Wednesday, May 6, 2020

What It Means To Be The Change


So there's this insight I'm getting in my mind right now and I just wanted to share:
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Some people think they can only change the world when they do the big things, like getting to some high govt positions, starting a global movement or inventing something that has never been seen before etc.
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But they forget that with every action we take everyday of our lives we are actually changing the world for every one of us. No matter how little or insignificant you think that action is.
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Some things as trivial as saying some comforting words to someone who's hurting, sharing opportunities that may be helpful to another person, smiling at someone and even just dropping a helpful comment to fix another person's problem are actually changing the world in many ways than we can imagine.
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Look back at your own life and see how your present situation is a function of the input of everyone you've come across. From you parents advice to the books you've read, movies, friends, colleagues, down to all the search results, blogs and articles you've been reading online.
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All of these things were changing you gradually without your awareness. Everyone's input played a role in shaping you. Change didn't just happen overnight. It's an iterative process.
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So the idea of waiting till we start something big, till we are presidents, ministers or human rights activists before we think we will be able to change the world is wrong.
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The quote "change begins with you" is deeper than what you see. If you want to change the world, it has to start from being conscious of the impact every action you decide to take now will influence the next person around you.
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You will begin to see how important leaving that review online really is, you will see how important helping someone else in their struggle really is, you can will care a little bit more than you do presently.
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Everything will begin to make sense to you and you will see that with every conscious action you take, you are changing the world in a million ways that you can't even imagine.. not just for the present generation.. but your impact will span generations to come.
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Let's be the change we wish to see in the world. I think we've complained enough already. I used to complain a lot about things not being right and all that. But I realized that people have been complaining years before I was even born.. some have died just complaining.
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I didn't just want to be a complainer. We already know our situation and what's obtainable in where we find ourselves.. so rather than keep complaining let's be the change ourselves by paying attention to the most little things that we do.. I've seen this approach work much more better than joining the complaining bandwagon.
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I'm not saying complaining is wrong. By all means complain(it helps release some of the anger in youπŸ˜†).. but you cannot be complaining forever.. don't dwell in the complaining phase! It's only losers that continue to complain and whine about everything at every time.
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You must go beyond complaining to doing! To being conscious of what you're doing.. To doing the best wherever you find yourself and have the emotional intelligence to see how your actions would affect your neighbor.
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That's how every one of us can go beyond complaining to making changes in today's world every single day.. less noise, more work. Together, I believe someday our conscious efforts to be the change will culminate into the kind of world we dream of.
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Think about it.
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#Nigel

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

Nobody Shows You What Happens Behind




Nobody will tell you that they have been applying to various opportunities and getting rejection mails..☹️ you will only hear the good news when the opportunity finally succeeds.πŸ™‚
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Nobody posts their ugly pictures 😣 on Facebook or IG.. they won't tell you how many pictures they must've have taken and deleted before settling for the one they finally post for you to see.😁
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Nobody tells you how many times they feel low, how many times they cry in private or how many times they feel like shit.πŸ˜– But whenever they come out to the public, you get to see happy, lively, charismatic and smiling faces.πŸ•ΊπŸ½
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No one posts pictures of when they were reading or studying hard to pass in school. But when the results come out, you will be the first to hear who got A, who got first class.. etc
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The entrepreneur will not tell you how many times he felt like quitting πŸ‘ŽπŸΌduring the early stages of his business..but when the business kicks off.. you will hear the net worth of the company!πŸ‘πŸ½
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A guy won't tell you when he was having sleepless nights and semi heartbreaks trying to woo his girl.πŸ’” But when the time reach, na the wedding invite you go see.πŸ’ž
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Point is.. we live a world where we mostly only get to see just the good end result of stuff. We usually don't get to see the full picture of what happens on the background or that failures even happen.. And that's why some people begin to erroneously think that things are easy for some people because they don't even know what is going on. They just assume.
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If you are allowed to know the full story behind most of the success stories that we like to hear, you will be surprised. You will see that there is really no point of feeling that you've not gotten there yet. 🀷🏼‍♀️You will even not see the need to envy anyone because everyone has got their own story.
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It's a wake up call to everyone who has allowed the things they can see to make them feel like it's their own situation that is the worst. There's a quote by Rafiki in Lion King I really like. He said "Look beyond what you see". Whatever you may be presently seeing is not really as real as what you believe and work towards achieving.
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Focus on doing your own little best in your own little world. If you're facing difficulties, know now that those difficulties aren't peculiar to you! The people who seem to be enjoying those things you want to enjoy today have faced those same difficulties before getting there. It's not something you can jump or hurry towards.
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If this post makes sense to at least one person, it has served its purpose.
#Nigel

Saturday, February 22, 2020

Where has our humanity gone?


When we were little kids, sometimes we will see a very dirty car parked outside and in our little minds, the stuff doesn't look right to us. Cars are supposed to be washed and taken care of. It looks absurd to us.
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So what comes to mind? We go closer, look left and right to confirm no one older is watching and we write "pls wash me." The ones with better GST skills will add "..I am dirty" to it. Plenty of us have been on this table.
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My mind cast back to this thing because I saw it today. As innocent children, there was a consciousness in us to at least attempt to make things right. If something doesn't look right, we tried to make it right by in this case "writing something". Thereby "speaking" on behalf of the vehicle to whoever owns it.
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This innate drive to make things better is why children don't keep grudges for too long. They play and quarrel, next minute, they're together again. Chaos and absurdity is naturally abnormal to them, so they keep drifting towards the ideal.
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As young adults, we begin to think that we've understood how the world is and how the government works. We try a few times to correct things and we fail, then we begin to accept that nothing else can be done about it. Why not leave things the way they are?
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We begin to develop a sort of indifference to things happening around us. And that's how our minds gradually starts becoming closed to stuff. Now you don't give a damn about most things. If no one's doing anything about it, why bother yourself?
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And without knowing it.. not caring about stuff starts becoming a way of life. Your neighbor is screaming out for help and you don't give a shit because it's not you or your family.
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It's now all about family first.. every other person can actually go to hell. We're desensitized to the plights of people around us. And all we're bothered about is our selfish interest. But when we need help, we expect people who are not family to come to our rescue, right?
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I don't know how we got here. But I hope the eyes of our humanity will be opened once again. A lil kid playing with other kids don't know which child is family, which child is white, black, Yoruba, hausa or Igbo or Christian, Muslim or traditionalist. A child just wants to play and be at peace with all men.
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Growing up, I think this has become a pipe dream. The more we think we've known, the more foolish we became.
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#Nigel

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