Hi guys, my apologies for not being consistent so far with writing on this blog. I really have a lot on my hands right now and things have been happening so fast. But nevertheless, I will always make out some time to share some of the success insights I come across on this great blog.
Today, I'll be sharing with you one of the most neglected advice to succeed in life. A lot of motivational speakers and life coaches will usually say to you: "Work hard, remain consistent and never give up." That's the main highlight of most of the success advices you get.
They keep saying to you "Work without any days off," "work now while they party, you will reap the benefits later." and they always remind you that the darkest hour is usually just before dawn, so you should never think of quitting.
It's not like they are wrong about what they are saying.. It's just that sometimes this mainstream advice is too overrated and makes it seem as if success in life is just about hardwork.
By now, I guess if you've been following this blog you already know that some of the hardest working people are not the most successful. Success isn't just about hardwork as most of us have been programmed to believe.
It definitely involves some 'hard(if you want to consider it hard) work" anyway.. And I'm not saying working isn't involved in success. What I'm saying is that it's not the only factor. And that's why I'm sharing with you this particular success advice which I believe is one of the most neglected and key factors for a man's success. Read the next sentences as many times as you want and let them sink deep down into your subconscious mind:
You need people! You must build relationships with people if you want to succeed. You can't do without people, no matter what career you want to choose.
People matter and the way you relate with them as a human being matters as well. You can work as hard as you want, but if you don't at least try to relate well and build some level of relationship with other people around you, I think you're greatly limiting your chances of winning in life.
You must consciously care and build quality relationship with people. It doesn't just have to be family or close associates. You should try to go outside your comfort zone and genuinely care about the people.
One piece of information, one referral, one signature, one good recommendation from any human being can be the missing link to what you've been looking for all your life! And you have been busy working all your life for it when it could have been just starting up a conversation with a neighbor that could link you up speedily with it.
This life is like one huge puzzle game. You pick the pieces as you move.. Most of the missing pieces in your own puzzle are actually with some people who surprisingly may be right under your nose. There's no machine or psychic to tell you who has the link or not.. lol. You have to navigate life yourself and find those pieces for yourself. How would you find it if you barely relate with people?
And how do you relate and build good relationships with people: Your words, your acts of kindness or assistance, your occasional gifts and going out of your way to show genuine concern over what's going on in their personal lives.
Look, people feel more connected to someone who really cares about their well-being than someone who only cares about his work.
If you take a peek at the lives of very successful people, you will find out that these people don't joke with attending important people functions, going for major parties, participating in community meetings, checking up on close friends and family etc.
Despite the fact they may seem very busy, but guess what? They still find time to socialize, communicate and mingle with other people. The successful people know this very well and that's why they stay on top.
If you're a people person, you'll hardly lose. Most of those people who you have built a trustworthy relationship with over the years will always be ready to stand by you and for you. You will be an individual who is not just on his own but an individual who is united with people.
And guess what... If you were working hard towards something and let's say you know about 100 people who you have built a good relationship with, you have multiplied your chances of achieving what you're working for by 100!
With effective communication, these people will know what you're involved with or seeking for and they will easily render you any information they get that can help you make progress. Combine that with your hardwork and you're flying high in no time!
In our world today, we are becoming too individual. Most of us only care about ourselves, our pockets and our problems. We don't really care the slightest about saying a friendly "hi" to that neighbor or even find out why he or she is looking so sad. We hurry off to work, come back and we stay on our own.
Does it really help us that much? For most people, they think that staying on their own will help them avoid problems and will make them happier or better disposed to achieve their goals. But really, does it? Is any one of us really happy being totally alone and disconnected from people around us? It's a rhetorical question we all need to ask ourselves.
If you've been working too hard and not been networking or communicating well with people you come across, please just try this exercise for this week: Try to start conversations and genuinely care about at least three different people(who you come across with daily) for this week alone. You'll be surprised at the results before the end of this week.
Care and build a strong relationship with other people rather than just yourself and keep on winning.
This blog will always be dedicated to your success..
Until next time,