The Bold Winner's Blog

I was listening to a podcast by Dr. Wayne Dyer when I heard something that made a lot of sense to me and inspired me to write my first article for September. Dyer spoke about a quiet transformation that happens inside us when we realize it’s not about our egos What’s in it for me? How much can I get? but rather about How can I be of service? How can I reach out to someone in need? What can I do to help? Most of the time, as humans, we’re stuck in the mindset that we’re “missing out,” that something isn’t right, or that something is lacking. Usually, it’s because we’re focused on ourselves, our needs, our wants, feeding our ego to feel good. When we “achieve” or “get” things, the ego feels soothed, giving us a temporary, dare I say false , sense of satisfaction. But it’s fleeting. Soon, we’re chasing the next achievement or acquisition to keep that ego high alive. Now, shift to a different mode: I’m going to forget about myself for a moment. How can I help so...

One of the most transformative truths I’ve learned is that the greatest illusion we live under is the illusion of separation. Most struggles with our state of mind, peace, or happiness arise from believing we are somehow separate, separate from others, from creation, even from the Source that gave us life. This false belief of separateness is rooted in the ego. The ego tries to convince us that we are defined by what we have, what we do, or what others think of us. It builds a persona that is never enough, never beautiful enough, never successful enough, never worthy enough. But the truth is far simpler and far more profound: you are never alone. The same essence that dwells within you exists in every living being. Your core essence is not better or worse than anyone else’s. At your deepest level, you are love, you are worthy, and you are pure awareness. Nothing can add to this, and nothing can take it away. You didn’t need to prove yourself to be worthy when you were in the womb. As W...

It’s been a while, but I’m releasing some writing energy... A friend of mine inspired this post. He struggles with personal issues, and when they weigh heavily on him, his behavior toward others, including myself, changes. For him, I think it’s difficult to see how his actions affect the people around him. So whenever I notice it, I tell him, firmly, that I don’t appreciate that behavior. He usually becomes defensive at first, but eventually, he realizes it after I point it out. One thing I believe he gets wrong is this: he feels that because he’s going through something, the world should feel sorry for him, treat him gently, or lower its expectations. But reality always teaches us otherwise, the world doesn’t care about your personal struggles, nor should a wise person expect it to. Whether you’re going through hell or not, the world still has expectations of you. People still expect you to respect their time, treat them with dignity, and behave decently around them. Struggling...

This might be a controversial take, but it’s an interesting perspective I’ve been musing on lately. Most people carry some form of emotional wound with them. It could be hurt from a past relationship, insecurity about their appearance, or even trauma from emotional or physical abuse experienced during childhood. These wounds, whether visible or not, leave lasting impressions. And if they’re not acknowledged and healed, they can linger for years. Healing requires letting go, choosing not to let past pain dictate your future, and realizing your worth, your strength, and your life’s purpose. When we carry unhealed wounds into new relationships, it’s like walking around with an open cut. Any minor comment, behavior, or action, especially from someone who had nothing to do with the original hurt can feel like salt in that wound. The pain you feel isn’t necessarily from what was just said or done; it’s the resurfacing of the original hurt that never healed. This often leads to disproportiona...

Anyone who intentionally tries to make you feel worse about yourself - who belittles you, makes you feel unworthy or of no value, or forces you to go above and beyond just to prove your worth to them - is not meant to be in your life. That person, or group of people, is not your tribe. One of the biggest mistakes people make is building their lives around trying to change the minds, perspectives, or beliefs of such individuals. The result is almost always the same (unless by Divine intervention), their opinion of you will never change, no matter what you accomplish. So why do kind-hearted, empathetic, and well-meaning people fall into this trap? It lies in the natural human desire to be seen, valued, respected, and recognized as individuals with worth and purpose. This desire can be a healthy motivator when it drives us to contribute meaningfully to our communities and connect with others. But it becomes dangerous when we aim it at people who are committed to making us feel less; thos...

If some people can’t see your value; if they choose to judge or stereotype you based on your race, gender, beliefs, mannerisms, or whatever labels they’ve decided to operate from, don’t waste a single second trying to convince them otherwise. Not a second. Not a breath. Not a word. You don’t owe them clarity. You don’t owe them understanding. You don’t owe them anything . The best response has always been no response. Let them be. Let them think whatever nonsense they want to think about you. That’s their right. And your power is in giving them that freedom,  while reclaiming your own. Don’t shrink, explain, perform, or prove. Your life is not an audition for someone else's approval. Letting go without a fight -  that is power. That’s the kind of healing no one posts about on a sunny day with a green juice. Healing? It doesn’t always look pretty. Sometimes, it’s feeling the anger you buried a decade ago. It’s finally hearing your own voice again after years of silencing it to...

  You ever find yourself stuck in your head, wondering why something happened? Why a relationship ended. Why that opportunity didn’t come through. Why life isn’t going the way you imagined. I get it. I’ve been there too; trying to dissect, understand, and make sense of every little thing, especially when it involved people or situations that felt out of my control. But one day, I realized something simple that shifted everything: I don’t have to understand why. Seriously, you don’t need to figure it all out. Sometimes life just is. Things happen. People make choices. Circumstances change. And the truth is, trying to understand why can drain your energy and steal your joy; especially when the answers aren’t clear or the outcome can’t be changed. Instead of chasing explanations, I started choosing acceptance. I started telling myself: “If I can’t do anything about it; if it’s not something I can change, control, or influence, then it’s not worth my peace.” That doesn’t mean I don’t c...

I was reading the last chapters of a book that offered profound insights into life and spirituality. The book concluded with these powerful words: "As you drift back into Spirit, you will see that those are the eyes that look out upon this world. That is the heart that shines down upon everything and everyone. Through those eyes, the most wretched of creatures looks beautiful. That's the part that no one understands. People say that God cries when He looks at this earth. The saint sees that God goes into ecstasy when He looks upon this earth, under all conditions, and at all times. Ecstasy is the only thing God knows. God's nature is eternal, conscious bliss. No matter what you've done, you're not going to be the one thing that ruins it. The beauty is that you can experience this ecstasy. And when you begin to feel this joy, that's when you'll know God's nature. Then nobody will upset or disappoint you. Nothing will create a problem. It will all appear ...

  Have you ever done everything right - practiced affirmations, visualized your goals, believed in your own power - and still found yourself stuck, exhausted, or overwhelmed? If so, you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too. And I want to share something I learned the hard way: you are not supposed to carry the weight of life all by yourself. New Age teachings have become popular for a reason. They sound empowering. They tell you that you are everything, that you are your own “god,” that all of life depends solely on your energy, your mindset, your actions. It feels good to believe that if you just focus enough, work hard enough, or align your vibration, you can control everything. But here’s the truth: real life doesn’t work that way. Because while those teachings tell you to look inward for power, life has a way of humbling you. It brings struggles you didn’t ask for. Pain you can’t fix. Darkness you can’t shake with positive thinking alone. And eventually, you realize: maybe this b...

I was having a brief conversation with a friend, Sheraz, when an interesting discussion arose: why is it that even when we get the things we feel we want, we're still not truly satisfied? We always seem to seek something else; something just out of reach. It’s curious how, at different points in our lives, we find ourselves wanting something so badly that it feels like our entire existence will transform once we attain it. But then, after we finally get it and the temporary high fades, we’re right back to the same reality. We look into the depths of our own souls and realize that nothing has really changed; beyond what happened externally. His answer was that it’s because there’s no purpose - or perhaps, that our purpose hasn’t been found yet. I disagreed slightly, because sometimes I wonder: what if there is no specific purpose at all? What if we’re simply meant to live and experience life? What if experiencing  life and living every moment of it is our purpose? Why do we feel we...