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You Are Lucky To Be Different

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Have you ever felt like you don't fit in at all or that you are so different from other people around you? Do you feel down because you are not like them? Are you troubled because you are unique and what interests you seems not to appeal to others?

I've got something to tell you: You are lucky to be different. Being different is a blessing and a precious gift. Most of the greatest innovations and ideas of mankind were brought forth by those who dared to be different. Being different means that you are destined for something greater than the average.

It's not a crime to have different ideas from what everyone else believes. It's not bad to be interested in different things than what majority of people seem to be interested in. You must not do the same things everyone else is doing or chase after what they pursue.

Your difference is your selling point. Your creativity and real self manifests through your differences. That's why recognising that you're different …

If You Ever Felt Rejected, Read This!

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Have you ever felt rejected? Do you feel like your case is different or you're under a spell of being rejected by everything you've ever wanted? Then hang on, I got news for you.

You may have applied for a lot of jobs in various establishments, but none of them has offered you a job even after the countless tests and interviews. You may be looking for admission into a university, but you're rejected after every application.

You may sometimes feel rejected by someone you love. You try everything, but they don't just share the same feelings. There are many other events happenings in our lives that tend to make us feel rejected in a way or two.

The truth is that the feeling of rejection is a mental thing. We cannot be rejected in the real sense unless we reject our own selves on the inside. We are never really rejected unless we admit and believe that we are rejected.

The failed attempts at securing a job doesn't mean you're rejected. It doesn't mean that you…

The Problem With Motivation

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We all need some motivation to keep us inspired towards a particular endeavor. Great speeches and written words have played a major role in providing this motivation to a large number of people. Nevertheless, there is an underlying problem.

After you listen to that great speech or read that great book, how long does that good feeling last? I guess a few hours, some days or probably a week. But then after that, the adrenaline that once rushed through your veins as a result of the motivation soon fades away.

For many people, that's it. They go back to their comfort zone and continue living their lives the same way they lived it. Some even forget about the words and simply keep on living the same way.

It appears to be only few people who try to make some adjustments in everything they do in their daily lives. Why is it so? If motivation was designed to successfully play its role in changing lives, it should inspire more people to make immediate changes in their lives, but this is no…

Wisdom In a Story

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I stumbled upon this story on Facebook this morning and I felt it was a worthy story to put up on this blog. It is related to a previous post titled How To Deal With Angry People which was written earlier on this blog. It emphasizes on the importace of how we respond to certain things in order to create a desirable outcome.

Story:
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."

The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If y…

Love Is Not A Cage

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Love is not a cage where you put someone else and you don't even allow them to breathe without you. Some people have this idea of love and it doesn't really help them in their relationships.

If you really love someone, you should respect their freedom and personal space. Yes, the love should be there, but when you try to overdo certain things, it will tend to be boring and the love soon begins to fade away gradually.

Some people want to be always around the person they claim to love 24/7. But it is not possible to do that given the many responsibilities that they have and time taken by other daily activities. So lovers must come to terms with the fact that they can never be around their loved ones every second.

This is good. And in fact, can you imagine how you would feel if someone is always around you every time and everywhere? You will soon find the whole thing boring and sometimes you need your own space or you want to spend some time alone.

If your idea of loving someone…

Statistics Should Not Stop You

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Some of you may have become conditioned to easily accept certain statistics which tend to make you easily give up on your pursuits. For example someone says, "90% of the people who tried it have failed." "The available slots are for very few people" or even crazy ones like "Very few people become successful no matter how hard working they are."

The thing is that more often than not, these  statistics makes people get easily discouraged rather than stay motivated. You know why? For most people, it is easier to believe that they won't make it when they're told that their chances are too slim. They have come to believe so much in these probabilities that they already accept defeat.

For winners, the statistics don't count. If they're told that 90% failed, they still want to be among the successful 10%. If you tell a winner that available slots are few, it doesn't stop him from going for those slots. Would you try to sway him by telling hi…

Key Things To Pick From Trump's Inaugural Speech

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There are some key things for aspiring leaders to pick from The Inaugural Address Of The United States President Donald Trump which was Delivered On Friday 20th January, 2017. His own words are in quotations and italicised.

"Together, we will determine the course of America and the world for many, many years to come. We will face challenges, we will confront hardships, but we will get the job done. he understands that there will always be challenges, but the important thing is getting the work done." 

President Donald Trump understands that challenges must be faced in the course of any project, but the important thing is getting the work done despite anything else.

"Today's ceremony, however, has very special meaning because today, we are not merely transferring power from one administration to another or from one party to another, but we are transferring power from Washington, D.C. and giving it back to you, the people." 

Here President Trump shows that he know…

Nobody Really Cares Until You've Made It

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Guess what? The world doesn't want to know if you lost your mom or your dad at a young age. It doesn't care whether you were born in a poor or a rich background. It doesn't even want to know about the current problems and challenges which you presently face.

The world doesn't care about the country you were born in, your skin color or how your government is treating you. No one out there is interested in whether you had a bad childhood experience or not.

Whatever way you currently feel, whether sad, depressed, happy or anxious, the world doesn't care about it. Everyone you see around you has their own problems to deal with. You don't expect them to leave their own problems and start feeling sorry for you.

The world is not bothered about your complains or how many times you've tried and failed. Whatever plans or ideas you may have in your head, no one wants to know.

You know what the world really cares to know about you? It's your success story! The wor…

One Reason To Always Be Grateful

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Dedicating this article to everyone out there who still finds a way to stay happy despite the challenging situations they find themselves.

No matter what you are going through in your life right now, there is always a reason to be happy and be grateful. Oftentimes, we tend forget this reason and focus only on what is going wrong in our lives.

This attitude doesn't help us. When you focus on only the wrong things, you tend to attract more of it. Your thinking puts you in an unhappy mood and when you are unhappy, you'd find out that every other thing will seem to annoy you.

Yes, sometimes we may feel overwhelmed by the challenges that come our way, but in those depressing times, let us always remember that one reason to always be happy and grateful.

Be grateful for your good health even if you don't have enough money right now. Be grateful that you are alive and still breathing even though problems seem to overwhelm you. Be grateful that you have people that care about you e…

Stop Judging!

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It's easy to see the faults of other people but not our own. It's easy to point fingers at someone else and point out everything that is bad about them, but we forget to also look deeply into our own selves. The blame is so easy to place on another person than ourselves.

But if we are to be perfectly honest to ourselves, we are not perfect human beings either. We have our own strengths and weaknesses. We have these same temptations that everyone else has and we are not so different after all. The only thing is that some of us have learnt to master these feelings, while others have not.

But the essence in all of us remains the same. Rather than being quick to judge other people, let us remember that we also have these tendencies and seek to help other people manage their own weaknesses. This is where emotional intelligence comes into play. You don't judge, you help others overcome their weaknesses because you understand that they too are not perfect!

People who are often q…

Education Beyond The Certificate

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How educated are you? When I ask this question, I don't mean you should tell me the number of certificates you have or the number of schools you've attended. I am asking you to enlighten me on how well you've have come to know certain things and mastered their applications.

In our world today, many people have been through the four walls of a university or school, but very few are really educated. Most of them just have the ability to memorize stuff and pass exams, but they really don't know how to apply what they learn.

It brings me to ask another question: What is the point of knowing something if you cannot apply it? How well does your knowledge show in the way you think, act and relate with people around you?

Most of the people who claim to be educated don't even know how to solve real life problems or carry out certain activities. All they have is the certificate. They can't build things, they can't fit into a new environment, they don't know how …

Don't Beg For Anything

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This article is dedicated to all the motivated people out there who are willing to put in the required effort and work to get whatever they desire.

You should never beg for anything. Whenever you beg for anything, you simply say that you don't deserve it and you're depending on someone's mercy to give it to you.

Begging is a loser's mentality. A loser is too dependent on other people's choices to get what he/she wants and that's why they usually don't have what they want. This is because the person or persons whom they beg can choose to waste time before giving to them or even not give them at all.

Beggars have no choice. And guess what? Choice is the best gift that man has to direct his life to what he wants. So when you beg, you throw away your power of choice. And when you throw it away, you have automatically lost because you are no more in control of anything.

This is why winners never beg. Winners deserve whatever they get because they were willing to…

Are You Living Your Life or Your Parent's?

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As written by Tobechi Larry..
Congratulations! You graduated as a lawyer and you're heading your dad's firm. You win your first case defending a client who you know is guilty of all allegations and your conscience keeps disturbing you while your parents are busy singing your praise.

Deep down you are not happy. You would have been happier if you had become a musician. You once told your dad about that and he discouraged you. Now you are condemned to work in a field you have no passion for in order to make daddy happy.

Does this sound in anyway sound like you? Are you in conflict with your self for trying to do something that your parents want rather than what you want? Are you living your life or your parent's life? You should stop blaming your parents. They did what they taught was in the best interest for you.

They believed just making money brings self fulfilment without any regard to your heart's desire. You are no more a kid now. Your life is in your hands. Take …

It's All Out There

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What do you want in your life right now? Is it money, a life partner, happiness, fame, cars, houses or anything else? Whatever it is that you want, understand that it is always out there. It is outside somewhere waiting for you.

What you simply need to do is go get it. And it's not very difficult to get it. All you need is the right thought and the right actions and you will definitely have it. You think, make plans and set into action.

It is all out there for you. Simply acknowledge that it is there and go for it. But when you don't even believe that it is out there, how will you even find it? If you believe there is not enough, you will not be motivated to make plans and act on them.

The wealth you seek to acquire is in other people's pockets. All you need to do is create a value and make them take out that money and give to you. That person who you seek, who will love you unconditionally and genuinely understand you is out there. All you need do is keep developing your…

Are You Just Waiting For Jobs?

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Are you currently unemployed or jobless? Are you just waiting for a company or firm to employ you so you can start earning something? Well, here's news for you: Go out there and start doing any little thing you can do.

Things have changed. There are many graduates today continuously turned out from various universities who graduate with the hope of getting a job and have met with little success.

Many people are having the mindset of getting jobs forgetting that there is no more equilibrium between job creators and job seekers. More people are seeking available jobs than the people who are creating these jobs.

If you have the mindset of getting a job, ask yourself how the jobs you're looking for were created. They were created by people like you who chose to think out of the box and start up something big.

We need more thinkers. People who are ready to tackle and provide solutions to existing problems around the globe. There are many problems to be solved in this world and tha…

10 Ways To Develop A Winner's Mindset

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1. Learn to do more than the rest. You must be willing to do much more than necessary or what others consider normal. Winners don't just stop at where other people stop, they go the extra mile which is why they get extraordinary results. Many people are lazy and don't want to put in work. That's why few people are at the top. These few are the winners ready to do more than expected. 
2. Be persistent, but not to a fault. A winner knows how to be persistent. He keeps pushing for whatever he wants without easily giving up. There are times of course when he quits. But he only quits when he knows he has tried his possible best. Else, he keeps on pushing for his goals. This obsession is what keeps him winning. 
3.Place important value on your time. To develop a winner's mindset, you must learn to appreciate the value of your time. Time is money! Time really matters. You must conscious of time as a resource that should never be wasted. This will keep you focused on what really…

Why You Should Treat Other People Fairly

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I was opening an account in a bank yesterday just before the closing hours, when I overheard the bank manager expressing his annoyance at how some of the customer care personnel treated a woman who just came to carry out some important transactions.

The woman had reported to him that the bank staff who were meant to attend to her did not even show any courtesy or smile when she was trying to get them to attend to her.

It happened that this woman was also the regional manager of the group of banks, but the members of the staff did not know! When the bank manager finished expressing his dismay at the attitude, some members of the staff tried to make the excuse that they did not know she was the one!

At this point, a thought came to my mind, "Is it necessary to know if the woman was the regional manager or not?" "Why don't you treat all customers fairly, so you won't bother about such surprise visits?"

The thing is that most people seem to show respect and co…

Survival Of The Smartest

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The world has really changed over the years. If you have been following the trend, you should have noticed that it is intelligence that rules our world today. The pen has indeed become far mightier than the sword.

Gone are the days of surviving through the use of brute force or just physical strength. Gone are the days when wars were only fought with just weapons. You hear more of cyber warfare, use of robots, war drones and surveillance machines these days.

The whole world is coming to terms with the power of the mind. The power of deep thought and strategic thinking over mere physical strength. People who have understood this trend are putting more effort to developing the capacity of their minds in order to stay ahead in this era of intelligence.

How is this important to you? Well, you must understand that if you're not developing the capacity of your mind to stay sharp, intelligent and smart, you may become overwhelmed by the change that is silently sweeping across the globe.

No Time For Regrets

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A friend once told me that he regretted studying the course he studied in the university. He wished he had spent his time studying something better or more lucrative. "What do you gain by regretting about it?" I asked. He couldn't really answer the question.

Just like my friend, I've seen and have continued to see a lot of people spending so much time on regrets. You hear things like "I wish I had known this earlier" "I wish I hadn't made that choice." "I wish I waited a little longer" and other stuff like that.

Truly, we should feel some sadness in making some wrong choices or not knowing certain things, but rather than waste time regretting and lamenting over them, we should simply learn the lesson and move on quickly.

There is always a lesson to learn from any experience and it is very important we learn this lesson to avoid repeating the same mistake! But most people don't even see the lesson they are meant to learn because …

The Only Time When You Truly Fail

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I came across this story online which really made me think deeply about how we respond to failure and what it takes to be successful. Here it goes:

One night, a spider found a tree to spin its web on. It had worked all day to spin a big, strong web and decided to get some sleep. The next morning when it woke up, it saw that the web had been torn to pieces. The wind had blown so strongly at night.

The spider had nothing to eat as nothing was caught by the web. When the wind swept across, the spider asked “Wind, why did you blow down my web?” The wind responded with two words, “You’ll see,” then left.

The spider set back to work. It worked all day, making sure its new web was twice as big and twice as strong. And went to sleep. But when it woke up the next night, the web was in pieces. The wind had blown it away again. When the wind swept across, the spider asked the same previous question and got the same reply from the wind.

The spider once again got back to work – and it was not hap…

Why Givers Never Lack

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Do you feel like you lack anything? Love, attention, money, friends, happiness or anything at all? Does it seem that other people have these things easy while you don't seem to attract them?

Then you need to think again about your life and consider the art of giving to others. It might just be what is keeping you from getting those things. You know the saying that what goes around comes around? It's one of the most honest axioms.

What you give has a way of coming back around. I don't know what you will call it or the explanation you may give to it, but I've understood that the actions you take has an effect on your life and the universe.

People who give never lack. Whenever you give something, you're saying that you're not afraid of losing it and you will always have it sufficiently. Giving out something simply acknowledges that you already HAVE it. Because you cannot give what you don't have.

Therefore if you think you lack anything, try and give it out. …

Don't Be Too Self Conscious

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Have you ever been caught in that wide web of self consciousness? Where you go on worrying about your life, why it seems things are not going well with you, why you don't look like someone else or in their shoes and other possible questions.

How do you really feel when thinking about these things? The answer is obvious.. You don't feel happy. Anytime you're worried about just yourself and your own problems, you're unhappy.

Compare this with how you feel when you are thinking about how to help solve a problem. Or when you are absorbed in the things that are happening around you. Do you still feel unhappy?

For example, let's say you're working with a team to tackle health challenges in a part of the world. You'd get to feel so alive and have a good feeling that you're contributing to a better world.

Or let's say you're listening to a comedian, you will laugh, forget your own self and have a good time. You won't ever feel bad because you'r…

Enough Of The Questions

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For many years, man has been asking questions and will continue to ask questions. Questions will never end in this world because man's natural instinct and desire to know never runs out.

But some people have become so accustomed to asking questions that they live and spend the rest of their lives asking same questions. The truth is that some questions cannot be answered conclusively. We just have to pick an answer that suits us and move on.

You see people keep asking questions like "Does God exist?" "What is my life's purpose?" "What is the best career for me?" "What can I do?" and lots of other questions like that. Deep down within you, you know the answers to these questions.

You know exactly what you want in life! How can you even say you don't know and ask someone else? That person is not you. That person is not in the same body as you, does not have the same consciousness and has not passed through same experiences as you.

So w…

Why You Need To Start Now

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A friend of mine was telling about different things he had in mind and wanted to start. I asked him why he had not started them already and he couldn't give me any reason which I could consider solid. I had to advise him to start up these things in any little way he can and stop waiting to be ready. There is no time that is perfect or when anybody can be 100% ready.

The case of my friend may be the same case for you. You may have many ideas in your head of what you're meant to do, dreams, ideas, business plans, visions, plans and anything else. It feels good to talk about them and it is easier to think of these things and expect them to work out exactly the way think it would.

But the truth is that it is only when you get to action and start working on those ideas that you get to encounter challenges and experience things you never expected with these ideas. You may even fail and get to learn about something which you overlooked. It may not work out exactly as you planned. It…

How To Deal With Angry People

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Today, I was woken up by a loud banging on my door. And a familiar voice calling out my name. I went to open the door and I met with an angry neighbor. She got upset over a very little issue which we had agreed to resolve in a few days.

But I was surprised at the manner in which she was speaking about the same matter. I should have gotten angry too, shouted back at her and even get pissed off. But instead, I was quiet, looked at her in the eye and asked in a calm voice , "What is the matter? Why are you acting this way?"

This seemed to noticeably calm her down a bit and she continued talking about this and that. I was quiet the whole time and when she was done, I reminded her that I thought we had already sorted things out and I wanted to know why she was so angry all of a sudden. She continued saying some things at which I kept quiet and did not reply.

After that she left and went back to her room. I didn't take any of her words seriously, so I continued with my day as…

Don't Love Anyone Too Much To Ignore Their Faults

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Yeah, you read the title right! Most of us are so carried away by the feeling of loving someone that we ignore the things we don't like about them. They do things that we don't really like and we overlook it because we claim to love them.

This is bad, not just for ourselves or our feelings, but also bad for the other person because we are actually spoiling them and not letting them grow. If you genuine love someone, you would want the very best for them and not just love them blindly.

Some parents claim to love their kids and they don't ever scold them or punish them when they do something wrong all in the name of love. These kids finally grow up to be a problem to them. They become stubborn, extravagant and spoilt.

I think that loving these kids should be about bringing out the best in them and this includes punishing them when necessary so that they learn right values and principles.

In our relationships too, we tend to ignore aspects of our partners that we don't l…

Why You Should Be Careful With An "I don't Care" Attitude

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You've probably heard people say things like "I don't care what anybody thinks." "I don't give a damn" "I don't care anymore" and other words like that. The "I don't care" attitude is becoming quite popular and of course it comes with a good feeling.

This attitude can actually be helpful if it motivates you to keep trying where other people have failed or it helps you become a better and a much happier person. But sometimes, this attitude can arise out of pure stubbornness and laziness.

Many relationships among people have failed because of this. Some people don't care at all about another person but just themselves and their needs forgetting that their needs are dependent on the needs of other people.

It is important to actually care to know the truth and properly look into our consciences before we adopt an I don't care attitude towards anything. Are you adopting it because you are convinced you're on a right t…

A Quick Way To Change How You Feel

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How do you feel right now? Happy or Sad? Feel like an achiever or a loser? Worried or relaxed? How do you really feel about yourself and your life? Your feelings are just about your state of mind. It's all inside your head.

If your mind is filled with good thoughts, you will definitely feel good. And if your mind is cluttered with negative thoughts, you will feel crappy or feel like a loser. Therefore, the kind of thoughts you dwell on determines how you feel.

Hence, all it takes to change the way you feel is simply to change your thoughts. Are you thinking too much about someone's words? Are you thinking too much about risks? Are you thinking about what other people think about you?

Is your mind telling you that you won't succeed? Are you feeling scared? These things are mere thoughts that clutter our heads and make us feel bad. Stop thinking of these negative things and switch your mind to positive thoughts.

If your the thought says "You will never make it!," …

It Is In Your Hands

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It is in your hands to change your situation and whatever you are currently facing in your life. It is in your hands to make your desires and wishes come to pass. Most people have not come to accept this truth and that's why their lives remain the same.

If your relationship with someone is not going as you want it, it's in your hands to try to make it work or simply move on. There is no point blaming the other person, what matters is what you choose to do. Don't hurt yourself by trying too hard to stay in a relationship in which you know deep down that you are not comfortable with it.

It's in your hands to make money and get rich.. It doesn't depend on your background, available opportunities or how you look. Many people from a disadvantageous home have crawled out of there and changed their destinies. There is nothing to blame for being poor; not your government, your country, your parents or any other excuses. You are to blame.

It's in your hands to do what …