Abuse of any form should not be tolerated. When you tolerate abuse, you hurt yourself and drown your creativity. No one has the right to make you feel so miserable and depressed.
Some people just find it fun making others feel bad. You should avoid such people as much as possible for your own happiness.
For some people, they feel they have the right to treat you like shit simply because they provide for you and shelter you. Despite the fact that these people are helping you, it still doesn't give them any right whatsoever to treat you like shit.
You don't have to tolerate abuse because someone is providing for you or claims to love you. If you find out that a benefactor is abusive, simply move away and strive to get things for yourself no matter what pains it will take.
It's better to suffer and have peace of mind than take things from someone who treats you like a damned rag.
If someone loves you, they have no right to be abusive or to beat you up unnecessarily in the name of love. Someone who loves you will respect you and even though they may be unhappy with you sometimes, they are willing to settle issues in a matured way not by physical abuse.
If you feel you cannot help yourself out of it, speak out and let people close to you know that you need help.
A friend Shola wrote this:
"Some negative experiences can cause rapid cognitive decline. We lose our sense of perception with the inability to put learning into action. With time, our sense of worth is diminished.
Abusive relationships can trigger this decline. Asides health issues and drugs. Having an abusive spouse, children, supervisor or working in a toxic environment can have deep impact on the brain.
Many get lost in the process. Have you seen vivacious personalities that now become vacuous? Have you met smart confident people that now become timid? Have you seen people that have lost their shadows?
It is important that you guide and guard yourself. That you put barriers to your mind that keep poison away. That you walk away from negative relationships. That you change jobs when it is taking you with it.
Nothing should take your essence away. No one should take joy and give you back gloom. Some people’s mission in life is to do that. They never praise. They never encourage. They gain joy when those around them are unhappy.
Find you. Never let you go!"
Beautiful piece isn't it?
You shouldn't allow yourself to face the dangers that come with abuse when you see the early warning signs. You're better off away from abusive relationships than to stick around taking crap.
Whatever your abusers have been providing for you, you can provide them for yourself if you're bold enough to face your fears and try.
Whatever love they're professing, don't listen to them if they're not willing to change. You can experience better love somewhere else from someone who will value you the way you are and respect your individuality.
Stay away from abusive people, strive for your own personal freedom or independence and keep winning!