Sunday, July 31, 2016

HOW EASILY DO YOU QUIT?

don't be a quitter

Here is a story I found in Napoleon Hills famous book, Think and Grow Rich. He tells us the story of R. U. Darby.

"Darby’s uncle had gold fever, so he staked his claim and started digging. After a lot of hard work, the uncle found a vein of ore, so he

Saturday, July 30, 2016

WINNERS VS WHINERS? (WHICH ONE DO YOU BELONG?)

would you like to win boldly or whine like a baby?
The winners are those who Do. They are those who understand that success doesn't come through wishes. That It only comes as a result of one's own work and sincere effort.

The winners are those who do not beg for

Thursday, July 28, 2016

NEVER BE TOO SCARED TO FAIL


Don't be afraid of failure. Make it a friend

I remember a friend of mine back in my street some years ago. He was a good guy and had integrity. His only problem back then was that his English was really terrible. 

Anytime he made a grammatical error whenever he tried to speak English to me and

Monday, July 25, 2016

10 SUREFIRE WAYS TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY

10 surefire ways to be happy

#1 Don't care too much about what people  would say or think
Many unhappy people are always worried about what people are thinking or saying about them. This makes them feel timid and reluctant to try out some things which could transform their lives.

Worrying about the opinions of other people won't change anything. You can never be sure

Sunday, July 24, 2016

YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE

the choice is always yours

Some people believe that they don't have control over how their life turns out. Some others think that what will be will be, so why bother to take any action? Others believe that they are destined to live a particular kind of

Saturday, July 23, 2016

PAYING ATTENTION


Your attention is gold

One of the skills that separates the winners from the losers is the art of paying attention. Losers are too impatient and rigid to pay it, whereas winners understand that their ultimate success depends on it.

There is a story about a guy who landed a great job with a top multinational company,

Friday, July 22, 2016

WHY YOU MUSTN'T GIVE A DAMN

You mustn't give a damn!


Look here my friend, I want you to know this; there will always be those who care about your existence and those who don't, those who will love you and the ones who will hate you.

There will always be those who value and appreciate what you do and those who do not,

Thursday, July 21, 2016

TO TRUST OR NOT TO TRUST?

the real meaning of trusting other people

I don't know why I'm particular about trust, but I just have to write this otherwise it's gonna explode inside of me.

Our daily existence on this planet is a function of our trust for one another. Without trust, we

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

BECOME A CREATOR

What are you creating with your mind and body?

What are you creating in this world? Look around you. All the very successful people you know are creators of something. They all offer value to you!

In football, the players create the game by their actions on the pitch while the spectators
are entertained. These players are well paid for their efforts while the spectators just enjoy the game. Spectators pay with their money and time.

In engineering, engineers get paid for creating and designing systems and machines, while the consumers of their products pay them for it.

Doctors create by applying their skills learnt in medicine to effectively take care of the sick(consumers). They get paid by the consumers for it.

Comedians, Actors and Musicians entertain you with their skills and get paid with consumers money, while the consumers are just entertained.

Restaurant owners get paid by their consumers for the services they create and Banks are thriving because they create value for their clients.

I believe by now you're getting the point. If you're not creating anything or offering value to this world in any way, you'll end up paying all the other creators and probably end up poor.

To become truly successful in life, you must also add value to life. You can't just take from everyone else and expect to gain something. You'll gain nothing. You MUST give out to get.

The more value you create, the more returns you get. It's that simple. There is a time to take and a time to give. Going to the extreme of taking without giving is dangerous and leaves you with nothing.

There's no way you'll get to any great height without giving. People must celebrate you and cheer you for something. You're not destined to just cheer everyone else who is creating while you create nothing!

All of us are creators in our own little way.  Whether you're creating by the little service you render to your community or the way you prepare food for others or even the way you care for other people, what truly matters is that you're creating something no matter how small.

As long as you're creating that value, you're playing your part in making the world a much better place and you'll definitely be rewarded for that.

If you've not been creating anything, then go back and think again. You were born to create something for this world. God isn't an author of confusion. He created every individual for a specific purpose. And our purpose lies in the value we choose to create for others.

Find out what you really have passion for and create what you can through it. According to natural law, the value you've created would return in multiple folds.

Create value and keep winning!

Till next time..

-Nigel

Monday, July 18, 2016

THOUGHT COMES FIRST

Thought comes first before actions

Have you ever thought about why you were born naked into this world without anything like weapons, tools, books or anything else but your mind?

If you've ever thought deeply about that

Saturday, July 16, 2016

DO MORE, TALK LESS

action speaks louder than words

The world is filled with so much talkers. People who do nothing but talk, talk and talk with their time. You find these people in the marketplace, at the grocery store, at the bar, in the sports center etc.

Many people are ready to give you a truckload

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU'RE TOLD



don't be quick to believe anything you're told

Once upon a time in an African forest, a famer found an eagle's egg in a nest which had just fallen from a tree. He took it home and kept it in amongst his chickens under a brooding hen.  When the egg hatched, the mother hen

Monday, July 11, 2016

FACE YOUR FEAR, LIVE YOUR DREAMS

Always Face Your Fears. Never run from it.

Consider this short story: 

One day, a young buffalo named Jack approached his father and asked him if there was anything that he should be afraid of. “Only the lions my son,” his father responded.

“Okay, I'd be careful around lions. If I see anyone, I’ll turn and run as fast as I can,” said Jack. “No, that’s the worst thing you can do,” said Jack's father. “Why? They will kill me," asked Jack

The dad smiled and replied, “Jack, if you run away, the lions will chase you and catch you. And when they do, they will pounce on you and tear you apart”.

“So what should I do?” asked Jack.
“If you ever see a lion, stand your ground to show him that you’re not afraid. If he doesn’t move away, show him your sharp horns and stomp the ground with your hooves. If that doesn’t work, move slowly towards him. If that doesn’t work, charge him and hit him with everything you’ve got!”

“That’s crazy, I’ll be too scared to do that. What if he attacks me back?” said the startled young buffalo. “Look around, Jack. What do you see?” Jack looked around at the rest of his herd. There were about 300 massive beasts all armed with sharp horns and huge shoulders.

“If ever you’re afraid, know that we are here. If you panic and run from your fears, we can’t save you, but if you charge towards them, we’ll be right behind you”.

The young buffalo breathed deeply and nodded. “Thanks dad, I think I understand".

Like young Jack, most of us are afraid to face our deepest fears. We'd rather run away and not face it squarely, but running away from our fears automatically means that we've lost.

We're afraid of many things: what people will think about us, failure, not meeting up with challenges etc. These fears often keep us trapped in the same situation and stifles our progress.

You cannot succeed without mastering your fears because it is only when we face then that we become free to make progress. Running away from it always loses outrightly.

So, how do you address your fears? First, you have to identify them all. Whether you're afraid of what people would say about you behind your back or you're afraid of what they'd think about how you look, how you talk, how you do anything, first identify these fears.

Secondly, ask yourself, what's the worst thing that could happen? If I try to make that speech or crack that joke and I get booed of stage, So what? It's far better than not trying. It has offered you a platform to discover your level of mastery and improve your loopholes. The audience will probably laugh and talk behind your back for that day, then so what?

If you really love someone and you want to ask her out on a date, what's the worst that could happen? One of two things would happen: either she agrees or she would decline, tell you she's not interested and probably giggle. So what? Would you kill yourself?

If you want to invest in that business. One of two things could happen: You either land a good deal and rake in millions or you lose some money. If you lose some money, so what? Many multimillionaires have lost much money in investments before getting wealthy.

The thing is that fear of losing keeps us from trying at all. Not trying at all means we've lost, but in trying, there is the 50% chance of being successful and this 50% really counts. It involves risk of course, but people who want to be successful must be willing to take that risk rather let the fear of losing make them automatically lose.

If you don't face your fears, the chances of success are reduced to Zero. Not taking a shot at all guarantees 100% failure. A popular quote says "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Being successful involves risk. The one who is willing to be successful must be daring enough to take risks. Always ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? If you can answer that question very well, you will understand that all our fears are usually baseless and focused on things that don't even matter.

It doesn't matter if they laugh at you, it doesn't matter what they think about you look, it doesn't matter if most people say it's impossible, it doesn't even matter if you fail.

It only matters when you're daring to get up after each fall and try over again. We must cultivate the persistent attitude of courageously facing our fears and telling the world that were ready to continue taking risks and that the fear of failing cannot stop us from doing so.

Fear can be a good motivator if we master it. 

We must also accept the fact that in trying, we either win or lose.

Never let fear restrain your actions. Let it challenge you instead.

Till next time,

Nigel.


Sunday, July 10, 2016

SUCCESS TIP: DO NOT MAKE HASTY ASSUMPTIONS

assumption is the root of all heartache

It is common for man to easily make assumptions, form theories and jump into conclusion about things he's not even sure of. 

A major cause of this is that it suits man's ego to have that sense of pride in knowing
everything. But this is more folly than wise.
You've often heard some quotes like "All men are the same" "All women are the same" , "All men are liars, all women are deceptive" etc.. 

All these fake postulations are made by people who have had few experiences and the "generalized" it to the whole. Truth is you cannot make such statements except you have experienced the character of either all men or all women.

Some claim that some things are impossible and that you shouldn't try. But many things have been invented by people who didn't believe in assumptions formed made others. It was once thought flying was impossible and that the earth was round. What's up with those postulations now?

The danger in making these dangerous assumptions about life, other human beings or events is that it has a way of repeatedly creating the experience of those assumptions for you! That's how dangerous it could be, because when you hold something to be very true, you tend to see it even when it is not there and you miss out on opportunities.

When I was a very little kid, my uncle told me that when it was very dark, a horrible monster would come and stay under our staircase and that it would carry me away if I went downstairs. I immediately held this statement as true and I strongly believed that a monster lived there.

Hence, the fear was real and I usually stayed upstairs at night and only went downstairs when accompanied by someone. It was with time that I decided to confront this monster, even though I can remember running down very fast the first Time I tried it.. But then I discovered that there was no monster there. And even boasted to my uncle later that there was nothing there.

Often times we form bad opinions about people, situations and events without attempting to understand them. We just hear what someone else has said and we immediately believe it to be true. This has hindered many people from making progress.

I have found from personal experience that some of the people I could've easily written off as bad people based on what I've been told about them have turned out to be the very best kind of people from my experience with them. And I've achieved what some of my peers thought was impossible.

It is wrong to believe what you're told about someone based on hearsay. You have to get to experience that person yourself before you can say something too about him or her.

We must make that attempt towards being sure and convinced of something rather than have blind belief in what other people tell us or what we have just assumed to be true. Human assumptions has often been wrong because no attempt was made to find out and be very certain.

When you are very sure of something, there will be no need to guess or assume anything about it. You only guess when you are not sure. And you can never be sure based on what people tell you because perceptions are different. The only way is to find out if you're not ready to gamble.

Many relationships have failed because of false assumptions. One woman had been enjoying her marriage to her dear husband until one gossip came around and told her that she saw her husband somewhere with a woman.. And then angrily without questioning anything the woman went to meet her husband and accused him of cheating on her. The man couldn't say a word.. It was after she had exhausted her aggression that it was later understood that the lady with her husband was a distant cousin who just flew into the country. And that's what assumption without appropriate verification does.

Assumptions could create mistrust and the downfall of any relationship commences when the trust has been shaken. You don't just assume things in your head and believe them to be true. It doesn't work that way. How would you feel if I never knew you and I strongly believe you were bad, when I don't even know a thing about you? That's how this assumption thing works . We often think everybody thinks the Same way as we do, but that is very wrong.

I have learnt to ask questions. Why? What? Where? How? When? I continue to ask questions and seek to experience because I don't assume to "know it all"... The one who claims to know it all is usually the one who knows nothing because there is no more room for learning in his mind.

Whenever we hear something, let us not be quick to accept it. Whenever we suspect something, let us not be quick to believe it. Whenever we've experienced the character of a few people, let us not be quick to generalise. We must pause, reflect, think and find out certain things before we believe them and hold them as true.

That way, we will be free from dangerous assumptions.

Bold winners don't just assume, they dare to find out and be certain of things before believing them.

Until next time.

-Nigel

Thursday, July 7, 2016

HOW TO CREATE THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS


How to create the life of your dreams
If I asked you what kind of dreams and visions you want for your life, I'm sure to hear a good number of nice things. We want to be wealthy, healthy, happy, comfortable, free, go for a vacation, love, travel around the world.. The list is endless. 

We all have great dreams for ourselves, we want to live life to its fullest and enjoy it, but

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

are you living in the present?

Most of the problems we face in our lives today can be effectively traced to not living in the present. Why? Because most people would rather live in the past or in the future.

The only time that always exists presently is "NOW". It's not yesterday and it's not even tomorrow. You're always existing in the present. You can't bypass it and actually live

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