Friday, 24 February 2017
Don't Expect To Be Pitied
No one was born to be pitied. There is always a way forward in whatever anyone presently faces in his/her life right now. Don't expect to be pitied as a way out of it. Don't expect anyone to start feeling sorry for you and make the way for you.
You must make the way for yourself. If people will help you, that's fine, accept their help. If they don't want to help you, that's fine as well, you were not entirely depending on them. You just have to prove that you deserve whatever you want to get.
Sometimes when some people are talking maybe in a job interview, discussion, social gatherings or when they want something from someone, they start telling stories of how they lost their loved ones, how they were abandoned, how they are struggling and difficulties they face.
They keep talking about circumstances, what they've been through, their life and all what not. People don't really want to hear those stories. People want to hear how you can be of benefit to them and what you're bringing to the table. Prove to them that you're deserving of whatever position they are willing to give you in their lives.
You don't have to beg for it. You don't have to expect them to pity you and say something like, "Oh, he lost his parents at a young age, so let's give him the job." when you have not demonstrated that you are very fit for the role. You should demonstrate what you are already doing or what you have done which makes you relevant to other people.
Here is the ugly truth: Everyone expects something from you which could be of benefit to them. It could be your skills, time, money, attention, love or anything else. People want something from you always and they expect you to be able to give it to them. Then they too will be willing to meet your own expectations as well.
It's then a win-win situation for everyone. You are able to give expectant people what they want and they compensate you adequately for your contributions. Everyone is happy. But if you are expecting them to give you something for nothing or out of their pity for you. You're wasting your time.
Look.. There must be something you can give. Train yourself and your mind to always give it and opportunities will always be knocking at your door. Show the world that you're capable of giving them what they expect from you and the world will become your oyster. Don't wish for anyone to pity you.