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The Active Ones Take It All

Hey, you! Yes.. you! Are you still delaying that wonderful idea you may have been nursing for a while now? Have you been hesitating on starting that business, journey, career, course, or work you have  to do?

Have you identified a favorable opportunity, but you've not been able to utilize it because you're thinking too much about it? Then this article is for you. I want you to bear this at the back of your mind: "The active ones take it all."

Life offers everything to the ones who are active. Life doesn't care about your intention or what you're thinking of doing. It cares about what you're doing!

Let's say there are two people who intend to start a similar business, let's say it's a small restaurant. One of them has been nursing the idea for a long time and is very passionate about it. He keeps thinking and thinking of how to start up the business and get everything ready but has done nothing yet.

The other one also nurses the idea though he…

Reflections on The last Day of 2016

Take a moment to reflect over your whole life throughout this year, from January 1st till today. Think of your experiences, your good times, bad times, successes and failures. Think of your New Year resolution for 2016 and how far you have accomplished them.

Be thankful for your successes. Be thankful that you're alive and well. Be thankful that you've made it thus far despite any other thing. It's been a long and interesting year, lots of things have happened. It's funny how one year comes and goes in a twinkle of an eye. Question is: Have you utilized it well?

Spend some time alone today and really think about the way you have lived your life this year. Are you proud of it? Do you think you've made significant progress from the previous years? If yes, congratulations to you and set higher goals for yourself in 2017. If No, take extra time to find out why. Have you spend time on things that didn't matter? Have you planned yourself poorly? Have you missed out …

Reading Too Much?

You know why most youths are currently unemployed and roaming around the streets doing nothing? A number of them, don't have any skill, therefore they simply cannot do much. Many more are there because they read too much and did very little.

Reading is a very good thing, but I think when it's done to the extreme without any activity, practice or real life experience; it becomes an impediment to any individual.

In universities, book knowledge is too glorified. Nobody tells you that what will propel you out there in The Real world is WHAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY DO. They go on encouraging you to just read and pass exams and if you fall into that trap, they successfully turn you to robot. Students who escape this phenomenon are those who balanced their studies with activity. The school didn't do it for them, they did it for themselves.

These students take time to practice what they learn on their own. They either train themselves practically or they become an apprentice at any plac…

Let's Get Real About Love

Let's get real here about this issue of love. I'm not going to be playful about it. I'd be as plain as I can ever be. Forget everything you've seen in the movies or read about love. Let's just be honest and practical here.

Everyone here on earth I believe needs love and appreciation. I've not met anyone who doesn't. If you claim you don't, I think you should think again. I believe we all want someone who loves us just as much as we love them.

Here's the thing: We want to be loved, but often times we are not willing to love someone in that same way that we want to be loved. We want to be loved 'more' than the other party. We want to develop a sense of pride knowing that no matter what we do, the other party will still love us. But in reality, it doesn't work that way because the love becomes selfish. And when selfishness enters any love, it doesn't last.

You need to understand that just as you need someone who will love you so much, …

Are You a Chameleon or Painter? Find Out!

Dr.Cally Cussons ended his speech at a seminar today with the wonderful quote: "Don't be a chameleon, be a painter."  The words kept ringing inside my head because it kinda sums up everything that is required to motivate any individual who is poised to make positive change and impact in his/her society. I decided to create this post out of that quote:

Who is the chameleon? The chameleon is likened to the one who constantly changes color according to the environment he finds himself. The environment and external conditions determine how the chameleon would look like. It doesn't have a fixed color and it's unreliable.

A person can be said to be a chameleon when they're often influenced, discouraged and made doubtful by outside situations. A typical chameleon can be found always complaining about how difficult things are and how worse everything gets. The person is usually negative minded and has little control or will over things.

Who is the painter? The paint…

Waiting For The Right Time? Read This!

Consider this scenario: Let's say you're expecting a special guest today, but you don't know exactly when this guest will be coming to your house. You've cleaned up, decorated your house and prepared a wonderful meal for this visitor.

Which of these options do you think will do you good? A) Just sitting and waiting for him/her to show up. Or B) Forgetting that the person is even coming and engaging yourself with an activity; gaming, watching a movie, doing laundry etc.

The answer is obviously the latter. Why is that? Let's assume that this guest will come exactly by 3:00pm and you have no idea. Let's also assume you've finished all your preparation as early as 9:00am.

It will do you little good to just sit idly and let 6 hours of your time pass you by in the name of waiting. And whenever you're anxiously waiting for something to happen like that, it will appear as if time has become very slow. You will not be relaxed and you'll often be unhappy wai…

How To Be A Winner Every Time

I was discussing with a friend sometime ago and he was telling me that without having a connection in the country, one couldn't really make any headway. He stressed that most of the available opportunities and jobs out there have already been taken by relatives of connected people.

I asked him a question, "Does it mean that people who don't have such connections do not succeed?" He reluctantly replied, "The reality is that everything is based on connection." I had to disagree with him even though there was an element of truth in his words. It was only a half truth.

Just as there were people who became successful via connections, there are also people who were not even changed by their connections. Other people got ahead through hard work and merit, while some people even with all the hard work have still not changed.

I had to let him know that there are no clear cut or easy ways to be successful. You only have to plan to always win, no matter the outcome. …

The Easiest Way To Get Better At Anything

Meet Eno Sam, she's an artist and she has a strong passion for drawing. When she started, her drawings weren't so admirable. At that time, when she tried real life drawing, what she drew was far from resembling the object she was drawing.

Even though Eno wasn't that spectacular when she started, she wasn't discouraged to keep drawing.  She kept drawing and she gradually started improving. What kept her going was her passion for the arts. She loved to do what she was doing and that was more than enough to keep her drawing.

Today, her portraits are close to perfection and it wouldn't be surprising to see her works start competing with top artists around the world.

Here's what she has to say:
"Go for what you have passion for!"
"Never think you can't, just start and watch yourself get better. The first picture is really funny but it took courage to keep trying(referring to the above picture)."

"When you have passion for something, nev…

7 Ways To Bail Out From Addictions

Addictions can be difficult to deal with but with the right tips, one can emerge a victor no matter how far one has gone. Some folks find themselves imprisoned by smoking, drinking, pornography, spending time with T.V or social media (especially in this age), masturbation and the likes.

 Releasing oneself from these ugly monsters is not a walk in the park, it can be so frustrating that some often resort to fate and throw in the towel, living a miserable life afterwards. They even go as far as accepting the saying that, "We don’t break addictions they break us."

The misery that comes with addiction can be immediate or long-term, it can come in form of health, emotional, psychological issues which leads to strain in relationships, loss of jobs and so on.

Here are few tips to get yourself a bail:

Acknowledge the existence of a problem
It is a matter of great importance to tell yourself that there is a problem before anything else. Since those who are well have no need of a phys…

Play The Fool Sometimes

I once came across a joke where a certain woman wanted to know her husband's reaction if she left home without notice. So she decided to write him a letter explaining that she was tired of him, didn't want to live with him anymore and loved him no more. She also mentioned that she had left their home to be with her lover.

After writing it, she put the letter on the table in their bedroom and hid under the bed. When her husband came back home, he saw the letter and read it. Then, he wrote his own message down and began to sing joyfully and dance while changing his clothes.

He said, "Yes, this woman is finally gone for good! " So he took out his phone, dialed someone, then said: "Hey sweetie, I'm just changing my clothes then I will join you. As for the other fool, it has finally dawned on her that I was fooling around behind her back so she left me. See you soon, honey!" Then he walked out of the room.

In tears, the wife got up from under the bed and de…

Always Have A Plan

Every day each of us is given 24 hours. Some use it very well, while some others waste it. But we are all given that exact 24 each day. Those who are running the world today, winning and taking territories as they want are masters in the game of utilising time.

There is one way you can train yourself to utilise your  time very well and that is by always having a plan. A plan is what guides and motivates you towards whatever you wish to achieve in this world. With a plan, it's difficult to waste your time, trust me.

In 24 hours people travel to different countries, attend many meetings, give speeches, run businesses etc. In that same 24 hours, some people achieve nothing. The difference is in having a plan.

Without a plan, we'd be merely floating and our time will be poorly utilized. It's true that things may not always work according to how we plan it, but that shouldn't stop us from having one because a plan is what keeps us going.

Many people live average or below a…

Your Power To Ignore

When I was a little kid in primary school, some of my folks used to call me "Big Head." And anytime they said that to me; I got angry and reacted in a negative way that seemed kind of pleasing to them.

I often wondered why they did it: Was my head really that big? Was it because I occasionally came top of the class? Or were these kids plainly bent on offending me? These questions bothered me and then one day I reported to my teacher.

She smiled, looked at me and said, "Ike, anytime they call you big head again, simply pretend like you didn't hear them and continue with whatever you're doing."

To be honest, I wasn't happy with her recommendation. I expected her to flog the hell out of these kids and make them pay. Little did I know that her advice will go a long way to form some of the basic principles which I live by.

I did as she asked. It was difficult initially because when they saw that I wasn't reacting the way I used to, they intensified thei…

Russian's Sergey Karjakin becomes First To Win A Game In 2016 World Chess Championship

What a twist of events! After 7 gruelling draws out of the 8 chess games played so far by the contesting chess masters, it turns out Sergey Karjakin, the 26 year old from Russia is the first to draw the blood in a game against Chess World Champion, Magnus Carlsen.

The game played yesterday was a tough one in which Magnus Carlsen played very ambitiously. He was really playing to win. I feel he was tired of all the draws and played very aggressively that he made some errors which led to his loss.

The Russian challenger remained calm and wasn't really perturbed by the Current World Champion's surprising moves. He kept his cool and kept playing solidly. Carlsen kept going for it, while Karjakin was just patiently waiting and defending properly. Consequently, Carlsen ignored certain principles and made errors because of that which led to his loss.

I personally have learnt a lot from this surprising game. It's not all about playing aggressively and trying to win at any cost. In…

Are You Simply Waiting To Die And Go To Heaven?

Many people desire to go to heaven when they die. "Heaven is a perfect place where you have anything you want," they say. It is a good ideal and I'm not against it. My question to every one of them is: "Since you're still alive here on earth, why not make this world a better place?"

The way I see it, most people are just waiting to die and go to this perfect place. Most of them have given up on life and console themselves with the promise of heaven. They don't want to have anything to do with this earth. "The earth is corrupt and must be destroyed," they say.

These people are mostly poor people who see themselves as "nice and good" and they claim to be guaranteed of heaven because they are saints on earth who have not committed any sin.

What It Means To Be Positive

"I'm positive that I'd be rich," "I believe I will excel in whatever I do," "I believe I'd be a president," "I believe I will be a great speaker," these are positive words, but simply saying them will not make these wishes come to pass.

A lot of New Age information going around tells people that they should simply visualise and think about whatever they want and they'll be attracting it to themselves. Taking this information literally will only lead to disappointments and frustration.

It's wonderful to want to be described as positive individuals, but do we really know what that means? Being positive is much more than just thinking, visualization and believing. There is more to it than some people probably think.

What You See is What You Get

Consider these two different people: Mr. A and Mr. B. Mr. A spends his time focusing on all his problems and easily sees reasons to complain. He continues to argue about how things are supposed to be, but really does nothing about it.

Mr. A continuously looks out for who or what is going wrong and as a result, that's what he gets. He gets angry over little things that people do and he easily gives up when any challenge comes up.

Mr. B is different. He has conditioned his mind to simply focus on what he wants to achieve. He has refused to see anything else that is negative or anything that tries to discourage/stop him.

As a result, Mr. B doesn't see problems as Mr. A does, he sees opportunities for him to realise his goal in what looks like a problem. Mr. B doesn't complain, rather he tries to do what he can do solve any problems and move towards his goal.

What people are saying or doing and the way things have changed is not a problem to Mr. B. He's too focused to let…

How To Accurately Predict The Future

Have you ever wondered how it would feel if all your predictions came true? Wow.. It is great. And I've been having fun with this precious knowledge ever since I learnt it. Pals, it's like everything is bending to my will and command. Simply works like magic.

You're lucky if you're among those reading this right now because I'm about to let you in on this great secret. It's the golden key that let's you accurately predict the future.

I know you're probably in doubt. And you may be wondering how possible it is to do so. Well, all I ask is that you keep reading because after that, you'd experiment and see for yourself.

Nothing Comes For Free

Many people complain that they don't have some things they really deserve or that despite their hardest work, they achieve very little. Therefore, they are discouraged in whatever they do and tend to stop giving out their best.

For some other people, it appears that they do very little work and all the money is following them. They don't have to stress themselves like others, but money just keeps chasing them.

"Why is life this way?" they ask. "Life is not fair. " they scream. Some start trying to explain it by saying its the hands of fate and not everyone has the same destiny. When they're satisfied with whatever excuse they've cooked up, they're comforted in their misery and quit trying.

Here's the truth... Life is completely fair. Life has been so well arranged that everyone gets exactly what they deserve. It appears some people have it easier when you only look at where they are presently.

Don't Ever Feel Inferior About Who You Are

Why is it that most blacks are the ones complaining about being treated unfairly or unjustly? Why are we the ones complaining about racism all the time? Why are we the ones who are always on the defensive?

The answer lies in inferiority complex. When you are already feeling inferior about yourself and where you are from, it is easy for you to see faults in what other people are saying or doing.

You are always complaining about how they treat you and how they disrespect you. But do you really respect and value yourself? Or are you quick to pick offense over any little thing?

The Power Of Your Attention

What has your attention? What do you spend much of time focusing it on? Do you look out for existing opportunities or do you keep looking at things that went wrong?

Our attention has tremendous power and if we can direct it to the appropriate endeavors, we can actually come up with ideas and plans to greatly improve our lives and the society.

Most of us channel much of our attention to things that do not really add much value to our lives. We are either focused on sports, movies, entertainment etc. These things are important when engaged in once in a while.

Much of your attention has to be channeled to something that you can make a contribution into. Don't channel your attention to the past or on things that you haven't done so well in.

Always Be Decisive

Kathy claims she's in love with two different guys and she's having a hard time figuring out who to choose between the two. She's been dating both of them simultaneously for about a year now.

She has continued dating them and increasingly being more reluctant to make up her mind. It seems as if she's just enjoying the feeling of having two lovers and has forgotten to take a decision on which of them to stick with.

Turns out that with time, the two men dating Kathy got to find out about the game she has been playing with the two of them and Kathy consequently lost them both. Till date she still regrets not taking a decision on time.

Kathy's story is just an example out of many cases of being indecisive. Every moment of our lives we are faced with different choices and the choices we make go a long way to define who we are.

Our Beliefs Are Incredibly Powerful

I am thoroughly convinced that no matter the amount of evidence presented to someone whose belief is absolute on an issue, that person will never change their position on it.

Our beliefs are so powerful that they continue to control and shape our everyday lives. It's not like your beliefs actually changes anything in reality, it's just that the beliefs help you interpret reality differently and see things you never saw before.

I'm pretty sure you're familiar with the expressions "I said it," and "I thought as much." These are so common because people are often conditioned to see what they believe in and therefore confirm it with those words.

Donald Trump's Victory And What We Can Learn From It.

From the Moment the Business tycoon and former TV reality star made known his intentions to run for America's presidency in June 2015, Donald Trump started facing serious challenges.

He was called all sorts of names ranging from a xenophobe, misogynist, bigot, rapist etc and he was labelled as one who had no respect for women. They released videos of him making some inappropriate statements years ago which he apologized for.

Allegations from various women who have been quiet started coming up against him from nowhere. They all claimed Trump sexually harassed them. All these were to tarnish this man's image and smear his reputation.

But there is something about Donald. J. Trump which helped him pull through even with all these labels and accusations. There was something that made the American people continue believing in this man even with lots of information from the media saying negatives about him.

Knowledge Without Practice Is Useless

Here's Jack.. He has read almost every book on how to get rich and successful in life. He can tell you everything about Kiyosaki's Rich Dad, Poor Dad and even the Cash Flow Quadrant.

But Jack doesn't have enough money to feed himself, talk less of pay his rent. His trousers even have visible holes in them. He's so poor. Why is this so even with his wide knowledge on how to become wealthy?

Meet Michael, He just graduated from the University. He knows every theory and formular in the engineering field. He has proven himself by being able to memorize and give back to his teachers what they gave him.

Do You Believe Whatever Will Be, Will Be?

You must have heard it a number of times "What will be will be." This is a phrase that people often use when they want to give up on something.

But what will be, won't be if you do nothing about it yourself. If you're a student, you have to study your books for you to be able to pass the examinations. You don't sit back and say that what will be will be while doing nothing.

If you're a doctor, you don't tell your patients that what will be will be, then allow them die! Of course, you try and find out what's wrong with them, then see what you can do.

If you're hungry, you'll have to cook or find something to eat. You don't sit there and say what will be will be about feeding, then stay hungry.

What It Means To Be Yourself

How many times have you gotten the response "I'm just being myself." when you ask people why they didn't do some things or why they did something wrong?

My guess is: quite a lot of time. "I am happy to be myself" is one of the most popular responses these days. People are adopting it because it makes them feel good about themselves.

But do we really get what it means to be oneself or are we using the phrase as an excuse to dodge certain things we are meant to do?

Being yourself actually means that you tell yourself the truth at all times. If you did something wrong, you should tell yourself the truth that you messed up and find ways to correct it.

If you feel like you need to improve, you'd accept it and work on yourself to become better. If you aspire to be like someone else or even better, you tell yourself the truth and make plans to become so.

I Love You

These three words were meant to be an expression that connotes a deep feeling of love and respect for another. These days it has become overrated.

"I love you" has become so common these days that the true meaning of the words have lost its taste. People say it so easily without even knowing what they're saying.

Some say those words only when they want something from you. They hide behind these words and when you fall for it, you get to see what's actually behind it.

On The Rise Of Feminism And Gender Equality

I've been quiet about this whole argument over gender equality and feminism. Equality does not mean that men and women are the same.
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We are obviously not the same. Look at a man and a woman and you'd clearly see we are not the same.
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Equality in that sense means that Men and Women should be given equal opportunities. Women could do some things better given the same opportunities.

When Knowledge Becomes Dangerous

"Johnny, just wait for the electrician to come o." Johnny's father said.

"Papa, I can fix this thing, am I not an engineering student?" Johnny replied ignoring his father's suggestion. It happened that Johnny was mildly electrocuted and he was lucky it was just mildly.

"Did it shock you?" came the question from the father. He must've heard some sparks and his son's muffled scream.

"No Papa, it did not shock me o, let's just wait for the electrician to come." replied Johnny, who has been humbled.

Be Determined, Courageous, Brave and Fear Nothing

I was going through Facebook updates this morning when I stumbled upon a friend's post. He wrote down the words of his late father to him:

"My son, I have no doubt that you will make it, so don't be in a hurry, but be determined, be courageous and above all be brave, fear nobody but God..."

I had to spend a few moments thinking about that. I saw the totality of life contained within these words. All the ingredients to be a successful human being were all pointed out in a few lines. Of course, it got my attention.

I'll love to analyze it:

The Beautiful Mind Of A Child

When a child is born, the mind is very pure, untainted, unbiased. The mind is described as 'Tabular rasa' according to Francis Bacon.

Nothing clutters this beautiful, natural and endowed mind. That's why children are very inquisitive. The way the look at your face for a long period of time says it all. Even the way they play.

Have you really observed little children play? That's the most beautiful thing to see. Just make sure they don't know you're watching them and observe how creative

Why We Must Be Interested In Politics

A country which has the right political systems in place is a country poised towards greatness. No country can go far with bad politics.

Most people would love to write off politics. They don't care about it. They don't care about who rules them. To these people, all politicians are corrupt and evil and nothing can change that.

Their minds are made up about politics and the state of affairs of their nation. More and more people are buying into this idea and are becoming indifferent to politics.

"What can we do?" They often ask. Look at what's happening so far with all our indifference and optimism. Things are getting worse and more inappropriate persons

5 Core Principles Of Growth

1. Truth 
Growth comes with truth. You must free yourself from any limiting beliefs and embrace the truth at all times. When the truth is known, it is easier to make plans that will work and deliver results. Learn to see things as they are and stop making unnecessary assumptions and inferences. The truth is usually plain and simple.

2. Love
Love is the essence of all creation. When you love what you're doing and you love yourself, growth is inevitable. Always embrace the light of love. Learn to feel good

Learn From Donald Trump's Mistake

Inasmuch as we would like to always forget about the past and focus on the present, we must also be cognizant of the fact that the past can sometimes rear its ugly head up.

Last Friday, a tape made in 2005 was released which showed the current Republican presidential nominee making some lewd comments about women.

That was 11 years ago. Most people would have easily forgotten about that. But you see, it

Life Rewards The Bold And Courageous

I learnt about a man, who was making a presentation to young adults at a seminar. Towards the end of his speech, he brought a $100 bill and told his audience that he would give out the money to one of them.

He continued, "This money will be given to one of you who really wants it. " "So which of you really wants this money? "

Lots of the young persons listening to him raised up their hands in lightening speeds. Some others waved two hands while a few of them stood up also raising their hands.

But then, there was this young girl that did something different. While others people were busy screaming, standing and raising up their hands waiting to be given the money, this girl

Don't Settle For Less

I've heard it from a large number of people. "Manage" "Make do with what you have" "Live your life in this particular way" "Things are tough, so drop your lofty dreams and settle for less".

Things like these are said everyday to different people around the world. Everyday you're told to manage and settle for things you don't want because life is not a bed of roses.

You start listening to them and you take up the job you know you clearly hate. You marry the

5 Lessons Learnt From Playing Piano Tiles 2

I downloaded the piano tiles game a month ago after I noticed it was quite popular among my peers. I wanted to find out what made the game enticing to play. So I downloaded and started playing it.

It was a simple and lovely game. To play, you just have to keep the music playing by pressing the moving tiles across your screen as they roll past.

What made me love the game was the different classical music tunes contained in it. And the songs really brought back some good childhood memories.

I was instantly hooked. And I played that game for hours at a go. To make matters worse, it

The One Advice You Need To Overcome Failure

One of the most common mistakes most people make when trying to do something is not preparing for the worst thing that could happen.

This leaves them in a position where they could easily get discouraged should they encounter difficulties hitherto unprepared for.

It is wise for you to always prepare for the worst possible thing that could happen before

A Lesson From A Game Of Darts

I learnt something from playing a game of darts yesterday. It's amazing how simple things like that teach us life lessons if we really get the message.
I wasn't used to playing darts always, so when I decided to play it again with some friends yesterday after a long period of time, I seriously got worse at aiming.
I wondered what the problem was and why I often missed. I'm naturally a very persistent person, so I decided that I will continue playing until I achieved my target which was to not miss any of the 8 darts I threw at the target board.
I tried many times and it was difficult to achieve that. I had to start over anytime I missed. In The Course of these attempts, I discovered something.
My mind was focused on perfectly gripping the dart and positioning myself well. I was often too conscious of holding the dart that I overlooked where my target was.
I was trying to throw the dart with the perfect grip and the perfect stance. But all the needless worry about perfecti…

The Sun Keeps Shining

This afternoon after revising my notes, I went outside my balcony and took out time to look at the sky.

I observed the movement of the clouds and the sun, which was shining from a distance. The Sun was out there as always and kept on shining and giving out light to the day.

I felt as if it was smiling at me because I couldn't remember the last time I cared

Don't Let It Define You

It's easier to believe you're a failure when you've tried many things and failed.

It's easy to lose hope when the circumstances surrounding you look hopeless.

It's easy to think you're not good enough when you don't get the results you expect.

Here's the thing you have to know: There is no easy way out of any challenge

A Lesson From 3 Idiots

I watched the movie '3 Idiots' a few years ago and I guess I didn't learn the real lesson hidden behind that movie.

I probably watched it for fun and I was inspired to an extent. But it took a few more years to get the hidden message in it.

For many years, I've lived my life doing as I'm told and following laid out patterns for me. I restricted myself from really being who I was and lived like a robot.

I never followed my passions. I never did the things that I really needed to do to make other

Get Over It

You studied very hard for an examination and when the results came out, you got a "C", get over it!
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You ask a girl out on a date and she turns you down, get over it! There are a million other girls out there willing to go on a date with you.
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Your girlfriend or boyfriend just broke up with you for no reason, get over it. He/she may not be the right one for you.
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You post your picture on social media and few to no people liked it or commented on

Become The Actor In Your Movie

This world is just like a big movie in reality. There are different scenes of the movie playing out in different locations around the world.

Only God can watch every part of this complex movie. Each individual only watches a unique part of the movie which can NEVER BE watched by any other person but the individual. Think about that for a second.

Everything going on around you is watched by you uniquely! Even if someone had been going to the same places with you all your life, you

Don't Sacrifice Your Own Happiness

It's impossible to make other people happy when you're unhappy yourself. It's important that we all understand the fact that our own happiness is very important.

Most people would like to buy into the idea of sacrificing their own happiness so that other people will be happy.

I think this idea is flawed because in sacrificing your own happiness, you end up unhappy while trying to make other people happy. Does it make sense to you?

Why do we often forget that it's very possible to make other people happy while also being

Focus On The Solution And Not The Problem

I think the reason why the problems we face in life stick around for too long is that we focus too much on them instead of focusing on their solutions.

If I want to solve a math question, I don't stay there lamenting about how large the question is or how difficult it looks or how lengthy the process to solve it entails. I only look at the

The Fear Of What Others May Think

A girl played a prank on me recently. When I gave her my phone, she downloaded her profile picture on Facebook, logged into my Whatsapp account and changed my own profile picture with hers without my knowledge.

I didn't often log into my Whatsapp and the few times I did, I didn't bother to check my profile picture, so I was oblivious of what had

Have You Given Up Already?

While playing a game of Billiards with some friends at a game center, I overheard someone complaining about how hopeless the situation in our country was. He was thoroughly convinced that nothing else could be done and there was no hope that things would ever be better.

I was just positioning myself to hit the cue ball with my stick, but when I thought about what he said and the few people who were nodding

8 Ways To develop A Good Mental Attitude

This article was originally posted by me as a guest post on the website www.pickthebrain.com .
Here are eight ways to develop a strong mental attitude: 
1. Love Yourself The Way You Are This seems so obvious but very difficult for most people to do. Most people hate themselves and their lives. They hate their looks, their jobs, their country and sometimes life itself. This attitude greatly affects their outlook on life and they see negativity in everything. 
This is simply because they've not accepted their realities. You have to love yourself the way you are and accept whatever life has dealt

That Little Fear

Some days after I wrote my most liked Facebook Post, I simply became afraid to write again. Ideas came, but I was reluctant to put them down. Why? Because I've been too conscious of not writing another article which will not be as good as that one.
But then, If I stopped writing because I feared that I wouldn't meet that same standard, then I may never write again.
After thinking about this fresh phobia for some time, I felt funny and a bit naive. In truth, there was nothing to be afraid of. Whether people liked my posts or not, it didn't

How To Discover Your Purpose In Life

It is sad that in rapidly developing world like ours, few people actually know their purpose in life whereas the majority of people do not.

When few people know their purpose, they can only solve a tiny fraction of the various problems in our world, but imagine a world where most people know exactly their various purposes and contribute to solving problems with it.

Our era has been bombarded with lots of information, belief systems, orthodox rules, etc which has made it more difficult and confusing for an average individual to actually discover his/her purpose.

This article has been designed to help you find that purpose and be rest assured that after reading this article and following the directions therein, you'll find your purpose here on earth.

To start with, look at these quotes by Oprah Winfrey :
"I've come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that's as unique as a fingerprint and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then f…

A Day With The ATM Machine

What I'm about to tell you happened yesterday in town when I went to use my ATM at a Diamond bank branch. I walked into the ATM booth with a friend of mine Daniel.

 We were quite discouraged at the crowd outside waiting to withdraw money, but compared to the previous banks we've checked