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Importance of Effective Communication

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  Happy new month winners. I am still excited about keeping to 31/31 days of wrtiting in January and it would have been a pity if I did not write on the first day of February. I was having a chat with my neighbor today who told me about the importance of being able to communicate our feelings and thoughts in clear terms to other people. My neighbor also made the point that a lot of times many people assume what other people may be thinking and take decisions based on it. Some perceive other people to be very selfish, but that perception is only formed because the people who perceive this do not get the full picture of the other person. With effective communication, we will be able to share our deep feelings and experiences with other people which will then help us understand them and their actions better.  It is better to ask questions when in doubt and to ask people why they are behaving in a certain way, rather than trust in our assumptions of the motive behnd what other people do. 

Victory: 31 blog posts in 31 days!

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  I am very very very excited to be writing the 31st blog post of this year on the 31st of January 2023. I want to commend myself on the commitment to do this even coupled with pressure from work and engagements with people in my network. I was still able to manage to get in 31/31 in all days of January. I must say it feels great. Consistency daily is really difficult. Some days, to be honest, I did not feel like writing anything, so what I did was throwback to old posts and add comments above them. 16 posts were throwback posts and looking back, while 14 were new articles.  I realized it is not about whether the article is a throwback article or a fresh one, but what mattered was sticking to putting something out there on this blog every day. And I am proud I pushed myself to do it. There is a joy in deciding to do something difficult and being able to use your will effectively in eventually doing it. I feel that joy as I write this. If I can achieve this against all odds, then I can

Do Not Believe everything You are Told

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  More throwback this week: Once upon a time in a forest, a famer found an eagle's egg in a nest which had just fallen from a tree. He took it home and kept it in amongst his chickens under a brooding hen.  When the egg hatched, the mother hen raised the eagle chick as if it were her own child. And so that eagle chick grew up thinking that it was a chicken. It pecked like a chicken, it scratched like a chicken and it even walked like a chicken. As time went, it grew bigger and gazed at other birds in the sky. Some of the birds would occasionally swoop down and say to it , "You are an eagle, you are one of us and you're the king of all birds. Come and fly with us." But it would reply "I'm not an eagle, I'm a chicken," he'd tell them. "My mother's a chicken. I live like a chicken. I am a chicken. Leave me alone!" And so it happened that this eagle lived and died like a chicken without every discovering who it really was. Think about t

Do More and Talk Less

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  Resharing this article on doing more and talking less. Hope you enjoy it: The world is filled with more than enough talkers. People who do nothing but talk, talk and talk with their time. You find these people in the marketplace, at the grocery store, at the bar, in the sports center etc. Many people are ready to give you a truckload of words and if you listen carefully they'll usually talk about what a celebrity did, their problems, how bad the economy is, how they broke up.. etc Now, if you are observant, you'd notice most people waste 80% of their time talking pure trash. If you're listening to them, you're also wasting your time too. What would you gain by talking about a superstar who just bought a car worth $1000000? What will talking about it do? You just feel like entertaining yourself? What would you gain by constantly complaining about your economy without doing anything about it? Answer is Nothing! Useless arguments are one of the most common time wasters.

Lookback: Deep Thought Comes First

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  This article was first written on July 18th, 2022 and focused on exercising deep thought before commencing on any course of action. Doing this protects us from unnecessary problems in future which could be unavoidable if we did not think deeply enough. I hope you enjoy it: Have you ever thought about why you were born into this world without anything like weapons, tools, books or anything else but your mind? If you've ever thought deeply about that question, you may have understood that God, the creator, put us into this world with only our minds because that's really the totality of everything that we'd need to take decisions here on earth which would either sustain us or destroy us. Everything you've ever done originates from your thought. It is impossible to take an action that you've not at least given a slightest thought to. Hence, it is very important to take our thoughts seriously because wrong thought processes will inevitably lead to wrong actions being t

Throwback: Be the Creator

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  In the spirit of throwbacks, I share back this article written in 2016 on being a creator here: What are you creating in this world? Take a look around you. All the very successful people you know are creators of something. They all offer value to you! In football, the players create the game by their actions on the pitch while the spectators are entertained. These players are well paid for their efforts while the spectators just enjoy the game. Spectators pay with their money and time. In engineering, engineers get paid for creating and designing systems and machines, while the consumers of their products pay them for it. Doctors create by applying their skills learnt in medicine to effectively take care of the sick(consumers). They get paid by the consumers for it. Comedians, Actors and Musicians entertain you with their skills and get paid with consumers money, while the consumers are just entertained. Restaurant owners get paid by their consumers for the services they create and

Throwback: Why You Must Not Always Give a Damn

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  This is also a throwback article first written on July 22, 2016. The essence of the message behind it is to pass on the message that sometimes we need to care less about certain things. I am reminded of this article because of the new book I am reading titled "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson. And I will write a review once I finish it, but for now, I hope you enjoy the article: Look here my friend, I want you to know and remember this; there will always be those who care about your existence and those who don't, those who will love you and the ones who will hate you. There will always be those who value and appreciate what you do and those who do not, those who will believe in you and those who won't, those who are ready to encourage you and those who will try to bring you down. It's not your fault that there will always be those who will be against you, misunderstand you and see only negativity in you. It's just how the world is. So, you

Throwback: To Trust or Not to Trust

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  Hello Winners, This article was first written in July 2016 and it was the first attempt on writing something related to trust. I decided to do a look back to this article because of a conversation with a friend who was of the opinion that no one should trust another person completely and totally in everything. I asked the question, what about on matters of love, is it possible to love someone totally of you cannot completely trust them? My friend said "Yes". And clarified the statement by saying "you can trust someone you love 99%, but keep the 1% to make allowance for any possible surprises that may inadvertently arise." Well, this was an interesting opinion for me as I always had this opinion that one should be able to completely trust someone they fall in love with. So this old article came to mind and I am sharing it again. Feel free to share your thoughts on this matter. Here it is: Our daily existence on this planet is a function of our trust for one another

Throwback article: You Always Have a Choice

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  This is a throwback article on the power of choice. Something everyone of us has but most of us do not exercise it as often as we should. We all have a choice at every point in time and should not allow ourselves believe that we have no option or that we are at the mercy of stuff. Here is the article: Many people believe that they don't have control over how their life turns out. Some others think that what will be will be, so why bother to take any action? Others believe that they are destined to live a particular kind of life and no matter what they do, they are fated for a particular thing. Well, there are also those who believe that they can change the course of their lives by the step by step actions they choose to take and I belong to this school of thought. Let me ask you a question: If you want to drink water, do you hope that somehow by destiny and chance, the water would come to you? If you're hungry, do you believe that 'what will be will be' and stay hungr

Look back: 10 Sure Ways to Always Be Happy

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  Looking back to this post written July of 2016 on surefire ways of staying happy. I hope you enjoy reading it as I enjoyed writing it. #1 Do not care too much about what people  would say or think Many unhappy people are usually worried about what people are thinking or saying about them. This makes them feel timid and reluctant to try out some things which could transform their lives. Worrying about the opinions of other people won't change anything. You can never be sure of what anybody is thinking or saying behind your back, so why bother? #2 Love Yourself the way you are It is very important that you love yourself. Even the Holy Book said we should love our neighbors just as WE love ourselves. This means that it is imperative to love yourself FIRST, because this is how you'll be loving others. Unhappiness stems from making the huge mistake of loving other people first without genuine love for ourselves. We must start by loving ourselves the way we are which includes our p