Why Wanting To Be Liked By Everyone Is Nonsense
Hello Bold Winners!
Pleased to share with you once again an interesting blog post that will stimulate your intellect.
Today, I was inspired to write about "wanting to be liked by everyone". This is an important topic because I think that at some point or the other everyone of us is confronted with facing this ideology.
Now, it's one thing to be liked by a lot of people and it's another thing to be liked by everyone.
The former is possible, but the latter is something that currently looks impossible to accomplish which is why I'm of the opinion that one must not bother about it.
A lot of people are worried about whether everyone likes them or not or what people think about them. While sometimes it's good to pay attention to what people think of you (as a guide to personal growth), it's useless to worry about everyone liking you.
First of all, it's impossible to know if everyone likes you or not. To do this, you will have to ask everyone in the world what they think of you and moreover, you can't read their minds or take their word for it.
Some people can pretend to like you when they actually don't. So this shouldn't be a worry to you as everyone liking you is impossible to prove with 100% accuracy.
Secondly, for everyone to even like you, they must all know you. And for everyone to even know you, which is impossible, you have to be a very famous person first. Even a lot of famous people aren't even known in some parts of the country.
So why do you want everyone to like you? What does it do to you? Does it make you a better person? Does it put money in your bank account? Are the same people you're trying to win their like also making efforts for you to like them?
I think a lot people put so much effort into ensuring everyone likes them and become paranoid when they feel people don't like them.
It's important to get to that point where one is okay with whether people choose to like him/her or not.
When you get to that point, you are free from the controlling perspective of what anyone thinks about you freeing you up to explore and reach your highest potential.
The truth is that people who we feel are so loved and admired today were once people who were not even known or liked that much in the beginning.
What made more people begin to like them is in what they do, what they create and the impact they make! Even with all that, there are still people who will criticize, hate and try to still ridicule those who appear to be well liked.
And that's just life. No matter what you do, not everyone may be okay with your choices and that is perfectly okay as long as you are convinced you are doing the right thing and focusing on giving your best. You must ignore those who openly don't like you.
Focusing on those who don't like you or trying too hard to please them usually turns out to be a waste of time. Although in some cases, you can win them over, but the point is that you can't win over EVERYBODY.
You can't do that because choices and opinions will always differ. And because you have a different value system from a few other people, you may never align with them or get them to appreciate you.
So best not to expend too much energy on making people like you, rather invest your time and energy into creating what you are passionate about and what makes the world a better place.
When you focus on creating wonderful things in this world and becoming the best version of yourself, you will see that you will effortlessly win a lot of people over with the wonders of your creation.
Don't waste your time trying to make everyone like you. The goal is dead on arrival.