Monday, 16 January 2017
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 16, 2017
How educated are you? When I ask this question, I don't mean you should tell me the number of certificates you have or the number of schools you've attended. I am asking you to enlighten me on how well you've have come to know certain things and mastered their applications.
In our world today, many people have been through the four walls of a university or school, but very few are really educated. Most of them just have the ability to memorize stuff and pass exams, but they really don't know how to apply what they learn.
It brings me to ask another question: What is the point of knowing something if you cannot apply it? How well does your knowledge show in the way you think, act and relate with people around you?
Most of the people who claim to be educated don't even know how to solve real life problems or carry out certain activities. All they have is the certificate. They can't build things, they can't fit into a new environment, they don't know how to date someone, they can't even hold a meaningful conversation. What's the point of the education?
Our education has to go beyond the four walls of a classroom. We must learn through study as well as through engaging real life experiences. Convention education simply focuses on learning via study ignoring the more important learning via practice.
We must be ready to try things on our own rather than simply depend on existing knowledge. We must face life and pass through it because there are a lot of things to still learn which are not best taught by the book.
Practice things, carry out experiments, do something you've not done before. Get outside your books and try to meet someone new. Go on dates and vacations, try to host a party. Learn and learn as much as you can practically for it balances whatever you think you've known from books.
Therefore, educate yourself in full by gaining experience and trying out things on your own. Practice and apply what you've read as well for this way, you will be an educated person beyond the certificate. Experience is actually the best teacher.
Sunday, 15 January 2017
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 15, 2017
You should never beg for anything. Whenever you beg for anything, you simply say that you don't deserve it and you're depending on someone's mercy to give it to you.
Begging is a loser's mentality. A loser is too dependent on other people's choices to get what he/she wants and that's why they usually don't have what they want. This is because the person or persons whom they beg can choose to waste time before giving to them or even not give them at all.
Beggars have no choice. And guess what? Choice is the best gift that man has to direct his life to what he wants. So when you beg, you throw away your power of choice. And when you throw it away, you have automatically lost because you are no more in control of anything.
This is why winners never beg. Winners deserve whatever they get because they were willing to go get it themselves. They refused to wait on anybody or anything and took their destinies into their hands. They honoured their power of choice and that is why they will always live in joy and happiness.
Whatever it is that you want in life, never make the mistake of begging for it. Do what you need to do and whatever you deserve will come to you in surprising ways. Most people have not yet understood that the reason they are not getting their desires is that they still beg for it.
Begging doesn't solve the problem. Yes, when you beg you may be given but consider also that you may not be given. The possibility of you reducing yourself to begging and not being given should scare you enough to decide never to beg.
Learn to deserve what you want. You deserve things by working hard and smart for them. Is it money? Stop begging anybody, go out there and do what you can to earn a living. Is it love? Love is everywhere around you. There are millions of people ready to love you beyond your imagination.. Stop begging one person who doesn't give a damn about you and allow yourself to go out and be loved by others.
I don't think we should spend any time begging. If ever you have to beg, let it be your last and only option, because begging is actually disgraceful to any human being with healthy self esteem.
Until next time!
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 15, 2017
As written by Tobechi Larry..
Congratulations! You graduated as a lawyer and you're heading your dad's firm. You win your first case defending a client who you know is guilty of all allegations and your conscience keeps disturbing you while your parents are busy singing your praise.
Deep down you are not happy. You would have been happier if you had become a musician. You once told your dad about that and he discouraged you. Now you are condemned to work in a field you have no passion for in order to make daddy happy.
Does this sound in anyway sound like you? Are you in conflict with your self for trying to do something that your parents want rather than what you want? Are you living your life or your parent's life? You should stop blaming your parents. They did what they taught was in the best interest for you.
They believed just making money brings self fulfilment without any regard to your heart's desire. You are no more a kid now. Your life is in your hands. Take time to examine your life. Plato said 'an unexamined life is not worth living.'
Where would you like to be in five years time? Grab a piece of paper, write down activities that make you happy. Place the list somewhere you would see it every morning. Create a plan towards that direction. If you are musically inclined, your list would include playing an instrument, singing, writing, listening to songs and poems. What choices would you make now to take you closer to it?
Act now. Every year learn something new that can help you reach your goal. If you are passionate about music for example, take a weekend off to learn piano. Pay a private tutor to teach you. Buy one instrument for private practice. Combining your job with these activities could be stressful. it could cost you less rest or even more time off work.
It may cost you your promotion, a query or salary reduction. it shouldn't discourage you because these are prices to pay for following your heart. After 4 few years of practice, you can gradually show the world your skill. Volunteer to play during occasions for free. You would meet people who are in your chosen niche. Connect with them.
Remember now is the best time to start. You can never be successful in a field you don't really love. Start today to create the life you want to live tomorrow. If you don't act now,you will be full of regrets on your death bed.
PS: This was a guest post written by Tobechi Larry. He uses someone who has a passion for music to make his examples. Your passion could be anything else, simply make a plan and work towards it. Your happiness really matters more than money. In fact, real money comes as a result of happiness. - Nigel
Saturday, 14 January 2017
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 14, 2017
What do you want in your life right now? Is it money, a life partner, happiness, fame, cars, houses or anything else? Whatever it is that you want, understand that it is always out there. It is outside somewhere waiting for you.
What you simply need to do is go get it. And it's not very difficult to get it. All you need is the right thought and the right actions and you will definitely have it. You think, make plans and set into action.
It is all out there for you. Simply acknowledge that it is there and go for it. But when you don't even believe that it is out there, how will you even find it? If you believe there is not enough, you will not be motivated to make plans and act on them.
The wealth you seek to acquire is in other people's pockets. All you need to do is create a value and make them take out that money and give to you. That person who you seek, who will love you unconditionally and genuinely understand you is out there. All you need do is keep developing yourself and keep meeting different people.
Sometimes, when we face disappointments, setbacks or challenges, we tend to recoil and believe that we cannot get what we really want. This is a lie and this lie makes us stop thinking and planning. You must be able to convince yourself that no matter how many times you don't succeed in getting anything, it is still available and you can still get it.
Whatever you want has been designed not to come so easily. You have to put in some effort to get it. Giving up at your first few attempts to make some money doesn't help you. It means you've accepted to be poor. Likewise, making a decision to stop being in relationships or stop meeting people because someone broke your heart or hurt you greatly limits your chances of finding the right person.
Our experiences and challenges should never stop us from knowing that everything we seek is out there waiting for us. We must always keep our heads up and keep searching. Certainly, we will find it because it is always there.
At all times we must be aspiring and working towards something. We must work on ourselves and endeavor to keep developing and improving ourselves. Never should we fall into that zone of aimlessness and lack of direction. That state of "anything goes."
As humans, we must keep making efforts towards what we want for that is our only guarantee of eventually having it. And these efforts must be made with that firm belief that what we seek is out there and we can get it!
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 14, 2017
Are you currently unemployed or jobless? Are you just waiting for a company or firm to employ you so you can start earning something? Well, here's news for you: Go out there and start doing any little thing you can do.
Things have changed. There are many graduates today continuously turned out from various universities who graduate with the hope of getting a job and have met with little success.
Many people are having the mindset of getting jobs forgetting that there is no more equilibrium between job creators and job seekers. More people are seeking available jobs than the people who are creating these jobs.
If you have the mindset of getting a job, ask yourself how the jobs you're looking for were created. They were created by people like you who chose to think out of the box and start up something big.
We need more thinkers. People who are ready to tackle and provide solutions to existing problems around the globe. There are many problems to be solved in this world and that means that there are many opportunities to solve them through start ups.
Stop waiting idly for a white collar job. Think.. Take out time to think! There must be something you can do, no matter how little. There must be a problem you can solve. You have a talent which you need to use and create something in this world.
Don't complain about capital. If you can think and proffer solutions to any existing human problem, the fund you need will definitely find you. You must not wait for loans. You can do little jobs and save up money to start up your idea.
Don't ever feel helpless, trapped or sorry for yourself. You need to always be thinking and taking action based on the results of your thought. I think the reason why unemployment is a big problem is that most people have become too lazy to think.
They want it easy. They want the job to be offered to them on a platter of gold, so that they can sit in an office from 9-5 and do little, while expecting a steady salary at the end of every month.
Time is important as I said in a previous post. Even if you intend to still find a job, use your waiting time to engage in something that can fetch you some money. You don't need to wait for job offers in an idle state.
Wake up every morning and ask yourself what you can do or what you can offer to the world today. Stop hoping for jobs. Start doing something. Whatever it is. As long as it has the capacity to solve a problem, it is a good start. Just do something and stop sitting around doing nothing.
You're only jobless because you want to be jobless. There is always something you can do. Humble yourself, think and act. You will surely make headway. Stay active and never call yourself jobless. Put this into practice and keep winning!
Friday, 13 January 2017
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 13, 2017
1. Learn to do more than the rest.
You must be willing to do much more than necessary or what others consider normal. Winners don't just stop at where other people stop, they go the extra mile which is why they get extraordinary results. Many people are lazy and don't want to put in work. That's why few people are at the top. These few are the winners ready to do more than expected.
2. Be persistent, but not to a fault.
A winner knows how to be persistent. He keeps pushing for whatever he wants without easily giving up. There are times of course when he quits. But he only quits when he knows he has tried his possible best. Else, he keeps on pushing for his goals. This obsession is what keeps him winning.
3.Place important value on your time.
To develop a winner's mindset, you must learn to appreciate the value of your time. Time is money! Time really matters. You must conscious of time as a resource that should never be wasted. This will keep you focused on what really matters rather than wasting your time on frivolous activities.
4. Understand that nobody owes you anything.
You can't have the mindset of a winner when you always expect people to do things for you or depend on them. You must understand that nobody owes you anything and that if you really want to achieve anything, you have to get it yourself through the actions and decisions you make.
5. Don't care too much about what they say or think.
You must learn to stop worrying about what other people would think or say and do what you strongly feel is the right thing. Worrying comes as a result of fear and fear cannot allow you develop a winner's mindset. You should consider other people's opinion, but make up your mind and take the best decisions without letting their opinions stop you.
6. You should keep updating your knowledge.
If you're not willing to keep learning, you cannot have a winner's mindset. A winner understands that knowledge is infinite and if he must stay ahead of the game, he must continue to gain knowledge and experience. He never assumes to know it all or have all the answers. He's always a student of life.
7. Learn how to move on.
You can't have the mindset of a winner when you cannot let go of the past or any other thing. You can't progress when you're stuck with things that have already happened. Winners keep moving on no matter what they encounter. They never stop and they refuse to be stuck. Learn to let go of things that are keeping you behind.
8. Follow your gut!
Yes, this is the most neglected way of developing this mindset. Most of us keep accepting the opinions of other people and neglect what we really feel inside. How many times have you been in the situation where you say "I knew it" "I should have listened to my heart" or stuff like that? Your heart usually knows the correct answer!
9. Take good care of your body.
It is no longer news that the state of the body can affect the state of mind. You should take good care of your body by engaging in exercise and eating healthy food. Good health is an asset and it keeps you in a good mental state which allows you think clearly and come up with brilliant ideas.
10. Discipline yourself.
Developing a winner's mindset requires serious discipline. You must know when to say No to certain things and when to say Yes to them. You must discipline yourself to set goals and keep to deadlines. You must have a plan and train yourself to be consistent in your efforts to be a better person and make a contribution to the world.
There you have it! You can add yours.
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 13, 2017
I was opening an account in a bank yesterday just before the closing hours, when I overheard the bank manager expressing his annoyance at how some of the customer care personnel treated a woman who just came to carry out some important transactions.
The woman had reported to him that the bank staff who were meant to attend to her did not even show any courtesy or smile when she was trying to get them to attend to her.
It happened that this woman was also the regional manager of the group of banks, but the members of the staff did not know! When the bank manager finished expressing his dismay at the attitude, some members of the staff tried to make the excuse that they did not know she was the one!
At this point, a thought came to my mind, "Is it necessary to know if the woman was the regional manager or not?" "Why don't you treat all customers fairly, so you won't bother about such surprise visits?"
The thing is that most people seem to show respect and courtesy to whom they feel is important. Other people who they don't know too well or who may seem insignificant do not bother them.
Probably, people tend to do this because they feel they can only gain from the people who are already successful but not from 'ordinary' ones, forgetting that no one knows tomorrow.
A person you disrespect today because you think he/she is not important may turn out to be someone prominent tomorrow. How would you face that person if you should meet them in future?
That person you think has no money may own billions later and be in charge of things you never imagined. Why would you treat them unfairly now?
Let us come to terms with the fact that the world is constantly changing and no one knows tomorrow! We must learn to treat everyone fairly, rich or poor, Christian or Muslim, white or black, citizen or foreigner, young or old.
The bank manager finally let them know that such a reason wasn't an excuse and as staff, they had to treat everyone that comes into the bank with respect and courtesy or else disciplinary measures will be taken to punish defaulters.
People don't need to be told to respect everyone they see. They don't need to be reminded of disciplinary measures if they don't. They need to make this attitude a part of their everyday lives.
It's not just in the bank. You should have this attitude everywhere you find yourself. Whether at the market, club, sports center, locality, street or anywhere else. Treat people fairly.
Treating people fairly doesn't mean you become a doormat for them to abuse you. Treating people fairly simply means you always respect them and show them good manners and etiquette.
Think about this and make a decision to change your attitude towards other people. Keep winning!
Thursday, 12 January 2017
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 12, 2017
The world has really changed over the years. If you have been following the trend, you should have noticed that it is intelligence that rules our world today. The pen has indeed become far mightier than the sword.
Gone are the days of surviving through the use of brute force or just physical strength. Gone are the days when wars were only fought with just weapons. You hear more of cyber warfare, use of robots, war drones and surveillance machines these days.
The whole world is coming to terms with the power of the mind. The power of deep thought and strategic thinking over mere physical strength. People who have understood this trend are putting more effort to developing the capacity of their minds in order to stay ahead in this era of intelligence.
How is this important to you? Well, you must understand that if you're not developing the capacity of your mind to stay sharp, intelligent and smart, you may become overwhelmed by the change that is silently sweeping across the globe.
To keep up with this change you have to devote quality time to strengthen your mind and your way of thinking. You do that by reading good books, using the internet to check out good websites and blogs where you can get useful information.
You spend your time keeping your mind sharp by learning. Continue to learn about new things that are emerging and keep updating your knowledge. If you don't, the world will take you by surprise and you will find yourself unable to cope.
The internet has made developing your mind much easier. And you should be grateful you were born in this era where so much information is easily accessible online. But the big question is: are you using the internet to learn new things, develop your mindset and help you in decision making OR are you spending it on unimportant things?
Internet should be helping you stay updated on important things. There are many great courses offered online for FREE! You can learn just about anything over the net! Are you taking advantage of this to develop your mind?
The mind becomes smarter and enhanced when it is informed and when it keeps learning new things. There is a popular saying back in school days that goes: "If you're not informed, you're deformed." Use the internet to stay informed and keep sharpening your mind.
Make friends with smarter people. People who you love their ideologies and sharp reasoning. Roll with them and stop sticking around people who never think of meaningful things. You will be better off with smart people than people who don't think!
In whatever you do, don't ever fall into the trap when you think you've known it all. With the rate at which our world is changing, there is a need to always keep our minds open to new and useful information.
Intelligence is what rules the world right now. It's now survival of the smartest and not the fittest! Keep fit and also stay smart!
Till next time!
Posted by Nigel Ikechukwu at January 12, 2017
A friend once told me that he regretted studying the course he studied in the university. He wished he had spent his time studying something better or more lucrative. "What do you gain by regretting about it?" I asked. He couldn't really answer the question.
Just like my friend, I've seen and have continued to see a lot of people spending so much time on regrets. You hear things like "I wish I had known this earlier" "I wish I hadn't made that choice." "I wish I waited a little longer" and other stuff like that.
Truly, we should feel some sadness in making some wrong choices or not knowing certain things, but rather than waste time regretting and lamenting over them, we should simply learn the lesson and move on quickly.
There is always a lesson to learn from any experience and it is very important we learn this lesson to avoid repeating the same mistake! But most people don't even see the lesson they are meant to learn because they spend so much time wishing they could undo what can never be undone.
The end result is that they fall for the same mistake over and over again because they don't pay attention to the lesson. Rather they spend time on regrets.
We all must understand that the past is past! The past should only remain where it belongs which is PAST! Spending your present useful hours regretting over the past is wasting the present time you should use in making better choices!
The only time we ever have is NOW. The clock keeps ticking and the present is always available to you to make better and well informed choices in your life. Why waste it?
The sadness we feel over our wrong choices should be a motivation for us to learn our lessons and make better choices rather than being a time killer which keeps dragging us back to the past.
Nothing should drag you behind and keep you from moving forward. Life is all about staying in motion and moving on. What would you gain by spending so much time regretting the past? The answer is NOTHING! You lose instead. You lose the lesson, your focus and the present moment.
The only thing you should keep in mind is the lesson from the past and not the past! The lesson is the only valuable thing we can take away from the past. Other things only waste our time.
Keep moving on, let the past go, apply the lessons in the present and you can take control of your future!
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