Use Your Tool

Every one of us has been created with unique sets of tools in the form of talents. These tools are there for us to utilise them and become the best version of ourselves. The more you use your tools, the more tools you acquire.

Take for example a child who has been enrolled in school. He starts doing very well, using his brain as a tool to understand his subjects and pass his exams in flying colors. This earns him extra tools in the form of results and certificates which he can use to access other greater possibilities.

Or you can think about that child who wasn't privileged to complete his education. The child may be smart, but his parents were not able to continue catering for his fees. The child is forced to work with maybe his father or mother in business. There he learns about a passion for buying and selling. He picks that up as a tool and eventually turns out a big businessman and was finally able to complete his formal education.

You may think of another child who never had an opportunity to go to any school, born to indigent parents who were so poor, they could barely feed him. The child grows up in an atmosphere of hardship and gets to learn about life the hard way. However, while growing up, he discovered that he had the unique ability to make his friends or just about anyone in his community laugh out loud. He harnesses this tool and becomes a professional comedian in his locality, living comfortably and breaking out of the poverty chain with his earnings.

Imagine that young girl, who's fed up with school, discovers her passion for cooking and uses this tool to start up a small scale restaurant which grows beyond expectation and leads her to expand her cuisine business to a larger population accumulating lots of profit for her.

These are just random scenarios, but they are quite common to a number of people. We all have unique tools at our disposal, no matter who we think we are or where we have come from. Everyone has a tool. The difference between the successful people in life and the failures lies in how well these tools are identified and made use of.

There is something unique about you. It might not just be one thing, it could be many things, but whether it's one or many, at least something sets you apart. It may be the way you smile, the way you read, your style of writing, the way you solve puzzles, the way you cook, the way you sing, the way you dance or act and just about the way you do any other thing.

You must maximize and make use of the peculiarity or all those peculiarities you find in yourself. There is no single standard to judge everyone because we are all different and we are not meant for the same things. If you're not unique in reading and writing after trying too hard, there's no need to be bitter at yourself or become jealous of those who are exceptionally good at it, simply because: not being good at it means that you're good in some other fields. It's your duty to figure out that place which you're good in. Figure out other tools you can use.

The focus should be on building something out of nothing with ANY tools we can lay hands upon. The particular tool used don't matter. What matters is that you're building something with a tool. That's what counts. So, take an introspective look into your personal life today, ask yourself if you're using your tools. If the answer is no, pick any of your tools and start building something on it. If yes, keep it up!

Some people, like myself, are multi-talented and they find it difficult to select a particular tool for building. My advice to such people is this: You're lucky that you're multi-talented, it means that you have many possibilities to build and create what you want, instead of wasting time trying to figure out the best tool to use and develop yourself, simply pick on any of the tools and start building something with that particular one you picked, other tools at your disposal will find a way to play their roles in that building you've started with one particular tool.

 Anyone of your tools are okay. Building is the goal. If along the building, you feel like the tool you picked isn't good enough, feel free to switch tools and continue to build something. That's the key for multi-talented people who are pretty confused on which talents to develop. It's easier for people talented clearly in one thing.

Use your tools and just keep building something! 

Why Commit Suicide?

I was inspired to write this article because of a friend who was contemplating suicide because she felt her Dad didn't love her. This was my response:

"Damn.. (name),

Please calm down. You can't kill yourself over anyone. It's not worth it. If your dad is really giving you some headache, distance yourself away from him and stop being too hard on yourself my dear. 

Please, many people out there care about you and they really love you. I care about you too. Else, I won't bother typing this stuff. 

Please, understand that many people love you and want you just the way you are. Moreover, you should love yourself above all else. 

If your Dad is really as terrible as you think, don't try too hard to please him. Just keep your distance from him and still keep in touch with those who really care about you. 

Because the truth is: It's his choice to care about you or not. It's his choice to love you or not. It's his choice to be nice to you or just be wicked. He has his choices. But his choices shouldn't matter to you because you have your own choices. 

You have the choice to keep your distance, respect and honor yourself. Thinking of committing suicide is cowardice. And don't You ever think along those lines again. It's a stupid thought. 

I know such a thought may have come as a way to get back to your dad and prove a point, but it's plain stupid because it won't change anything. Your dad won't probably cry and he may not even give a damn about it. So why think of hurting yourself through suicide. 

The best revenge will be to stay happy. it's a choice you must make. Whether dad loves you or hates you shouldn't matter to you. I mean, why should it bother bother you? 

It's their problem to love you or hate you. But you shouldn't depend on them loving or hating you to be a happy individual. Be happy by doing exactly what makes you happy and going for what you really want. 

Stop this feeling hurt and contemplating suicide. It means you're losing it. I don't want you to lose it. I want you to win it by making yourself happy and being happy even if your dad decides to not care or not love you. 

Be happy. and don't put your mind into it. Okay? I love you and many others out there really do. And your blog's great. Be happy for me and others who love you. Why commit suicide? It ain't worth it. Please."


I've decided to share my response with you guys in case there is anyone else who is thinking of taking his/her own life as a result of someone else's behavior or situation for that matter.

Bold winners understand that no matter the situation they face, whether it comes from another human being or a thing, there is always a way out of it. Suicide is the cowards way out.

No one should take his life over anyone or anything. It's absurd and it just goes to show that one is a loser. You're a winner. You were designed to win and triumph over every challenge that comes your way. You should face them and choose to be happy by making your own choices rather than put your fate IN the hands of another.

That someone doesn't behave in a particular way to you doesn't mean you should take your own life over that person. I mean, you're simply giving control to that person over your own life. Neither should the outcome of any venture move you to suicide. These things are not in control. As a bold winner, you're always in control. Your life is yours and you bloody own it!

So be in control of your life and let nothing control it for you. Live your life happy. And no matter what it is, just don't ever think of taking your own life because it's plain stupid and implies that you ultimately lost.

The joy of winning over challenges that seemed insurmountable is greater than anything else. Find that joy and keep winning. People love you, your success story is coming around pretty soon. Just hang on.

#Ikechukwu 

Learn To Be Proud of Yourself

"I messed up in that exam today," "I'm not good enough," "I'm useless," "I can't achieve it," "They're better than me," "I'm a failure," "I'm not worth it," All these thoughts go round and round the minds of different people in different places across the globe every single day.

It's not that these thoughts pay or that they are beneficial to anyone. It's just that many people have formed the habit of thinking that way and seeing themselves that way. That's why we have many unhappy people today, all those kinds of thought keep going on in their heads.

But I want every one of you to think about this article I shared on my Facebook timeline and make changes to your thought process and lifestyle:

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When last did you tell yourself that you were proud of yourself? When last did you say to yourself.. "I'm (Name) and I'm damn proud of myself." Ask yourself that question.

You're always busy inside your head saying negative things to yourself. The more you say negative things to self, the more you begin to accept it as your identity and the more it becomes reality to you!

Please, take some time everyday to think of reasons why you're proud of yourself so far. Think of your successes. We are so used to thinking and seeing only our failures. Decide to Remember your successes.

Remember when you aced that exam? Remember when you did something others were proud of. Remember when you won that competition. Remember when you carried out that project successfully. Remember how beautiful you look. Remember how wonderful your voice sounds. Remember how you usually come tops in a card game. Remember anything about yourself that you are proud of today.

Take some time away from negatively thinking about self and think good thoughts about yourself. It greatly builds your self esteem against all odds. Your government or community won't do that for you. It is your responsibility to build your self esteem and it starts with being proud of who you are and your accomplishments, no matter how tiny they seem to you. 

Now, switch that mindset from negative to positive and just smile for me today. I love you. Yes you. :)

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That's it. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones that empower you, motivate you and feel good about yourself on a daily basis. Don't forget to do this.

Keep winning! 

An Experience With The Pie

Today's Article was inspired by my personal experience when I wanted to buy a meat pie. I was really hungry and looking for some snack to devour when I decided to go for the pie.

The seller was a young lady probably in her late twenties and I learnt the pies she sold were tasty. So I ordered for one pie and she quickly selected one of them from the pack, wrapped it quickly and handed it over to me, so I didn't really get to see the pie she selected.

However on collecting the pie, I felt that it wasn't really a complete pie. It was way shorter than the other ones from where she had picked and some parts of it had already broken off. So she literally handed me half of what I paid for.

There were two choices here: To accept the half pie and make payment just like that since she had already wrapped it up or to really demand for a pie that's worth the money I'm to pay. Of course, I preferred to make the best choice of getting full value for my money.

So I politely told her that I wasn't really going to accept that pie and I requested for a better one. She tried to argue that it was all the same and nothing was really wrong with the pie. At this point of some resistance, certain people would simply have agreed with her just to "avoid creating any issues."

But here's something you must know: If you really want to achieve, get or have anything, you must be willing to continue going for it no matter what others may think, say or or do. If you want to avoid trouble or if you tend to consider too much of the risks, problems or outcomes, then you don't really want that thing. 

So, after her initial resistance to change the pie, I still insisted that I didn't want that pie. I wanted another one. I wasn't settling for less when more was available. I wasn't going for a bad choice when there was a better one because I didn't want trouble. I wanted another complete pie, and I was willing to stick with that choice not considering it's costs.

Well she had to smile, return the pie and offer me exactly what I wanted to satisfy my appetite at that point. I smiled back at her and made my payment. And that's how it ended.

That short event got me thinking. What if I had accepted the other pie just like that? Who's loss would it be? What if I hadn't insisted on a better pie? Would I have derived the maximum utility I derived after consuming it?

Choice came to mind once more. You have choices. You know exactly what choices you prefer and those you distaste. Don't let anything make you go for something lesser than what you desire. There's no better feeling and guarantee of happiness than having exactly what you wanted. None.

Bold Winners are of high self esteem, they are also happy and motivated because they make the best choices and go for exactly what they want.

Go for what you want, be happy and keep winning!