Sunday, November 18, 2018

Don't Run Away From Fear

don't run away from fear


Sometimes, the things you are afraid of are usually the things you have to face in order to grow. Those situations and tough decisions that make your heart beat faster out of fear are the situations that build you up to be stronger for your life's mission.

A lot of people have been conditioned to always run away from things that scare them and that's why many of them are yet to get to where they desire to be.

The most motivated and successful people in the world today are those who faced majority of their fears repeatedly and then mastered it to the point that they have become strong enough to face any challenge they may encounter in life.

The emotion of fear is not something we should always run away from. It is something that should make us very aware of ourselves and our situation. This awareness is something that forces us to think out of the box and make the best choices when it comes to the unexpected.

But when a man or woman keeps running away from these fears, they miss out on the awareness and development that such fears come with. They remain the same, trapped in their illusion of safety and "what will be will be."

These ones fail to see that the more they run away from their fears, the more powerful this fear gets. But if they had formed the habit of facing their fears, they would be mastering each fear one by one and the fears they mastered will have no power over them anymore because they can now handle it.

There are some moments in your life when you will feel very afraid when you are about to take or have taken a big decision. Sometimes, you feel that fear when you are doing something for the very first time.

You should remember that as long as the actions you are taking or decisions you have made came out of a deep urge to grow inside of you, you should not let these fears make you run from continuing with the decision or action.

The situations that make you afraid the most are the situations that you grow best from.
If you really want to get ahead in life, these fears must be embraced and seen as an indicator that you are about to grow and expand. It shouldn't make you move backwards.

Listen, most of the advice you'll receive from friends, family, loved ones and etc will be aimed at keeping you "safe" and just "comfortable". You'll get lots of unsolicited advice from people who will try to tell you why your fears are valid and why you have to step back and don't go ahead with a risky decision.

It's easy to listen to them and fall back to safety and comfort. But the questions are: Is safety and comfort all you really want? Do you want to be just like everyone else?Do you want to give up on your ideas and dreams and settle for the same thing everyone else is doing?

Or do you really hunger for something bigger than yourself? Do you hunger to develop yourself to your highest capacity? Do you hunger to distinguish yourself from the crowd and live a legacy for your generations yet unborn?

Then you have to shut off most of the noise from outside and just stick to your gut. Sometimes, you should listen to advice, but you have to look at the advice very well to be sure it's not originating from someone's emotions. Before taking any advice, it has to be backed up with solid and verifiable facts and not just about "safety and comfort".

Most times, if you really know what you're doing and what you want, then the number one person you should be listening to it yourself! And it should be your higher self. The lower self is what fills your head with all negative things that could happen if you should do something that you are afraid to do.
 
The higher self is the aspiring self. It is the self that makes you believe that you can do it and there is no challenge you cannot overcome.
Listening to the higher self irrespective of fears peddled by the lower self takes a lot of guts, fear and risk taking. It's not for the faint hearted and that's why the few who can stick with it are blessed with everything they want.

The point of my post is to inspire you to reconsider the things your heart deeply yearns for which you have been sweeping under the carpet because you have been afraid.

Challenge yourself to do the things you are afraid of. If you're a shy person, embarrass yourself as much as possible to overcome it. Of course you'll make mistakes and people will laugh at you. But it doesn't matter one bit.. because the goal is to master the fear of being embarrassed.

When you overcome that fear. Your being shy will disappear instantly. You'll not be afraid to be embarrassed anymore and you'll not be bothered about whether people will laugh at you or not. You'll be free from those fears because you went into it and you'll find in yourself a confident man or woman.

If you're afraid to speak in public, stand up whenever an opportunity comes up and say anything you like. It doesn't matter whether it makes sense or not. You are just building yourself and getting used to the stage. The more you do it.. the better you get.

The more fears you face, the better you get! And the particular fears you face repeatedly, you master them better.

You know why it's important you start facing these fears as soon as possible?
It's because the world only cares about the very best! When you embarrass yourself many times, learn and keep embarrassing yourself to the limit because you want to master your fears, you'll eventually master them and you become exceptionally good in what you do!

Then, nobody will remember the days of your struggle and when you were consistently doing the things you were afraid of. No one will remember how many times you felt embarrassed, scared and sad because you made a choice to keep facing your fears.

All they see will be the BEST! And they will all say GOOD about you! And the world will reward you with whatever you want because you have PROVED YOURSELF as one of the very best!

So consciously and repeatedly face your fears irrespective of what people may say or do. And you will keep soaring high like an eagle!


Keep Winning!

Friday, October 12, 2018

Keep Platforming

Hi guys,

Been a while away from this awesome blog.. 76 days to be precise! That's a long time, but I've got a lot going on recently in my life right now that I could barely even act on the inspiration to write. But nevertheless, no matter how many times I go offline, I will always strive to be back and write about my experiences and the life lessons that have guided me thus far.

These few months away from this blog really came with a lot of challenging tasks and opportunities in my life. The opportunities that have come my way and how they came to me still look like a miracle to me. But I know that most of the things I have written on this blog so far really helped to motivate me to see the reality of these things.

Everything I have so far experienced have still proven to me that your state of mind is very important when it comes to how far you go and the things you will experience. I have also come to realize something I call the hand of God in the grand scheme of things. Forgive me atheists and non-believers, my experiences(which I won't share here now) have given me proof of God's hand in designing the outcome of things and I ask you to still keep an open mind about his existence if you strongly discredit it.

More than ever, I am thoroughly convinced of this thing called faith. Having faith in anything is incredibly powerful. Faith literally moves mountains. It works like magic, but it really isn't. It is a supernatural key that shifts reality for those who thoroughly believe in their vision. So I want to encourage you to persistently hold onto your visions and dreams; the ones that you really really care about and be rest assured that you will see it come to pass.

Now, to what I was inspired to write today:
"Keep platforming"


keep platforming



 In life, we have a lot of platforms around us. Cambridge dictionary defines platform as "a flat raised area or structure." So in other words, a platform moves you to a higher ground. It takes you up to a higher level. The most successful people in life are those who know how to leverage their platforms to move on the higher platforms. Platforming is a step by step process. You don't magically jump all the steps. You move up with one platform and that platform leads you to the next one.

What are your platforms?
Your platforms are those skills, talents and opportunities you have that can help you stand out or become a better person. If you have a talent or something that you are very good at doing more than everybody else, it is a platform! It is something that can take you up to higher ground if you know how to use it. But how can you use it when you aren't even aware of the platforms you have? Which brings us to the question: How do you identify your platforms?

Simply put, your platforms are those things you have access to which many other people don't have access to. When you think of it this way, you begin to recognize that there are platforms everywhere around you. Do you know that the people you know could be your platform? The people in your life could be the link to your higher ground, but how well are you relating with them and getting the required information or help from them?

It's not the people only, the way you do things, your attitude or little opportunities could be a platform. I know of a person who started as an uneducated cleaner in a company but later turned out to be one of the key staff in the company business and is working on completing his part-time degree. I learnt that what set him apart was his attitude in his work. When he worked as a cleaner, he put his mind into it, did it better than everyone else and was happy doing it. He didn't do it grudgingly. He did it with his heart and mind and this got him noticed. He was recommended as an entry level staff because of his dedication and from there.. he grew!

Working as a cleaner was his platform! He utilized that platform very well and that platform has moved him up to a higher ground.  Many cleaners have come and gone before him. Some would have been unhappy with the role and do it grudgingly cursing everyone inside of their hearts. Some didn't even realize that having the opportunity to work as a cleaner is a platform. For them, it was all about doing the work anyhow and getting paid. They were not aware they were in a platform!

Having the opportunity to go to school and get a college degree is a really big platform! These days I hear a lot of people complaining that their college degrees are a waste. Some even say that it is an ordinary piece of paper with no value and for some others, they feel that they have studied the wrong course in school and that explains their problem. But these people are only saying these things because they have not come to the full realization of the value of the platform with they have. And if you don't recognize the value of anything, it will actually be useless to you. 

Having a college degree gives you access to lots of other platforms. You can virtually choose to venture into anything because you read and understand stuff on your own and there a lot of opportunities coming out everyday both within and outside your country which are actively looking for graduates like you. But because you are not aware of the platform you are on. You keep thinking that you have nothing and consequently, you will not see your opportunities when they show up.

Knowing how to play football, dance, sing, crack jokes, play chess, give advice  or do anything else is a platform! There are very successful people in the world who have attained fame and fortune doing these things. They saw that they were on a platform (individual talent recognition) and they kept platforming till they got to the top. You might say, "Dear Nigel, what are you talking about? I have tried many times to showcase my talents, but I have no sponsors and nobody is appreciating me." Or you could say "Nigel, what you're saying is crap! Those people had access to the best and some of them were very lucky to be born in advanced countries and had the right facilities opportunities and bla bla" However, if you look at your own environment with an open mind and you are not ready to make excuses, you will see that there are successful people in those fields who have passed through similar challenges as you and have made it!

After recognizing your platforms, make good use of them all. Show up at a talent show event. Volunteer to showcase your skills. Offer your best services for free sometimes and let people know about what you do. You have to keep doing something with your platforms. You don't do one thing and it ends.. you must keep on doing things whether successful or not. 

And it is very important to point out that your platforms will lead you to higher platforms! 
Just like the cleaner guy who is now among top level staff, the platforms around you are there to lead you to higher and higher platforms. If you keep at platforming and platforming very well, you will go higher and higher. it is from one level to a higher one. The platforms you utilize very well will give you experience, knowledge and skills which lead you to other platforms, those other platforms also contain the opportunity for you to gain skills which will lead to much higher platforms. It's a game of platforming where each level holds the golden key to unlocking other levels! But you have to pass through each level, gain the prerequisites you need to gain for a higher level, so you can move on. That's why it is important to not look down on any platform you may presently have, no matter how little. Because that "little platform" as you may call it, holds the key to unlocking the higher and higher platforms that are possible in your life.

Platforming is not beans. You don't platform at one spot and expect everything to be perfect. Platforming is an attitude. You must consistently platform. You must keep showing up and you must keep making use of every platform you find around you. There are thousands of reasons out there designed to make you quit, curse the system and stop platforming, then wait to die without achieving anything.. there are millions in fact! But practice the habit of finding that one reason or one person which will inspire you to keep platforming.

Platforming requires a high level of awareness. Look around you today and take an introspective look into your life. Recognize your platforms and make a conscious effort to make the best use of them given the time and the opportunity. Don't give the excuse that you have no platforms. Life has been designed in such a way that platforms are everywhere you may find yourself. If you say you have none, it means you have not recognized what God has placed under your nose. Look again and I pray you recognize, see and make good use of your platforms to success. And don't also make the excuse that your platform is not working out for you. Our platforms must eventually work out if we are persistent at constantly recognizing and utilizing them. Don't also forget the God factor.. maybe you just need a higher being to assist you.

Keep platforming and keep winning!

Until next time,

Your man,

Nigel.

PS: I'm sorry for 76 days off. It wasn't intentional. It just happened. lol.

Saturday, July 28, 2018

The Most Neglected Success Advice

The Most Neglected Success Advice

Hi guys, my apologies for not being consistent so far with writing on this blog. I really have a lot on my hands right now and things have been happening so fast. But nevertheless, I will always make out some time to share some of the success insights I come across on this great blog.

Today, I'll be sharing with you one of the most neglected advice to succeed in life. A lot of motivational speakers and life coaches will usually say to you: "Work hard, remain consistent and never give up." That's the main highlight of most of the success advices you get.

They keep saying to you "Work without any days off," "work now while they party, you will reap the benefits later." and they always remind you that the darkest hour is usually just before dawn, so you should never think of quitting.

It's not like they are wrong about what they are saying.. It's just that sometimes this mainstream advice is too overrated and makes it seem as if success in life is just about hardwork.

By now, I guess if you've been following this blog you already know that some of the hardest working people are not the most successful. Success isn't just about hardwork as most of us have been programmed to believe.

It definitely involves some 'hard(if you want to consider it hard) work" anyway.. And I'm not saying working isn't involved in success. What I'm saying is that it's not the only factor. And that's why I'm sharing with you this particular success advice which I believe is one of the most neglected and key factors for a man's success. Read the next sentences as many times as you want and let them sink deep down into your subconscious mind:

You need people! You must build relationships with people if you want to succeed. You can't do without people, no matter what career you want to choose.

People matter and the way you relate with them as a human being matters as well. You can work as hard as you want, but if you don't at least try to relate well and build some level of relationship with other people around you, I think you're greatly limiting your chances of winning in life.

You must consciously care and build quality relationship with people. It doesn't just have to be family or close associates. You should try to go outside your comfort zone and genuinely care about the people.

One piece of information, one referral, one signature, one good recommendation from any human being can be the missing link to what you've been looking for all your life! And you have been busy working all your life for it when it could have been just starting up a conversation with a neighbor that could link you up speedily with it.

This life is like one huge puzzle game. You pick the pieces as you move.. Most of the missing pieces in your own puzzle are actually with some people who surprisingly may be right under your nose. There's no machine or psychic to tell you who has the link or not.. lol.  You have to navigate life yourself and find those pieces for yourself. How would you find it if you barely relate with people?

And how do you relate and build good relationships with people: Your words, your acts of kindness or assistance, your occasional gifts and going out of your way to show genuine concern over what's going on in their personal lives.

Look, people feel more connected to someone who really cares about their well-being than someone who only cares about his work.

If you take a peek at the lives of very successful people, you will find out that these people don't joke with attending important people functions, going for major parties, participating in community meetings, checking up on close friends and family etc.

Despite the fact they may seem very busy, but guess what? They still find time to socialize, communicate and mingle with other people. The successful people know this very well and that's why they stay on top.

If you're a people person, you'll hardly lose. Most of those people who you have built a trustworthy relationship with over the years will always be ready to stand by you and for you. You will be an individual who is not just on his own but an individual who is united with people.

And guess what... If you were working hard towards something and let's say you know about 100 people who you have built a good relationship with, you have multiplied your chances of achieving what you're working for by 100!

With effective communication, these people will know what you're involved with or seeking for and they will easily render you any information they get that can help you make progress. Combine that with your hardwork and you're flying high in no time!

In our world today, we are becoming too individual. Most of us only care  about ourselves, our pockets and our problems. We don't really care the slightest about saying a friendly "hi" to that neighbor or even find out why he or she is looking so sad. We hurry off to work, come back and we stay on our own.

Does it really help us that much? For most people, they think that staying on their own will help them avoid problems and will make them happier or better disposed to achieve their goals. But really, does it? Is any one of us really happy being totally alone and disconnected from people around us? It's a rhetorical question we all need to ask ourselves.

If you've been working too hard and not been networking or communicating well with people you come across, please just try this exercise for this week: Try to start conversations and genuinely care about at least three different people(who you come across with daily) for this week alone. You'll be surprised at the results before the end of this week.

Care and build a strong relationship with other people rather than just yourself and keep on winning.

This blog will always be dedicated to your success..

Until next time,

Ikechukwu





Monday, July 16, 2018

Go Into The Arena

Go into the arena

After the final game of the 2018 FIFA world cup played yesterday between France and Croatia, many folks were arguing about the things Croatia could have done to win the competition.

They really over criticized many players. Many of them had failed to understand that being a football player in the arena is way different from watching a football game from the sidelines.

Being in the arena and actually doing what is expected of you is not always as easy as it sounds to onlookers. That's why it's not best to criticize other people too freely if we've not tried to put ourselves in their shoes by going into the arena.

It's easier for many people to laugh at someone who made a mistake during his or her speech. It is easier to say, "Oh, that speaker is really boring us to death!" or even too boo him or her off stage. But it's really not so easy for many of us to put ourselves in the arena to do better than those people.

In life, criticism is important and necessary for us to grow. However, it is important that we don't criticize others without some degree of empathy. We must understand that those who make mistakes are those who were willing to make a difference by putting themselves in the arena.

We must understand the effort they are making by at least being in the arena instead of staying idle and we must accord them the necessary respect. However, that doesn't mean we should embrace mediocrity and never criticize them. We should criticize, but give them some credit for making the effort to be in the arena.

Being in the arena isn't easy. Those in government offices, at the marketplace, those in the science or arts and those in the entertainment industry are doing a lot just by their willingness to be in the arena. It's not easy to be striving to make a difference. It's not easy to sacrifice your comfort, just so you can make a difference in the lives of other people.

Being in the arena is behind every major progress ever made in the world. It is those who have been in the arena that led change and created circumstances that rapidly transformed things.

So as a bold winner, you must push yourself into the arena. Don't relax in comfort. Strive to always be better than you are. Don't fall into the trap of criticizing people blindly without consideration. If you must criticize, always be conscious of the fact that the person you're criticizing deserves some credit for actually being out there for you to see.

When you are playing in the arena, be aware that people will criticize you. People will say negative things about you even when you're giving your best. People will want you to fail, just because you were bold enough to be in the arena. People will look for reasons to say something bad about you. But just remember one thing: "Being in the arena actually puts you way above everyone of them."

Don't look at the naysayers.. Listen to the honest critics and try to improve yourself. But never listen to those who have refused to see anything good in you. Focus on continuing to play your best in the arena and you will find out that your best will continue to evolve.

Go into the arena, transform the things that you're unsatisfied with and keep on winning! 

Thursday, July 5, 2018

What Is Your Decision?

Your decision

Your focus, your attitude, your determination to either do the right thing or the wrong thing, how far you go in life and even your salvation is really determined by this big question: "What is your own decision?" 

You see, it's easy to accept failure because most people around you have failed. It's easy to accept those things that you really know deep down your soul abhors because others are doing it. It's easy to become corrupt and easily cheat others because those around you look corrupt and have cheated you in the past. 

It's way easier to drop everything you've ever held dear to you as a result of a particular experience you've had or what people may have done to you. But the big question is still: What is your own personal decision? 

A lot of times, you'll hear people say that the world is hopeless, destined for total destruction and irredeemable because of what they think is happening around them. 

These people as a result of the bad news they hear everywhere easily accept that only bad things exist and only bad people survive. Then they go ahead to resign themselves into doing the very same thing they hated and abhorred. 

What's their excuse? The world is already bad, so why not be bad? But was that change in attitude really their decision? 

It's very important that whatever we choose to do in this life is our own decision and comes from a well thought out objective. Making decisions  entirely based on painful experiences and what you think other people are doing usually leads to the wrong decisions because your judgement will be clouded by fleeting emotions. 

When you look around you and all you see appears to be negativity, it should tell you one thing: You have a responsibility to create the positivity! Be the positivity! 

Yes! If you have ever been dissatisfied with what you are seeing happening in your environment, then you should know that deep down you have been called to be a pioneer of a brighter future. 

Many people don't care about the negativity you know? Even though it's affecting everyone and will ultimately consume all of us if everyone does nothing about it, some people don't care and will never care. 

These people will go through any vague, vulgar, criminal or disgusting thing ever required just to survive. But if we decide to do anything just like them to survive without channelling our God given intelligence to turning around the negativity, then what makes us all different from animals? 

In the beginning, according to the Scriptures, Adam was given dominion over everything God created. And till this day every human being including you, has been given this dominion. 

But you know the big question right now? Are you really making use of that dominion or are you letting the things that have been created in your world have dominion over you? You need to pause and reflect on that. 

What you're experiencing now and what you will experience in future all boils down to your decision right now. You can see all these negative things happening around you and decide to do nothing but watch or join in creating the negativity. 

You know what that does? It means that in future, you will be stuck with the negativity you've refused to do nothing about or the negativity you've joined in creating. 

At this point, it's best to let you know that when you're doing nothing about those problems that bother you, you are allowing those problems flourish and subliminally, you're also CREATING it! 

It may seem that doing nothing keeps you safe from creating problems. But the reverse is actually the case! As long as you're not channeling your God given talents and abilities to tackle the challenges you encounter everyday, you're among the creators of this negativity. 

We all have a responsibility to exercise our dominion over created things and we must be act on this responsibility. 

You can choose not to act, you can shrug it off as something that doesn't concern you.. You may think you're safe.. Lol. But believe me, if you're not doing anything to build or create something positive in your world.. It won't be long before you experience the effects of your nonchalance and I hope it won't be too late. 

I believe you're wise enough not to wait and see how that experience would be for yourself in future. So I'm calling on you to think and rethink your decision. 

Do you really want to not care? Do you really want to resign to hopelessness, darkness and despair? Do you really want to throw away the dominion you have been created to utilize? Do you really want to sit back and watch things get worse or hope for a sudden miracle?

Or do you want to say no to negativity? Do you want to be a ray of light, faith and hope in today's world? Would you dare to make the tough choice of dreaming about great possibilities and playing your part in the creation of such? Would you sacrifice to create the future you want today? 

The answer is entirely your choice and in your hands.. It's your decision. What is your decision? It's all up to you and I hope you make the right choice and join the pioneers of the future who refuse to live like animals but those who are willing to take dominion and be the creators of the change they earnestly desire! 

Make the right decision today and keep winning!



Monday, July 2, 2018

Be Quiet And Do Something Now

Be quiet and do something now

Time is one of the most wasted resources on earth, you know why? Because there are very few people who understand that "Time is Money" and that "The BEST time to start is NOW!" Learn to be quiet and do something right now. 

If you're still young and reading this, you have so much money, more money than you can ever imagine. But you've got to start working NOW to covert the time you currently have available into a fortune.

If you're much older, all hope is not lost either. Ray Kroc, Donald Fisher and some other people found success during late stages of their lives. So you can still make a big breakthrough.

The catch is that: the earlier you start, the better for you. Opportunity usually doesn't knock twice. Hence, it is important to start NOW to prepare for it, so you don't miss it.

But how are you going to recognize your opportunity if you don't have a mission and a purpose? Answer: You CAN'T. Opportunities are only seen by those looking for it. You can't find what you're not looking for. It doesn't work that way.

Let's say you've got a plan already and you're ready to start working on it, then you somehow find a reason to postpone it to start at a later date. What happens? That future date usually never comes and you forget about it. You've missed starting NOW!

Or, let's say you know what you want to do, but you make the mistake of telling other people your plans and they end up giving you one million excuses why your plans are impractical and impossible. Then you quit. You've also missed starting NOW.

I think it's counterproductive to tell people your plans for three good reasons:

1. It gives you a FALSE feeling of accomplishment. That satisfaction that you have plans can make you lazy.

2. Nine out of Ten people you tell don't give a damn about your idea. That's why they'll be ever ready to give you the epistle of failure

4. You're wasting the time you should've used to start acting now in talking about the action. A complete waste of time.

So what do you do? When you thoroughly make up your mind to accomplish something, keep quiet, think deeply and make critical plans. Don't tell anyone your plan, just start doing something NOW towards what you dream of.

It requires serious discipline on your part. You've got to eliminate all distractions and concentrate on the one single thing you've decided to do. If reading that book, playing that video game or seeing that movie doesn't help in any way to achieve you dream, eliminate it. It's a time waster.

Your luxurious spending must be cut out too. If I could get a phone of 10000 which would be just fine for me, why would I go for one of 100,000 at this level? You've got to cut off excessive spending and  focus NOW your time, energy and money on that GOAL.

Time will come when you'd have enough money to spend on luxury, not NOW. Now is time for serious and dedicated work to whatever you've decided to achieve.

Let me guess.. Some of you may claim that they're confused about what to do or that they don't know what they want to achieve. That's a lie and I'll tell you why.

Have you ever gone online to find an answer to something bothering you? If you have, you'd be honest to admit that you were inclined to take the answers of some web pages while ignoring others. 

Why? Because deep down, you already know the answer. You're only waiting for a verification from the site that suits you. Asking questions when you already know the answer is a complete waste of time.

It stalls you and it prevents you from taking the action NOW. you have to be honest with yourself. You KNOW exactly what you want and what you're passionate about. Stop deceiving yourself, pursue that dream and carve your name in gold when you've achieved.

You must FOCUS. It is important. Complete focus on what you've decided you really want to do. Then persevere and keep using your time NOW. Time will come when you'd have more than enough to get those luxuries you sacrificed and the world will become your oyster.

Till next time.

Remain Bold and Keep winning.

-Nigel

Sunday, July 1, 2018

Why You Have To Care

why you have to care.

An insight today while looking on the mirror inspired me to write this blog post on why you have to care. And I hope it doesn't end up as one of those  motivational articles online, but rather inspires you to act right.

Today, I took a long look at myself in the mirror. I haven't done this is a long while as I have let myself become so caught up in my daily activities. So I was pretty surprised at the changes I noticed.

My hair had become less dark in color, coily and quite rough. This was new because I know how my hair normally looked. I realized that I hadn't really been paying good attention to my hair for a while now and that's why it decided to grow and look the way it wanted.

What has happened? I stopped caring for my hair the way I used to. This is very important to take note of. My hair won't continue looking all nice, awesome and well taken care of if I don't care about it enough through appropriate planning and required action.

Just because I had forgotten to care about it, I won't enjoy the benefits of the hair looking great.

Which leads me to this: Whatever you don't care about(which is important to your well-being) will get worse!

The reverse is the case for the things that aren't important to you or the things that tend to bring you down.

When you don't care about people that want to talk you down or say negative things about you, you'll feel much BETTER! It's detrimental to care about negativity in any form. Caring about negative things is what leads to worry.

So the rule is: Care about those things that make you better or feel good about yourself in any way and don't care about the things that make you feel terrible.


It's not just about our looks. If you don't care about your business and monitor its growth, your business will perform worse. It's a natural law.

If you stop caring about cleaning up your house or washing your clothes, these things will definitely get worse by becoming very dirty and stinky.

If you stop caring about your fitness and stop exercising your body or hitting the gym. Your body will go out of shape and start adding more fat to anywhere it feels like.

If you stop making that young man or young woman that you love feel the love you have for them, the person might start behaving in a way that you don't like.

Now get me, the fact that you have to care doesn't mean you have to OVER CARE! I can't spend all day caring about my hair or apply nice hair creams to it. I mean, I've got a lot more to do.

I can't call my loved ones 24 hours everyday simply to tell them I love them. At a point, they may think I'm crazy. And they need their breathing space.

I can't just spend the week cleaning up my apartment all the time. I mean, who does that?

The important thing here is to make sure your CARE is REGULAR!

It doesn't have to be TOO MUCH or TOO LITTLE.. Just ensure that it's regular to keep the momentum.

Decided to recreate a regular routine for taking good care of my hair and hopefully I know it will come back to its admirable state. I have just not cared enough about it for a while.

So let this blog post be a reminder to everyone of us. Sometimes we are carried away by our goals, dreams and aspirations that we FORGET to CARE about those things that look little, which we have to care about.

Our goals and motives are very important. However, let's try as much as we can to still create time to make our "care" regular. It's difficult to really keep up with showing care to the things that matter to us, but once we get it right, it becomes a very good habit.

And no matter how carried away we get, we will find out that we still regularly care about those beautiful things in our lives which we have to care about.

Don't forget to show care to the things that really matter to you and just keep winning!


Saturday, June 30, 2018

Good Stress

good stress

In the name of running away from stress, many of us have built a character of indiscipline, laziness and never going the extra mile. In today's blog post, I'll give you a fresh perspective on why stress can be a good thing for you.

A lot of us easily run away from things because they appear stressful. They look too tedious and so we can't just handle it. We will prefer to take on things that are much more easier to handle.

Maybe you got a chance to take on a wonderful opportunity that will require you to wake up say an hour earlier than you normally do. This opportunity will open doors for you in the long run. But because you feel inconvenienced and won't like to wake up earlier than your normal time, you call it stressful.

Maybe you have to hit the gym and exercise your body for at least 30 mins so that you can make progress with your fitness goals. But 30 mins is too long. You do say 5mins and you go home because working out for 30 mins looks very stressful.

Or maybe you're working on a very important project or preparing for an important test and it needs more time from you personally. It needs you to stay late nights for a couple of days, so you can adequately prepare, engage and achieve the desired results. But then you choose to abandon the project or underrate the test because it's too stressful and demanding.

There are just many instances I can give, but the point is that: our excuses using stress is often based on our unwillingness or lack of motivation to do a particular task. This is an unconsciously learned behavior.

It's not that we cannot do those things. We can choose to wake up earlier than usual. We can put in more time when we are working on a project or preparing for tests. We can push ourselves to meet our fitness goals. There are a lot of things we can actually do. But the idea of being stressed limits us from achieving what we can actually achieve.

Good stress helps us to build discipline and see the plethora of things which we never knew we were capable of. Without good stress, we will be lazy and reluctant to make those sacrifices necessary to achieve what we want to achieve and we won't even know how powerful or enduring that we can be.

Yes, there is bad stress. Recognizing that stress can be good doesn't mean that you should do everything and overly stress yourself. There are indeed things that aren't worth much fuss. And if you try to overdo everything, you'll break down, which is bad for you because your body and mind must be in top condition for you to excel. Knowing when and how to relax is important as well.

So, you must be able to differentiate between good stress and bad stress. Good stress should be related to those uncomfortable sacrifices and necessary pains you must pass through in order to achieve a desired objective in future. Bad stress is just wasting your energy for nothing.

Good stress will help you achieve your goals and save you time for relaxation. Contrary to what you may think, it is the continuous avoidance of good stress that actually steals away your time in future.

In whatever thing you do today, try and see the future consequences of doing it. Because at every moment we keep moving into the future and to be better positioned for the present, you must set yourself up for a very juicy future by passing through the good stress you need to pass through in order to achieve it.

Remember that sticking around your comfort zone is not usually beneficial to your progress. So learn those push yourself a little bit further and go the extra mile in the pursuit of your dreams. Your dreams must never die because the process looks stressful. The process only looks stressful because you aren't used to it.

No matter how stressful the requirements it looks, remember that someone was able to pass through it and become successful. So why do you think you cannot do the same or even better?

Take advantage of good stress without wearing yourself out with bad stress and just keep winning!

Until next time,

Nigel. 

Saturday, June 23, 2018

The Power Of Repetition

the power of repetition


Many atimes, we usually don't notice the power of repetition and the indispensable role that it plays in our daily lives. You see, when you do something over and over again, it starts becoming a lot more easier to do and with time it becomes am automatic process where you don't feel any stress doing it.

I remember sometime ago, I was walking up the stairs of a building where I lived with a friend of mine who was visiting me for the first time. I was leading the way and in a very short time, I was at the topmost floor while my friend was still lagging behind. When he got to the topmost floor looking quite stressed, he exclaimed: "Nigel, how do you manage to climb up and down these stairs everyday?" "It's tiring", he added. I smiled, looked at him and said, "It's because I'm used to it and you're not".

The staircase of that three storey building has become second nature to me because I had been doing it everyday and my system had quickly adapted to it as normal. To someone who isn't used to stairs, it will definitely be tiring the first time.

It's not just in climbing stairs, repetition has strong influence over the way we think and act. If you are used to thinking negatively about your situation, it will be very difficult for you to see anything good in your life until you break that repetitive thought process in you which may have become automatic.

Back in high school days, some of my peers had this belief that math was hard and therefore, they just disliked the math teacher and never paid attention in any of his classes. The result? Few of them who were lucky escaped with E's, but most of them failed woefully.

There were also some who initially thought math was difficult, but when they tried to solve questions on their own, pay more attention to the teacher and try over and over again to solve questions, they became better and good. It then dawned on them that mathematics was easy and they got excellent results.

Addiction to anything is effective as a result of the power of repetition. The more you engage in what you're addicted to, the more power it has over you.

Repetition is also at play in the way you talk, the way you respond to people, the way you dress, how disciplined you are in your life, your career and relationship lifestyle etcetera.

To break any strong cycle of repetition, it needs a high sense of consciousness about that process. And breaking an addiction to a repetitive process like porn will need a counter repetitive process which will replace the negative one.

I need you to remember this: "NOTHING IS TOO HARD OR DIFFICULT TO ACCOMPLISH, YOU'RE EITHER NOT USED TO IT OR YOU LACK THE PASSION FOR IT."

Getting to that point where something admirable becomes second nature to you is the goal. I call that point the 'elastic limit'. You subconsciously attain it by constant repetitive activity. It is then your whole system adapts to it and it becomes easy to always do it.

If you're very observant, you would notice that very successful people in any field have one thing in common. They are always relaxed, calm and poised when they are performing.

Did they master that overnight? No!  A very big No. Rather, they've invested time to repeatedly master their skills over and over again until it became an integral part of them. They've used the power of repetition to always stay relaxed and calm during activity. It becomes their second nature.

Smart and driven people understand that excellence is a habit. That's why they put in effort to GET USED TO doing those things necessary to achieve the dream they're passionate about.

There's no big magic to it. Most people don't succeed because it's either they're not passionate about what they do or that they give up too easily.

Passion for whatever you choose to do is very important. It is fuel that keeps you going until you cross that 'elastic limit' threshold where it all becomes very easy. Therefore, you must be passionate about the goal you have in mind.

On a final note, some people like to ask the question "How long will it take?". I feel that question is for losers looking for a reason to back out or for shortcuts.

They lack that passion and dedication needed to walk the walk and that's why they want to be given a particular time when they can expect to relax and quit.

Truth is: who's willing is willing. If you have truly made up your mind to succeed in anything and you have the strong drive for it, you'd be willing to walk the walk repeatedly for as long as it takes to attain the goal you have in mind.

This can be applied to achieve success in any area of life ranging from your career, relationships, lifestyle, habits, character and much more.

Till next time,

-Nigel

Friday, June 22, 2018

I Should Have

I should have

A lot of people are wallowing in self pity, worry and regret because they are always busy thinking about what they should have done. They go about telling anyone who cares to listen their sad stories.

I should have started my business, I should have told her I loved her, I should have taken advantage of opportunities, I should have chosen to be educated, I should have avoided bad company, I should have kept myself for the right person and so on and so forth. You will often hear these "should haves" from depressed people who can't let go of their past.

It's a good thing to feel sad over ones mistakes, but it's not a good thing to dwell so much on it and make such a big issue out of it. You're not the first person to have missed out on doing the right things you should have done, neither will you be last. So it's pointless to keep recounting and crying over those things.

As long as your heart is beating and there's still air passing through your nose into your lungs, there is hope. No matter how bad you feel about those things you should have done, the fact is that you can never go back in time to do the right thing. It's long gone and it's in your past. You've got to let it go if you really want to still make meaning of your life.

Indeed it's difficult to forget some of the things you could have done because your inability to do them must have been what is responsible for your present difficult situation. However, if you want to make it out of that difficult situation, you must stop killing yourself over the missed opportunity and learn the lesson from your difficult situation.

Tough challenges are usually blessings in disguise, but there are very few people who would agree with that. Your challenges contain your life lessons. And if you really want to make progress, you must be open minded enough to see and understand the particular lesson life is teaching you at every present moment.

Life lessons are unique to the individual and his actions. So it's the responsibility of the individual to understand what life is trying to teach him or her using his or her peculiar challenge.

If you got a bad result and you start thinking that you should have studied your books more, it should be apparent that life is trying to teach you the value of adequate preparation before going into any venture.

If you hesitated to start your business and those who started the business before you are raking in the millions, life could be teaching you that you should learn to take your ideas seriously and don't delay too much in their execution.

If you feel like your life was ruined by bad company, perhaps, life is teaching you that to succeed, you must roll with like minded people who would spur you to be your best.

If you lost out on someone you love because you were afraid to express your love, perhaps life is teaching you to be bold enough to make your moves in relationships.

Whatever it is, there is a life lesson you must recognize and apply to experience the new magic. Failure to recognize the lesson will only lead to a repetition of the same mistakes over and over again. And you will keep feeling more and more terrible about your life and how it may turn out.

Motivation to succeed in life is contained in your life lesson. Always complaining about the things you should have done and regretting or feeling bad all the time will only keep you trapped in same situation. The key is to learn the life lesson and just do it!

Study that course you think you should have studied, start that business you think you should have started. Express your love to the next person you really admire, associate with good company, go start that business, go hit the gym, go lose weight, go out and associate with people. Dare to leave your comfort zone.

In all things, remember that it is never too late till the last breath.

Keep on winning!

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

Message To The Wise Modern Woman


I have looked around me and I've seen that one of the strongest motivating factors for a man to cheat on his wife or his lover is the inability of the woman involved to provide for herself. In other words, the woman is constantly dependent on the man to provide even the most basic things for her. This kind of woman is more like a liability to the man involved and he feels that he has a right to cheat on her given that the woman doesn't really have much to offer him but her incessant demands. This is what has spurred me to write today's blog message to the wise modern woman.

Love is a beautiful thing. I'm tempted to say that it "used to be" a beautiful thing, but the truth is that genuine love will always remain a beautiful thing which every human being needs to experience in this lifetime. A life without love is almost meaningless and empty. Love really makes life rewarding. However, the real meaning of love is gradually being destroyed on the alter of money and sex.

A lot of women these days have started understanding and redefining love with material things. To them, a man who provides for them, gives them money all the time and buys them gifts(irrespective of who the man is) genuinely loves them. In other words, all it would take for them to fall in love with you as a man is: give them money, spend on them at expensive places and buy things for them. That's all! Your attitude, your little acts of care and affection, your personality, your character doesn't matter.

And why are lots of these women defining love based on material things? The answer is very simple and not far fetched: Many of them cannot provide for themselves. A woman who cannot provide for herself in today's world will get easily deceived by men who are willing to spend on them, not because they love them, but because they just need to get access to her cookie. Women who are jobless and cannot fend for themselves will not be able to look beyond the money and the gifts and see who really loves them and who doesn't.

I'm not saying it's wrong for you to accept money or gifts from a man who claims to love you. I'm saying that you should be careful that you're not blinded by those things to see this man for who he really is. If you could cater for yourself as a young woman, you will care more about falling in love with a man for who he is rather than the money he may be showering on you. I'm an advocate that a man should spend his money on a good woman. A man who is genuinely in love should surprise the woman he loves with lavish gifts once in a while. This is good.

The only problem is that men who don't care about you are also willing to do the same.. So if you're defining love based on who is spending on you, can't you see the danger you stand if you are carried away by the spending?

To be in a better position not to be carried away, you must be up and doing. Learn a skill or a craft. Apply to jobs that you can handle. The world has changed and equal opportunities are opening up for both men and women in various sectors. Why don't you take advantage of these things and live on purpose? Attach your life to goals and not to a man. When you're on track, your eyes will be opened to see the right man for you and not the one who wants to deceive you. And when you finally tie the knot with him, he will value you and your opinion because he knows the kind of woman you are. He knows you're not a liability, but a precious asset to him.

This is very important to you as a young woman. If you're reading this and you're already married or single without anything you're doing to support yourself and your family, you better start thinking and planning of how to start earning. Being able to cater for yourself financially gives you voice in your marriage, relationship etc. It also gives you respect and value.

This is a blog for winners and as a lady bold winner, I don't want you to be at the mercy of a nasty, cheating and wicked man simply because you cannot provide for yourself and without him you won't have money. That's disguised slavery. It's imprisonment because you know this man doesn't love you one bit, but because he gives you money, you stay. Talk about carrot and stick approach.

I think I've written enough for today. A word they say is enough for the wise. Empower yourself career wise and financially as a lady, keep winning! 

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Focus and Determination

focus and determination

In a world of so many distractions, two attributes that can keep you on track are your focus and determination. Without these two, you will waste your energies trying to do many things without achieving any.

When you have a good measure of focus and determination to achieve a particular objective in your life, you hardly fail.

There's the story of two farmers: a wise farmer and a foolish farmer. They were both raising chickens for sale on different farms. On the same day day, it happened that 4 of their chickens escaped(for the both of them).

The foolish farmer was trying to catch all four at the same time.. He pursued one in a particular direction and immediately he saw another running chicken, he left the one he was pursuing and chased after that one. He continued chasing after them randomly and changing targets. Before he knew it, it was nightfall and he caught none of the chickens.

The wise farmer focused on catching one chicken at a time. He pursued one chicken, followed it in every direction and even when he saw other missing chickens aside, he continued with the one he was pursuing. And he caught it. Tied it to somewhere close and went in pursuit of the next. Before nightfall he was able to recover 3 out of the missing 4.

This story is commonly told by the elders in our community to the younger ones to teach them the value of focusing and staying determined. It is the key to achievement.


These attributes of success have always remained the same for winners, but very few people are willing to live by it and that's why there are few people who are really winning. When you look around you today, many people are so distracted. They pursue one thing today and the next minute, they chase after something else.

With use of the internet becoming increasingly popular in our society today, the problem many people are facing is staying focused and determined in using the internet. One minute, they are researching about something, the next minute, they end up clicking something else totally unrelated.

It takes a lot of discipline today as few people are willing to put in the time, determination, effort, obsession, dedication and focus needed to live the life of their dreams. Very few people care to think deeply, plan, stay focused and utilize their God-given intelligence to solve their problems.

What is the thing that separates the bold winner from the loser? It is the ability to have that patience in putting in the required time, determination and focus required to achieve exactly what they want.

And how do they do it? They "think"...they think very quickly or slowly about the situation as required and make the best decisions before acting.

They don't rush to act... Thinking is about 85% of the work...because winners understand that if they get the plans right with effective thought processes, the action becomes easy.

Let this blog post be a reminder to you to stay focused and determined in whatever objectives you have decided to achieve. That's the key to achieving it. 

Monday, June 18, 2018

Believe in Yourself

Believe in yourself

No one else has the ultimate power to change your life but you! In the past I used to think that the outcome of my life was dependent on the circumstances and conditions surrounding me. I used to think I was limited by my skin color, looks, country, tribe, nationality or belief system. As a result, I didn't believe in myself.

It was when I discovered the power of believing in oneself and one's ability to make it through any challenge that I began to see things change in my life. I believe in God and I can't confuse my belief in God with belief in myself. It's important to note that they are two different things.

In short, if you really believe in God, you will also believe in yourself and you won't believe in failure. When I talk about believing in yourself, I am referring to being self confident and highly motivated to pull through whatever challenge that comes your way.

It should be part and parcel of every genuine believer in Almighty God. God never fails, so you should be confident in yourself and your endeavors that you cannot fail because your father cannot fail.

When people claim to believe in God and yet they don't even believe that they have what it takes to pull through difficult times, it means they don't really understand what they claim to believe. Belief is not just lip service. It is a deep seated consciousness that must permeate every aspect of your life.

There are millions of people out there willing to tell you that you can't and give you millions of reasons why you should give up your "crazy" idea and quit, why should you add to that number by also telling yourself that you can't? No! You know what you believe in.. And that should spur you to continue believing in your ability to succeed even when many people are predicting your failure.

Have you looked at the lives of people who are always saying negative things about your ideas? Take a look at their lives, they're all the same. Nothing spectacular or noteworthy about them because these people only speak and BELIEVE in negativity! They believe the can't and so it becomes their reality!

Would you rather accept the limited beliefs of those people and stand a greater chance of experiencing the same dull kind of lifestyle they're experiencing or would you rather aspire for bigger things? The answer is in your hands.

Henry Ford said and I quote, "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're RIGHT!"

A winner believes in his God, himself and in his ability to accomplish a mission, no matter what the world tells him.

He is undeterred like a formidable lion and his determination scares the hell outta any obstacle standing along his path...  Be a bold winner today and take control of your life. 


Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Define Yourself



This is a short video I made for Instagram concerning the art of knowing and defining oneself. Watch and share. 

Friday, June 8, 2018

20 Inspiring Picture Quotes From Goalcast

Have you heard of Goalcast? Well if you haven't, Goalcast is an inspiring community for achievers dedicated to helping you improve all aspects of your life. The community provides practical advice, resources and the motivation to help you realize your full potential. They believe that anyone has the potential to reach their goals no matter how ambitious and hope to be a source of motivation for people on their journey towards success.

I discovered them sometime last year and saw that they are driven by a similar mission as The Bold Winner's Blog, so I started following and sharing some of their content. In this blog post, I want to share a collection of 20 picture quotes from them which are designed using some famous people to keep you motivated and inspired in the daily pursuit of your goals. Enjoy:

























So there you have it. I hope you were motivated by them? If you'll like to see more of their content, you can follow them on Instagram @Goalcast and on facebook using the same username. You can also check out their website: www.goalcast.com for more information or content.

Stay inspired and keep winning!




Monday, June 4, 2018

Try Discomfort

try discomfort

Many of us would rather settle for the easier way of doing things instead of taking the route that looks difficult at first glance because we hate discomfort. We go for what looks less stressful and never consider to try discomfort.

This attitude is quite understandable because when you think about it, you'll see that most people don't like anything that will "stress" them. Everybody wants it to be easy. But when you look at it deeply, you'll see that it is those people who are willing to take the road less traveled by the majority that eventually find life easier.

Many people prefer to always take the easy way. Instead of moving away from home and try to start living on your own to pursue your endeavors, many matured people these days will rather cling onto the safety of their parents. It's easier for them. There is free accommodation, free money and free food, so what's the point of trying to get things for themselves? They remain there wasting their years.

But there are those who have opportunities to live in so much comfort, but rather chose to take the bold step and be independent. They don't cut off from home as they still visit occasionally. And they earn the respect of their parents as a result of their choice to leave home into discomfort and pursue their dreams. These ones usually end up successful.

For some people, it's much easier to sneak in a textbook into the examination hall so they can cheat,  rather than study to pass their exams. It looks much easier to do that. And it looks harder to read and understand.

But later, these guys come out of school with great results but nothing to show for it! They can't get jobs because at tests and interviews, their performance doesn't show that they deserved the results they presented. And then, they blame the government for no jobs.

The ones who were willing to study and develop the necessary skills are those who finally get great jobs because they prove themselves worthy and then life suddenly looks easier to them because they have worked hard in discomfort for it.

Some people lack social skills. They don't know how to meet new persons, talk to a member of the opposite sex or just feel free around people. They may go about saying that it's just the way they are and therefore remain the same because they feel comfortable that way.

But some other person who may lack these social skills may decide to move into discomfort and take the initiative to try these things. (It will feel awkward at first. Entering into discomfort comes with awkward feelings and some fears. But as you keep on trying, you will master these feelings.) This person stands a better chance of becoming better than he was because he stepped into discomfort.

Many of the great inventors, scientists and politicians that we knew all stepped into discomfort. Most inventors and scientists spent a better part of their lives researching, experimenting and trying to discover things that have changed this world for good in their name. Some politicians have been jailed for years and attempts made on their lives because of a good cause they have been fighting for. Yet, they didn't run away from discomfort.

These men and women could've chosen to forget about these endeavors and just be comfortable and average. Why not keep partying, drinking and having some random sex instead of bother about achieving anything? It definitely looks easier to do.

But these men cared less about just entertainment. They moved into discomfort because their hearts were really burning to achieve something. Today, they are well known and respected. They speak and others keep quiet. They can enjoy their lives as much as they want because they earned it through their achievements. And what can be said about those who chose only comfort?

The big question now for you is this:

What does your heart burn for? What is your purpose or mission? How comfortable are you? How willing are you to delve into discomfort?

Winners are associated with some discomfort which they either created or which were brought upon them by fate, but they embrace and transform them.

If you're getting too comfortable anywhere or in any situation, just know that there is a problem. Moving into discomfort at some points in your life is what leads to your skyrocketing progress.

Stay bold and keep winning! 

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

9 Life Lessons From The Game of Chess

chess life lessons

Chess is a wonderful intellectual game. It is not merely an idle amusement as wrongly believed by those who may not understand the beauty of the game. It is a game in which several wonderful capacities of the mind can be developed.

Many things happen on a chess board from which we can pick vital lessons that could help us in our daily lives. It is almost eight years long since I learnt how to play chess. And so far so good here are 9 life lessons I have learnt from the game:

1. Never give up

This one comes first because I feel it's the most important lesson I've learnt from playing chess. Many times when I play with stronger players and find myself in a bad position, I tend to easily lose hope. I'm like "What's the point?" "The game is already lost."

But as I advanced in gameplay, I stopped giving up easily when I've made any errors or when I appear to be losing. I just focused on playing as best as I could given the situation. In doing this, I often found many other opportunities which helped me to bounce back into the game and gain an upper hand.

I realized that any mistakes I made wasn't the end. Despite my position, I should focus on making the most of my moves. And I have applied this lesson to life to liberate my mind from depression.

2. Women are powerful 

In chess, the queen is the most powerful piece on the board, not the king. The queen can move in any direction and for longer distances. While the king has one step to move around it. Though the king is the most important piece, it has limited mobility.

I have often asked why this had to be so until the message became clear to me. Women are powerful influencers. Hell hath no fury like that of a woman. The place of women in the society and their capacities even though they may look physically weaker must never be underestimated.

And if you take a peek at history, the downfall of most great and powerful men were simply orchestrated by a devious woman! The creator of chess must have had these in mind before creating the game.


3. You can never win if you don't make a move

In Chess you have to make a move if you are to make any form of progress. In the beginning, white has to make the first move, before black. If white refuses to make the first move, then there would be no game. And no game means no action and no forms of progress.

So it implies that of you want to succeed and make any form of progress in your life, you must make a move. You must use the resources you have and move/manipulate them to achieve your desired results. Failure to do anything will keep you trapped in the same situation.

You see many people pray all the time for God to bless them, but they don't make any moves towards what they want. They pray from January to December and nothing happens because God is probably waiting for these guys to just make a move.

4. Attack is often the best form of defence 

While playing chess, I have often found myself in dangerous positions when my opponent is launching very aggressive attacks on my side. The attacks are well sustained that oftentimes the first thought that comes to mind is to run back and defend my territory.

But experience taught me that the best way to defend is to also carry out strong attacks on your opponents side. When you learn to also launch deadly attacks instead of just defending, your opponent will have a hard time continuing his own attack because he has to attend to his own territory.

Don't always be defensive in life. Don't always relax and wait for things to be given to you or just happen on its own accord. You should learn to attack. Make plans and carry them out. You will stand a better chance of surviving when you attack sometimes in response than when you always crawl back to defend.

5. Consider or think about the future

 Foresight is a lovely attribute of the mind that you learn from chess. In playing the game, you have to think of what your opponent is planning to do and also think up of various plans you can use to defeat your opponents.

You think about the future consequences of the move you want to make and how better or worse it will make your position. You're careful responding to your opponents move because you have to try and see the future moves they are planning.

In life, many of us have made terrible mistakes because we don't really think deeply about the actions we take presently. I have written extensively on this here. Chess teaches us to remember the future before making any moves in life.

6. Understand your situation or position 

Chess teaches circumspection. The ability to consciously observe, understand and analyze your position very well before moving. If you don't understand your identity, situation and position in life. You may not really be able to achieve anything meaningful.

You must understand your situation and that begins with how you know yourself, your tribe, your history, your community, your race, your continent etc. When you have known this about yourself. You can then take time to learn about other people, cultures and beliefs.

Wherever you find yourself in life, take time to study and understand the environment. Get access to important information and always update your knowledge of what is happening around you. It is a key ingredient to living successfully.

7. Learn to recognize your opportunities, don't waste moves 

Opportunities they say comes but once. Although on a chess board opportunities usually arise, it is important to take advantage of the opportunity that you are presently aware of rather than gambling with it. I have had opportunities of taking my opponents unguarded pawn and I usually did. It often proved sufficient to finally win in the end game.

So it is in life, sometimes we are too keen on the big opportunities that we lose sight of the opportunities that surround us every single day. And sometimes we are lucky enough to recognize these little opportunities, but yet we despise them and don't take advantage of it.

The truth is somebody else will take advantage of the opportunities you missed. And in chess, it's your opponent. So it's important you learn to quickly recognize and make good use of opportunities that come your way whether on a chessboard or in real life.

8. Time is one of the most valuable resources

Is there any other game that could better teach you the precious value of your time? Chess is a game that greatly valued time. Once your time is up in chess, no matter how good your position may be, you will inevitably lose the game.

It teaches you how best to manage your time and make the most use of it. We all believe that our timeline on this planet is limited. And every second counts. So wasting time is usually not good. Time is meant to be managed and used well.

9. Luck always favors the good planners 

Chess isn't really a game that we say is dependent on luck, just as in rolling a dice. Chess is a game of strategy and tactics and luck has a little role to play here because, whatever happens on the board was created by your moves.

When you are a good player(one who is thoughtful, careful, resilient and determined), you will always be lucky. You won't be lucky in the sense that luck just happens. You will be lucky because you created your luck by playing very well from the beginning.

And that's it: 9 Life lessons from the chess game. Have you played chess? Do you have other life lessons from the board that you can add? You can leave a comment or share the post.

Stay bold and keep winning!

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