Tuesday, 10 January 2017
Don't Be Too Self Conscious
By Nigel Ikechukwu at January 10, 2017
Have you ever been caught in that wide web of self consciousness? Where you go on worrying about your life, why it seems things are not going well with you, why you don't look like someone else or in their shoes and other possible questions.
How do you really feel when thinking about these things? The answer is obvious.. You don't feel happy. Anytime you're worried about just yourself and your own problems, you're unhappy.
Compare this with how you feel when you are thinking about how to help solve a problem. Or when you are absorbed in the things that are happening around you. Do you still feel unhappy?
For example, let's say you're working with a team to tackle health challenges in a part of the world. You'd get to feel so alive and have a good feeling that you're contributing to a better world.
Or let's say you're listening to a comedian, you will laugh, forget your own self and have a good time. You won't ever feel bad because you're actively engaged in something. Whatever it is.
Self consciousness keeps us from that engagement and makes us just worry about our individual lives. Everyone you see has their own individual problems, worrying about it doesn't help help either you or them! It is engagement that keeps you living healthy and happy.
Some people are worried about how they look. Their mind tells them that they're not so attractive or ugly and this makes them feel bad and keep away from living fully.
Others worry about why it seems they have all the problems in the world while some others keep asking why they had to be born in certain backgrounds or parts of the world.
Do these questions that make us self conscious and unhappy really matter more than staying happy through engagements? This is a question we should all ask ourselves. And I think our happiness should be top priority.
Why become too self conscious of things that you cannot change? If you don't appreciate the way you look, why should you keep thinking about it? Can you change it? And who ever told you that we are not all unique and perfect the way we are?
If you've been born in a place or country which you don't like, why should you worry about why you were born there? You're already there, so the best you can do is engage yourself with something meaningful and see if you can change environment in future.
Instead of being self conscious, let us rather get busy with things that will keep us in a healthy state of mind. What would you like to offer to the world that would make you feel great? What would you like to do to have a good time?
How can you change someone's life today? What can you do to make a contribution? How can I solve some of the problems faced around the world? These are questions that can help us find meaningful things to engage our minds in.
You're 1 person out of over 7 billion people on the planet. If you're just too self conscious about yourself and your problems, you won't be able to occupy yourself with what really matters.
The way you look, where you were born, what people will think of you, your personal difficulties and the rest of them don't matter as much as your personal happiness and making a meaningful contribution.
Get out from that self absorbed habit and become more aware of the biggest and most important issues. Don't dwell on yourself. Think Big! Engage!