Wednesday, 22 March 2017
People often say things like: "I wonder why I was born in this family," "I wonder why I look this way," "I wonder I'm experiencing this," "I wonder why I met this person," "I wonder why this happened to me." They keep wondering about why they are where they are, why this and why that. They wonder so much about these things that they forget to live.
If you are in a situation you don't like or if you've had some experiences that are not good, there's really no point wondering why you're in that situation or why you were born in a certain environment or family. The point is that you always try to "LIVE" your life no matter where you have found yourself or in whatever you are experiencing.
Living your life means that you don't keep asking why or continue to find something to put the blame on. It means that you understand that the answers to some questions you may have been asking don't really matter. Rather, what matters is your response to whatever challenge you have and the choices you make to steer your life into what you really want to experience.
It's not an easy deal. The situations and different settings we've found ourselves in life has a way of trying to shape our mindset into accepting a certain stereotype of who we are. But then, the truth is that shaping your mind is ultimately your responsibility. You are the master of your own mind, not the answers to some unnecessary questions.
Knowing this, you learn to stop wondering too much and focus on really living your life the best you can. There is no limit to what you can achieve no matter what situation you find yourself. Your environment would try to shape you, but you will have to be the one to shape yourself and create your future.
Wondering too much about mysterious questions or asking about why fate put us in certain circumstances has never been useful to us, rather it's a time waster. Let's focus on living, carving our own path, staying focused on our missions, continually making efforts and being proactive.
We are happier when we bother less and do more.
Tuesday, 21 March 2017
No matter how much we pretend that pornography doesn't exist, the plain truth is: it does! And many more are addicted to it than we may assume.
Pornography has become so easily accessible these days over the internet. You may not even be searching for it before you come across it. It could come as a pop up on a website and few clicks out of sheer curiosity, you're roped in.
Porn has robbed many minds of their dreams and visions reducing them to people who think about nothing else but sex. How many times have you lost the motivation to do anything after viewing any form of pornography? My guess is: all the time!
This silent killer saps you of your energy, will power, focus, drive to succeed in life and your motivation. Many who are addicted to it feel helpless and that nothing can be done. They feel guilty and weak after viewing pornography. They know it's not good for them, they want to quit, but they can't stop.
They are no more on the driver's seat of their lives. It seems pornography has begun to control them. They've lost control. For this reason, I decided to come up with this eBook, relatively short and straight to the point. I took out some time to do a bit of research into this vice and I discovered an effective strategy, little known but common to all those who successfully broke free from pornography.
This eBook was designed to help anybody quit pornography for good. The benefits are uncountable: you have more self control and will power, your focus becomes more intense and clear. Rather than being a loser who is addicted to pornography, you become a winner who gets things done!
You build better, stronger and more fulfilling relationships with people around you and you take back the driver's seat of your own life. You become filled with more energy, vitality, strength, creativity and confidence. You will be amazed at what you can actually accomplish when you are no more a slave to pornography.
I once thought about giving away the vital piece of information contained in this eBook for free, but on a second thought, I set a price tag on it for two reasons:
1. Valuable things given away for "FREE" usually goes undervalued, not appreciated and sometimes even mocked. Humans are are wired to value things more and take them seriously when they pay for it in a way or two.
2. I spent some reasonable amount of time and effort putting this book together and trying to really find a way to solve the problems of those enslaved by pornography. I think I deserve some compensation for it.
Therefore, I set the price tag at ₦3000. "It's too much," you may be thinking. But I don't think there is a price tag to what you can achieve when you break away from something that is trying to ruin you. I know that the value of this eBook cannot be reflected in that price.
However, this is the first time I am launching this book and I've decided to give it away at ₦2000 to the first 20 people who would place an order for it.
If you're interested, send a text message "Get eBook" to the number 09027760278 (+2349027760278) or send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with "Get eBook" as title. You will get additional details sent to you on how make payment and get it delivered to you ASAP.
If you're not interested, not convinced or giving yourself reasons not to get the eBook, that's fine as well. It all boils down to personal choice. The book isn't meant for everyone.
To those who intend to get the book: You must be willing to carry out the action steps laid out in the book and progressively gain control over it. It won't be easy or magical.. It requires some work on your part.. As long as you read in between the lines and comply with the instructions. You will be amazed within a month or even less.
Eliminate pornography and keep winning!
Monday, 20 March 2017
"I wish I knew what I now know when I was 12, I would've built …" he said. "How old are you now?" I asked him. "I'm 28," he replied. I said to him: "Simply assume that you're 12 and start doing exactly those things you would've have done if you had known what you now know by then."
How old are you? 10, 20, 35, 47 or 55? Here's the deal: No matter how old you presently are, it doesn't matter and it doesn't stop you from still attempting to do those things you really wanted to accomplish. Looking closely at it, the time is always Zero for everyone until they start living their dreams!
Most people are fond of saying stuff like: "I wish I knew this when I was 16," "I wish I learnt that at a younger age," "I could've done this and achieved that." Instead of telling stories of your lost years and looking for someone to feel sorry for you, simply start doing those things you regret not doing on time now. It doesn't matter how much time you think you have wasted or how much time you may have left.
It doesn't matter if you're going to be able to do it as perfectly as you would've done if you were younger. Simply go out there and try accomplishing those things. The mere thought that you have lost time, should even make you put more effort into achieving the same thing in a very short time. You may even be surprised at how easy it may be.
Most people have this belief that because they didn't do some things very early, they cannot be successful in certain areas of their lives. This belief alone is enough to keep them wishing they had known and leave them eventually achieving anything meaningful. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
It all starts from zero. It doesn't necessarily matter when you started. You may start late and still move faster than someone who started years back. The difference in years is no longer a barrier to achieving success in today's world. Therefore, it's an illusion for anyone to think that what they couldn't do at a certain age has destined them for failure. It's a lie which many unhappy people tell themselves. And that's why they stay unhappy.
No matter where you are.. Your time starts when you start; when you cross the zero. Stop sitting there and wishing you achieved this and that by a certain age. Just focus on achieving what you can at your present age. You'd be shocked at what you can still achieve with your time if only you can be focused and stop lamenting of what you should have done earlier.
Everyone makes some mistake and loses some time. It doesn't really matter. Don't let the lost time or mistakes drown you into depression and a loser's lifestyle. You can still build stuffs more than you ever thought possible if only you focus your energy. If Charles Darwin, Ray Kroc, Vera Wang, Henry Ford and other people who became successful after age 40 could still achieve something great, then I don't see why you should spend your precious time wishing you were younger.
Embrace the reality. Start now. Your time is still Zero. Your physical appearance may have changed, but the content within you still yearns for expression. Focus on expressing it rather than musing over lost years.
To the very young guys and girls reading this, understand that the time you have now is really precious. If you can start right away.. Start from your own Zero. The advantage is that you become successful at younger age and you enjoy the rest of your years while contributing greatly to society. Value your time and use it wisely.
To the older ones.. The time is still Zero. You can still start up something you've always wanted to do. It's never too late. Your creation might just be the next big thing. You should stop telling yourself that you've lost time and focus on living your life. You may be older, but your potential can still make great impact just like those in the examples I gave previously.
From Zero to One!
Saturday, 18 March 2017
The most problematic set of people in this world are the ones who think they know things so well to extent that they make no room for additional knowledge. These people do not consider or tolerate the opinions and views of other individuals other than themselves.
They are ready to fight and humiliate anyone who has contrary views to what they believe or think they have known. The question is: "If everyone in this world was exactly like these intolerant ones, do you think we would still be existing as a species?"
Think about it. There would be intense fighting everyday, wars, murder, serious crimes and etcetera. The people who are tolerant enough to understand other people are those who have kept things in balance. They are the progressives who try to get people to unite themselves, understand themselves better and live in peace despite their differences.
Now some people claim to know God so well that any other contrary view from another person becomes a serious offence. But let me ask: Do you really know God Almighty, the Infinite and creator of all things visible and invisible or do you just believe that you know Him?
Do you really think you really understand the deep mysteries and operations of God? Do you actually know him or you just believe you do? Think about it. Because I don't think anyone can really claim to have known God and understand all his operations.
I think knowing God should mean a progressive knowledge of our maker which should never end. It should mean that everyday we are still learning about God and getting to know him better. Not claims to a complete and unshakable knowledge of him. No one can claim to have that.
I used the concept of knowing God as an example because religious intolerance has been a major issue. The fact that gaining knowledge is progressive means that we should not be quick to disregard other people's opinion. Indeed, some people may have opinions that may look wrong or actually be wrong, but before we write them off, let us listen to them and if they are actually wrong, make them understand from our perspective.
We must tolerate the opinions of other people and if we are in disagreement, we can argue in a healthy and tolerant manner. We must not fight over different opinions because knowledge and learning never ends.
Understanding one another should come first when we have different opinions. With understanding and an open mind ready to learn, you can learn new things from the opinions of others or you can help others really understand your point ONLY when you've understood theirs.
No matter how much we think we know about anything.. We must remind ourselves that we do not know everything and that the quest for knowledge continues forever. That will help us to listen, tolerate and understand rather than become problematic in our society.
Always try to understand,
Wednesday, 15 March 2017
Your objectives and goals in life must be defined well enough to the point where you are not accepting anything less. You must have that objective in mind which you must relentlessly work for. No matter how things may look, you must not choose anything less than what you have set out to achieve. This is what I mean when I say that lions do not eat grass.
A lion doesn't start eating grass because there appears to be no meat. It doesn't go eating grass because it's not sure if it can actually get meat or if there is meat out there. A lion that wants meat, goes out there, hunts for the meat and with persistence gets the exact meat it was looking for.
You know yourself and you know what you really want. Whatever it is, you can actually achieve it. Everyone has the ability to get what they want if only they make it their sole objective and have the willingness to stick with this objective and pursue it without giving up even in the hardest times.
Extraordinary success honors extraordinary people who give all they have to get all they want. It doesn't honor the faint hearted or those who easily back off when things look bleak. This success is only for those select few who can prove that they are really fearless in the pursuit of whatever dreams they have in mind.
You wonder why there are few people who attain enviable heights of success and importance while many more are living average lives? It's because few people have the tenacity, doggedness, alacrity, persistence, fearlessness and faith to hold onto that one mission which they see very clearly. Very few pass the number of tests which actually shows if they are worthy of getting exactly what they want.
It doesn't always matter what other people tell you. These people might give you the best of advice, but they do not know your mission. If you let them influence you and you lose sight of your objective, you lose what you could have achieved by staying with it. It's still your choice though.
It's all about you. Your life is unique. Your experience is unique. No one else knows better than you what exactly you want in your life. You know what you want. Go for it! Don't let the situation of things tell you to give up on that dream. Don't let discouraging events stop you from having that dream. If you really want to achieve it, pursue it with all you got!
If you lose the vision, it's all gone, just like a flash. You lose everything you've been working for just the second you decide to accept something less. You don't have to manage what you don't want. You don't have to go for something else you don't want because it looks easier. You don't have to do something else asides from what you really want because things look tough.
You can get exactly what you want! Take my word for it and let your life be a proof of what I've just told you. See you at the top! Stay bold and keep winning!
Saturday, 11 March 2017
You've been working hard all your life, but it seems like you're not getting any reward from all your efforts. I say to you, "Continue." You've been working hard for a promotion, but it seems the boss doesn't notice you. "Continue."
You've been in various relationships, but it seems that you've not found the one for you. "Continue.." You have a dream and a strong vision of what you want to achieve. You've been trying your best and making serious efforts towards the realization of that dream, but things don't seem to be working out right. "Just Continue!"
Sometimes, it may seem that things are not working out just the way we want it to work out. It may take more time and more trials than we were expecting. It might require more responsibilities and enhanced efforts. We must remember to continue.
Do not be discouraged that you are not getting results yet. As long as you're putting in your best and you are taking required action to the best of your knowledge, simply continue. You can only meet your success and your lucky break when you constantly show up in your activity.
If you let the present state of things or current results to discourage you from constantly trying, then you've automatically lost. Think about this: let's say that in a particular game, anyone who rolls out "six" on the dice wins the prize. You cannot win that game when you've decided not to play at all.
First step is coming out to play that game. You must participate to win. You have to be active by joining other players and rolling the dice. You may roll the dice 20 times and not get a six.. But it may just be a "six" on your next throw. If you give up, you give up totally on the possibility of rolling out a six and you can never win the prize.
But if you continue to play, despite not getting that "six" , by the law of probability, the six must show up for you once your persistence is there. If you're ready to continue and go all the way for what you want to achieve, you will definitely achieve it. Your fortune and your success will have no other option than to show up and bow to your determination.
It reminds me of this week's game between Barcelona and PSG. PSG was leading Barcelona with 4-0 after the first leg match. Everyone thought that there was no way Barcelona could turn the four goals deficit around in the second leg. But Barcelona's shocked everyone to turn around the score sheet with a 6-1 victory against PSG which led to an aggregate of 6-5 with Barcelona progressing towards the next stage.
They continued.. They didn't give up. They didn't think that the initial 4-0 defeat was impossible to turn around. They believed in themselves and in putting out their best efforts on the football pitch to turn their situation around. They "continued" and it paid off greatly.
You may have many things bothering you right now. You may have many things on your mind that you feel like giving up on some important things. I want to tell you to hang on and continue trying. Keep pushing. Your lucky break may just be minutes or seconds away. It might be closer than you imagine.
Continue showing up, continue taking action and continue trying! One day the outcome of the dice will roll out in your favor and you will definitely celebrate it. Don't think about the outcome. No matter how unfavorable it seems. Just focus on showing up and actively participating in the game. Someday, it will be your turn.
Keep on trying. Hang on there. Don't give up on your dream. Don't give up on finding that person. Don't give up on working hard for your desired results. Don't let the outcome make you feel bad. Keep pressing and keep pressing. Don't be a quitter. Show the world that you're unstoppable and it will gladly yield to your push.
- It's Nigel.
Tuesday, 7 March 2017
You may pretend that it's not there. But everyone who has used the internet must have at some point or the other come across some pornographic content. It could come up as a pop up, a click bait or a virus on your laptop screen. You may be surfing for something else and boom it's there!
It's not just on the internet, in some latest movies, pornographic scenes are becoming the norm to the extent that most people have fallen victims and became addicted to this menace. What's the consequence? Those addicted to pornography easily lose focus on their life mission and end up thinking about sex all the time.
Pornography robs the mind of precious ideas, will power and clear intentions. You stop thinking and planning about things that really matter in your life and you waste your time thinking about just sex. That's really something to be seriously dealt with because a life without focus, planned activity and strong drive is already a wasting life.
You know the difference between successful people and unsuccessful ones? It's in their mindset and planning. Successful people spend more time thinking about things that really matter and making plans on how to get them. Others just think about how to have sex. Take eating for example. Do you think about how to eat food all the time? Do you keep downloading videos or viewing images of people eating? It's really absurd right?
That's how absurd it is to keep thinking about people having sex or watching their images or videos. It's not normal. It may look normal, but it's an addiction that every person who really wants to make progress in life should break away from. Your state of mind is very important and key to your success. What you often think about has a way of affecting your life.
Sex is not a bad thing. Neither is the urge to have sex an evil thing. We are humans and at some point in our lives there is a need for companionship and intimacy with a member of the opposite sex. This is how we are and we should not pretend that we don't have sexual urges or fantasies. But then watching and getting addicted pornography is not the way to go about it. It actually causes more problems for you as regards real sex with your spouse.
Pornography is actually fake. It deceives your mind into thinking that sex is something that should be placed top priority in your life. Bold winners know better. Sex is just as natural as eating, breathing, blinking and other natural processes. There is nothing too special about it as pornography may depict. What really matters in our lives is how relevant we are to ourselves and to our society.
We must always focus on making an impact and solving real life problems. When you are focused on your mission, you don't go on thinking about sex. This doesn't mean you should not have sex in your entire life. Rather, it means that you understand that sex is a part of you that you have to also control just like other parts of you that makes you human. It means that you remain focused on your mission and you're not letting thoughts of sex distract you.
I'm working on releasing a book that will help those addicted to pornography break away from the addiction. It all starts with making a firm resolution, asking God for help(if you believe in God) and taking certain steps to fight the desire for it. I hope you check up the blog from time to time in order to get first hand information about the book once it is released.
Bold winners have one mission in mind. This mission is in line with their life's purpose, passion and mission. They don't think about sex all the time, they're not addicted to pornography. They think about the very important things in life and they make solid plans and take relevant actions towards achieving them. That's why they keep winning.
Keep winning, stay bold and don't forget to share this!
Sunday, 5 March 2017
Are you confused? Are you finding it difficult to know exactly what you want to do? Does it appear as if you don't have an idea of how to go about you career, life, choices or anything else? Then hang on because you are definitely not alone.
You've been reading motivational and inspiring books, they keep telling you to take a decision, make a choice, follow your passion, do this and do that. It seems as if everyone else knows exactly what they want to do with their lives, but you? You are still confused and unsure about it.
You're concerned about the future, but you don't know how to go about it. You appear to be floating and idling away your time. If this describes you, I want you to know that the only cure for confusion is knowledge. When I say knowledge, I don't mean you should go on reading different books again(that may even confuse you the more).
When I say knowledge, I mean in depth knowledge coupled with practical activity. In depth knowledge is gotten from experienced people. In whatever you are confused about, try meeting experienced and accomplished people who have been through a similar situation. Learn from their practical experiences and ACT on this knowledge.
Most books cannot give you this kind of knowledge. It is best gotten from experienced people who have faced similar situations as yours and have successfully triumphed over them. So, you should find these people around you and seek for their expert advice. Most of them are willing to help serious minded individuals. Listen to them and gain in depth knowledge.
It is important to act on this knowledge. When you are actively doing something, it's difficult to be confused. Confusion is a mental thing, so being confused is a sign that you're thinking too much and you're not really taking any actions. You're thinking too much because you don't have the knowledge that will help you start taking actions which is why you need to meet experienced people.
No one by themselves can claim to have all the answers. Some people around you or even closest to you have some answers that you don't have. We are all unique and our different experiences has enabled us find some peculiar answers to life's numerous challenges. So, tap into the answers from other people and always act on them.
Being confused can waste your time and make you lag behind. Conquer it with the right knowledge and application.
Till next time..
Sunday, 26 February 2017
The world tends to favour those who know exactly what they want out of it. People who are clear about exactly what they want or the direction they have to go in life find it easier to accomplish their goals whereas those who aren't clear live hazy lives.
Think about two people hunting for treasure in a maze filled with items. One of them knows exactly the treasure he is looking for. He knows it so well that he is once he finds it anywhere, he knows. The other is looking for the treasure, but he doesn't have an idea of what he is looking for. Even if he sees the treasure, he won't know he has found it because he has no clue at all.
Which of them do you think will easily find the treasure? Of course it will be the one who has clues and ideas of what the treasure looks like and it's qualities. He will spot the treasure from far away because he 'knows' exactly what he's looking for. So it is easier to spot it. This simply summarizes our lives.
The maze is this world we live in. The treasure is the common goal we seek to achieve which can be said to be happiness, wealth and health. You be appropriately directed to our treasures, we must have a strong direction. This is our clue that points us to our own treasure. You must define exactly what you want and how you want to achieve it. When you do so, it is easier to spot your own treasure and grab it.
Most people are living aimless lives and anything goes for them because they simply have not sat down to define exactly what they want and how they intend to achieve it. This makes them miss out on multiple opportunities which they could have identified easily if they had guides and clues which is from their plans and directed intent.
Whatever it is you want.. First, you define the parameters. You don't just accept anything goes. That's a choice too though, but I think you deserve better. You deserve exactly what you want and believe you me if you are willing to define exactly what that is and how to get it, you will get in in no time.
In your relationships, you should define the kind of partner you want. You define the qualities you want in him/her and go for it. Don't make it unrealistic though because no one is perfect. Identify what you want from a partner and seek for it.
In your career, define what you really want to do with your life and how you want to do that. Don't just do anything. Whatever you do must be part of a plan to that thing you really want else you waste your time. Always know exactly what you want, know exactly how you intend to achieve it and the steps you need to take and you will rise quickly on the success ladder.
Friday, 24 February 2017
No one was born to be pitied. There is always a way forward in whatever anyone presently faces in his/her life right now. Don't expect to be pitied as a way out of it. Don't expect anyone to start feeling sorry for you and make the way for you.
You must make the way for yourself. If people will help you, that's fine, accept their help. If they don't want to help you, that's fine as well, you were not entirely depending on them. You just have to prove that you deserve whatever you want to get.
Sometimes when some people are talking maybe in a job interview, discussion, social gatherings or when they want something from someone, they start telling stories of how they lost their loved ones, how they were abandoned, how they are struggling and difficulties they face.
They keep talking about circumstances, what they've been through, their life and all what not. People don't really want to hear those stories. People want to hear how you can be of benefit to them and what you're bringing to the table. Prove to them that you're deserving of whatever position they are willing to give you in their lives.
You don't have to beg for it. You don't have to expect them to pity you and say something like, "Oh, he lost his parents at a young age, so let's give him the job." when you have not demonstrated that you are very fit for the role. You should demonstrate what you are already doing or what you have done which makes you relevant to other people.
Here is the ugly truth: Everyone expects something from you which could be of benefit to them. It could be your skills, time, money, attention, love or anything else. People want something from you always and they expect you to be able to give it to them. Then they too will be willing to meet your own expectations as well.
It's then a win-win situation for everyone. You are able to give expectant people what they want and they compensate you adequately for your contributions. Everyone is happy. But if you are expecting them to give you something for nothing or out of their pity for you. You're wasting your time.
Look.. There must be something you can give. Train yourself and your mind to always give it and opportunities will always be knocking at your door. Show the world that you're capable of giving them what they expect from you and the world will become your oyster. Don't wish for anyone to pity you.