Showing posts from January, 2021

The Subtle Art of Dealing with Grief

  Dealing with Grief An esteemed subscriber to this blog reached out to me a few days ago to find out if I could write something about Grief. I responded that I would definitely write on the topic since it is a subject that has affected each and every one of us in one way or the other. Contrary to what many people believe, grief isn’t just about losing a loved one to the cold hands of death. Grief could come from losing something else you previously had and cherish so much. For some, it could come from a broken relationship, loss of a job or even losing contact with close friends. MedicineNet , defines Grief as “The normal process of reacting to a loss. The loss may be physical (such as a death), social (such as divorce), or occupational (such as a job). Emotional reactions of  grief  can include anger, guilt,  anxiety , sadness, and despair. Physical reactions of grief can include  sleeping problems , changes in appetite, physical problems, or illness.” Since we are on the sam

Love Someone with Similar Energy Levels or Expectations

I was discussing with a friend few days ago when the idea hit me to really share this blog post because I feel it's important people in relationships know this. Now for a second, imagine two people in love. Let's call them Romeo and Juliet. Romeo really loves Juliet and she also loves him just as much. But their relationship isn't going great despite the love they have for each other. Juliet calls Romeo on a daily basis to check up on her. To her, that's how she expresses that she loves and cares for him. She also makes efforts to see him regularly.  Romeo on the other hand despite loving Juliet, doesn't want to call her every day. He only wants to speak to her once or twice a week. Calling someone twice a week for Romeo is the height of loving someone as he isn't really into calls. To him his biggest expression of his genuine love can only allow him want to hear from her twice a week. At some point Juliet begins to worry and think about why she has to

Thoughts on Black Tax (Family Contribution)

  You may be wondering what black tax means? I also wondered about it myself the first time I came across the words. According to NewswireNg ,  “black tax is the extra money that black professionals are expected to give every month to support their immediate and extended families.” This could range from the pocket money you are expected to send to your parents, allowances for your siblings, friends or other relatives. While I understand what it refers to, I do not really understand why it is called “tax” even though the source of the definition says that it is called tax as there is some form of entitlement to the request and some form of emotional blackmail which may be involved if request is not met. Tax to me refers to something “compulsory” and as much as I welcome the idea of “black tax”, I think calling it "family contribution" is much more appropriate. For the purposes of this blog post, I will refer to “family contribution” as “black tax”. This topic came up wi

How You Can Mitigate Depression

  It's my official first blog post for this year and I want you to start this year with an undistracted mindset. This year will be a positive year to remember for everyone of us. We will find many reasons to win big and win boldly. Compliments! I recently read again about a young man who took his own life. It really made me sad when I saw that the suicide note he left was trending on Twitter. There were two things in the note that struck me. One of them was where he mentioned that he never loved himself and the second was when he said, “life is like a party, when you are not having fun you leave…” He also mentioned battling depression for 7 years and this most likely pushed him over the edge. “Depression is classified as a mood disorder. It may be described as feelings of sadness, loss, or anger that interfere with a person’s everyday activities. It’s also fairly common.” – Heathline website Data from the World Health Organization suggests that globally 264 million people o