Many people today care too much about being accepted by others at any cost. They give up on their values, their ambitions, their morality and even their own peace of mind just for acceptance.
It's a natural thing for a human being to desire to be accepted by other people. However, it must never be to the detriment of that individual. You cannot displease yourself or put yourself at a disadvantage because you want to be accepted.
A lot of people have given up on doing the positive things they are genuinely passionate about doing because they want to be accepted and they care about how others perceive what they are doing.
The secret that most winners know is that irrespective of whether people like what they do or not, as long as it is something good and they are passionate about doing it continuously; they care less about how people see it.
When you are convinced of exactly what you want to do and you know deep down in your conscience that it is a good thing, go ahead and do it irrespective of acceptance.
J.K.Rowlings, the writer of the famous Harry Potter novel said that twelve publishers rejected the manuscript! A year later she was given the green light by Barry Cunningham from Bloomsbury, who agreed to publish the book but insisted she must get a day job cause there was no money in children’s books.
What if she cared too much about the acceptance of the book that she quit her determination to get a publisher?
Legend has it that Colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC thought restaurant owners would love his fried chicken recipe and there would buy it and sales would increase. He drove around the country knocking on doors, sleeping in his car, wearing his white suit and asking people to buy it.
Do you know how many times people said no till he got one yes? 1009 times!
What if he cared too much about acceptance and decided to quit the business because he wasn't accepted?
Walt Disney was the man who gave life to Disney World and Mickey Mouse. History has it that during his first animation, his company went bankrupt.
He was fired by a news editor cause he lacked imagination. He was said to have been turned down 302 times before he got financing for creating Disney World.
If he cared about his rejections, would he have continued trying to get finance?
Michael Jordan, the renown basket baller once said:
"I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
If all these failures which may have led to his non acceptance by certain people deterred him from playing basketball, do you think would have ever heard about him?
Nelson Mandela was known for his indispensable role in fighting apartheid. It is said that at some point, the people closest to him tried to discourage him from fighting for what he believed in.
If he had listened to them and thrown his dream away because he wanted to be accepted by family and friends, who knows how far apartheid would have gone till date?
All these famous people I have mentioned cared more about their vision than acceptance.
They cared less about those who accepted or rejected them and focused on still making a genuine effort in line with what they are passionate about.
How many times they were rejected, how many people rejected them and who rejected them never mattered.
What mattered most was the dream..
Whether people like it now or not doesn't matter at all.
Whether they love it or hate it doesn't matter at all.
Whether they think it is a wise thing to do or not doesn't matter.
Whether they are willing to roll with you or not for the sake of that dream doesn't matter.
What really matters is that you do what you love to do and keep doing it irrespective of whatever they want to think.
Before you made up your mind to do anything, you must have weighed your options carefully. You must have thought it through. And even though you still keep an open mind, you still know exactly what you want. So just do it.
The people you should crave for their acceptance are people who share similar dreams and visions as you do.
They are the people who inspire you to keep performing your best, the people who are already making a difference in the lives of others and the world at large.
The people you wish to be like and friends who see the potentials in your vision.
They are the ones you should even at least care about their acceptance. But even their own acceptance mustn't be at any cost as well.
Just keep doing what you're passionate about doing. Just keep working on the functions you're genuinely interested in. Just keep on keeping on.
Everybody doesn't have to accept you.. Because it's not everyone that will understand you no matter what you do.
You don't have to smoke or take hard drugs if it's not your thing just for acceptance sake.
You don't have to live in a promiscuous way just to be accepted.
You don't have to throw away your morals and your conscience because you want to be accepted.
If you must do away with the things that matter most to your heart and happiness all for the sake of acceptance, then the acceptance can as well go to hell.
The desire to be accepted isn't bad as long as it brings out the best in you and makes you perfect your abilities.
It's not bad as long as you don't sacrifice your heart and personal happiness.
But when you have to do away with the very essence of your humanity, throw whatever acceptance you seek into the thrash can.
Of what use is being accepted when you have to throw away everything that makes you happy and feel at ease? Is the ultimate aim of the acceptance you seek not to be happy?
So just keep doing what you're passionate about doing very well. Irrespective of how many people accept it or not. Just keep doing it.
It will definitely pay off in the end.
Be your true self, do it irrespective of acceptance and keep on winning.