The Bold Winner's Blog

Anyone who intentionally tries to make you feel worse about yourself - who belittles you, makes you feel unworthy or of no value, or forces you to go above and beyond just to prove your worth to them - is not meant to be in your life. That person, or group of people, is not your tribe. One of the biggest mistakes people make is building their lives around trying to change the minds, perspectives, or beliefs of such individuals. The result is almost always the same (unless by Divine intervention), their opinion of you will never change, no matter what you accomplish. So why do kind-hearted, empathetic, and well-meaning people fall into this trap? It lies in the natural human desire to be seen, valued, respected, and recognized as individuals with worth and purpose. This desire can be a healthy motivator when it drives us to contribute meaningfully to our communities and connect with others. But it becomes dangerous when we aim it at people who are committed to making us feel less; thos...

If some people can’t see your value; if they choose to judge or stereotype you based on your race, gender, beliefs, mannerisms, or whatever labels they’ve decided to operate from, don’t waste a single second trying to convince them otherwise. Not a second. Not a breath. Not a word. You don’t owe them clarity. You don’t owe them understanding. You don’t owe them anything . The best response has always been no response. Let them be. Let them think whatever nonsense they want to think about you. That’s their right. And your power is in giving them that freedom,  while reclaiming your own. Don’t shrink, explain, perform, or prove. Your life is not an audition for someone else's approval. Letting go without a fight -  that is power. That’s the kind of healing no one posts about on a sunny day with a green juice. Healing? It doesn’t always look pretty. Sometimes, it’s feeling the anger you buried a decade ago. It’s finally hearing your own voice again after years of silencing it to...

  You ever find yourself stuck in your head, wondering why something happened? Why a relationship ended. Why that opportunity didn’t come through. Why life isn’t going the way you imagined. I get it. I’ve been there too; trying to dissect, understand, and make sense of every little thing, especially when it involved people or situations that felt out of my control. But one day, I realized something simple that shifted everything: I don’t have to understand why. Seriously, you don’t need to figure it all out. Sometimes life just is. Things happen. People make choices. Circumstances change. And the truth is, trying to understand why can drain your energy and steal your joy; especially when the answers aren’t clear or the outcome can’t be changed. Instead of chasing explanations, I started choosing acceptance. I started telling myself: “If I can’t do anything about it; if it’s not something I can change, control, or influence, then it’s not worth my peace.” That doesn’t mean I don’t c...

I was reading the last chapters of a book that offered profound insights into life and spirituality. The book concluded with these powerful words: "As you drift back into Spirit, you will see that those are the eyes that look out upon this world. That is the heart that shines down upon everything and everyone. Through those eyes, the most wretched of creatures looks beautiful. That's the part that no one understands. People say that God cries when He looks at this earth. The saint sees that God goes into ecstasy when He looks upon this earth, under all conditions, and at all times. Ecstasy is the only thing God knows. God's nature is eternal, conscious bliss. No matter what you've done, you're not going to be the one thing that ruins it. The beauty is that you can experience this ecstasy. And when you begin to feel this joy, that's when you'll know God's nature. Then nobody will upset or disappoint you. Nothing will create a problem. It will all appear ...

  Have you ever done everything right - practiced affirmations, visualized your goals, believed in your own power - and still found yourself stuck, exhausted, or overwhelmed? If so, you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too. And I want to share something I learned the hard way: you are not supposed to carry the weight of life all by yourself. New Age teachings have become popular for a reason. They sound empowering. They tell you that you are everything, that you are your own “god,” that all of life depends solely on your energy, your mindset, your actions. It feels good to believe that if you just focus enough, work hard enough, or align your vibration, you can control everything. But here’s the truth: real life doesn’t work that way. Because while those teachings tell you to look inward for power, life has a way of humbling you. It brings struggles you didn’t ask for. Pain you can’t fix. Darkness you can’t shake with positive thinking alone. And eventually, you realize: maybe this b...

I was having a brief conversation with a friend, Sheraz, when an interesting discussion arose: why is it that even when we get the things we feel we want, we're still not truly satisfied? We always seem to seek something else; something just out of reach. It’s curious how, at different points in our lives, we find ourselves wanting something so badly that it feels like our entire existence will transform once we attain it. But then, after we finally get it and the temporary high fades, we’re right back to the same reality. We look into the depths of our own souls and realize that nothing has really changed; beyond what happened externally. His answer was that it’s because there’s no purpose - or perhaps, that our purpose hasn’t been found yet. I disagreed slightly, because sometimes I wonder: what if there is no specific purpose at all? What if we’re simply meant to live and experience life? What if experiencing  life and living every moment of it is our purpose? Why do we feel we...

If you have everything but lack love, you have nothing. - 1 Corinthians 13 Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes. Love is not about holding onto the negative things that have happened to us or what someone else may have done. No matter what, love is always trusting, always hoping, always persevering. There is no greater way than to never stop trusting, never stop hoping, and never stop persevering. Never give up on yourself or on God's promise for your life. Making mistakes is painful, but you must never let them define you. Stay true to the ideal version of yourself - the version beyond labels, skin color, nationality, race, gender, or any other external identity. You must hold onto the version of yourself created in the image and likeness of God - the one who was in the beginning, is now, and will be forever. The One who placed you here and lives within you. Even in your human imperfections, believe and trust in the highest version of yourself. Never give up on that. ...

Missed writing the past few weeks; I've been pretty occupied and wasn't feeling too great. But as you all know, those are just excuses, and I shouldn’t be making them 😂. Bottom line: I’m here, and I’m writing again. That’s what truly matters. Many times, we commit to certain things, hoping for a perfect track record. But life happens, and we miss a few times. However, the willingness to show up again despite those misses is what truly defines us. And on that note, let’s dive into today’s article. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how these article ideas come to me. I was taking a short break from work when I started reflecting on how everything changes, and how, as humans, we’ve learned to adapt. We position ourselves to handle whatever comes through knowledge, intelligence, and collaboration. That led me to this realization: Most of Our Problems Come from Forgetting Often, we get stuck in routines or mundane ways of doing things. We fail to remember that what anchors us amid e...

One of the greatest realizations I've had in life is the power of letting go of bad energy as it arises. We've all been there; someone does something annoying, or an event triggers frustration, and the immediate reaction is to respond. You might feel the urge to retaliate, to prove a point, or to exert energy into something negative. But what often happens when we engage with negativity? We end up feeling even more stressed and drained. If you feel the need to hurt someone or respond to negativity out of anger or hurt, it’s often a sign that unresolved energy is stored within you. In moments like these, when you first sense the urge to react, pause. Look inward. Question it. Ask yourself: Where is this feeling coming from? Why am I about to react this way? This moment of introspection is crucial in learning how to master avoiding negative energy. Every time you pause, reflect, and observe your emotions before acting impulsively, you reclaim your power. You take control of the s...

Hi friends, This week's article coincides with Valentine's Day, but ironically, I'm not writing about love. 😂 That said, since we're in the spirit of the day, I'll say one thing about love: Don't go into a relationship thinking someone else will "complete" you or make them the object of your happiness. That's dangerous territory. But that's not today's topic. I recently came across a video by Chris Haroun. It popped up in my email, and for a second, I was surprised. The last time I engaged with his content, it was about business and investment. I first discovered him at the start of the COVID year when Udemy made many courses available for free to help people upskill. So, getting an email from him about a video titled "How to Stop Worrying" caught me off guard. Before I continue, I'll share the video here. You might want to take a moment to watch it. What he said struck me, and I felt inspired to write about it. The Problem w...