Should Keep In Mind

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Hitting the twenty year old mark is something that comes with lots of responsibilities. It's a period when the decisions you make critically shapes your future. It's important that young people in their twenties keep these five things in mind. 1. Career In your twenties, it's important you find your purpose. Finding your purpose in this period could really be the best thing that will happen to you. It's easier to model your life and career around your purpose when you've found it at this stage than in your 40's or 50's. Your career path at this stage should be clearly defined if you want to be successful. You cannot just apply to any jobs or study any course work without knowing exactly why you're doing it. At this stage, wasting your time on anything you have no plans on is an easy route to failure . 2. Relationship The twenties is usually a time when your sexual attraction to the opposite sex usually peaks. It's a time when many young

Stop Hating On Other People's Success

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I was inspired to write this article because of what I have been observing in my environment for a while now. Majority of people find it very easy to continue hating on the success of other people. I don't know why they like to do this, neither do I know what they stand to gain, but I know for sure that this is an attitude they must stop if they really want to succeed. Today, I was checking out an online news forum where I learnt that a governor had just sent 30 listed shoemakers overseas to China to master and develop more skills in their craft. I was happy that the governor was able to take such an initiative as a contribution towards the empowerment of those youths and also motivate other youths to be diligent in whatever they do. But I was surprised to read one of the first comments on the news which said: "I'm sure the list was politically induced.. How can this be a success when those with passion for shoe production are left out on the streets for some poli

An Important Change You Must Make This New Year

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Happy New Year guys! It's that time of the year against when we kick off with fresh plans, resolutions and motives. While making these necessary preparations, there's an important change you should not forget to make. That's why I've made this blog post. The previous year has been tough but good anyways. I consider it good not because it has been the very best year, but because against all odds, you and I still made it into this New Year. It's enough reason to be grateful and hope for the very best. As we hope for the best of the New Year, we must make a vital change  in our attitude. A lot of us could've have achieved more last year if we waited less for other people. If we had taken more responsibilities and necessary actions by ourselves towards achieving our objectives, we could've been miles ahead of where we are right now. How many times have  you waited for people to do something for you that you could've done for yourself? How many tim